To the Parents Whose Children Receive a New Hearing Loss Diagnosis

I understand how you may be feeling. I have been there.

I am here to tell you… it is going to be OK.

Yes, it may be challenging and you may find yourself thinking you aren’t made for this kind of stuff. But, you’ve got this.

Right now you might be feeling sad. You may be grieving the parenthood you imagined you would have. And those feelings are probably filling you up.

But you will soon move through the grief and accept your child for exactly who they were designed to be. These mixed emotions don’t mean you have less love for your baby. Rather, it means you are human.

Give yourself grace as you process the unexpected nature of this new diagnosis and then roll your sleeves up and get to work.

You may be fearing what the future holds for your child. Perhaps you are worried whether or not they will be capable of achieving their goals and dreams.

Will they make friends? What will it be like to grow up with hearing loss?

You may be worried because you do not know what to expect.

What you will soon learn is the sky will be the limit. Hearing loss will not inhibit your child’s ability to be an excellent student, a compassionate friend, a kind human and a thriving adolescent, teen, young adult.

They can play sports, learn an instrument, write a novel and surf epic waves.

What I know for sure is there may be seasons when it feels hard. Really hard. But, those seasons will pass.

You may fear no one will understand what you are going through, the gravity of it all. But, you will surround yourself with experts who guide you through the process. You will create a team of advocates who ensure your child is not limited. You will learn who your true friends are and make new ones, too. This circle will help you feel less alone.

You will fight for your child’s rights and access to a first-rate education. You will ensure they are seen and heard. This will reveal a strength and determination you never knew existed.

And your child will learn to be resilient, adaptable and empathetic. Because their journey will not be a typical one, they will develop grit and courage.

You will eventually sit back and marvel at how far — in what seems like a blink of an eye — they have come.

At this moment, you may be overwhelmed by the choices in communication modalities, technology, and be confused by the varying opinions of others.

You will figure it out.

There truly is no one-size-fits-all way to navigate this journey. It is unique to you and your child. And as long as you are loving and accepting, it will be alright.

New parents, I want you to know that no matter how many times you feel judged or feel the lack of empathy from others, you have the power to keep spreading awareness and acceptance. You have an opportunity to educate and make the world a more inclusive, tolerant place.

Hearing loss can be intimidating in the beginning. But once you get your footing and educate yourself, you will see it as a small part of your baby. They are more than this. They are still whole. Remarkable. And amazing.

New parents, know you’ve got this! Your child — because of your love — will succeed. Keep setting the bar high and your child will exceed expectations.

The sky will be the limit.

A version of this story first appeared on My Battle Call.

Find this story helpful? Share it with someone you care about.

Related to Deafness

Mother smiling at camera between her two children, who are smiling to the side. The ocean is behind them.

6 Comments I Do Not Want to Hear as a Parent of Kids With Hearing Loss

Raising kids is hard. Add a diagnosis of hearing loss and you might find yourself thinking parenting is not for the faint of heart. My children were born with needs categorized as “special.” They look like typical kids (with the exception of their devices) but they don’t hear like those with natural hearing. Understanding and [...]
Marlee Matlin wearing a black turtle neck and Nyle DiMarco on the VMAs red carpet.

Director John Leonetti Criticized by Deaf Community for Upcoming Horror Film 'The Silence'

“The Silence,” a horror film that uses a hearing actress in a deaf role, is set to premiere in December, but an interview with director John Leonetti from November is circulating again following criticism from Deaf model Nyle DiMarco and Deaf actress Marlee Matlin. In his interview with The Hollywood Reporter, Leonetti said Kiernan Shipka, the [...]
Nyle DiMarco in a silver suit on a red carpet; Cochise Zornoza and Noah Centineo both wearing sweatshirts with Zornoza holding a football.

Deaf Community Not Happy With Netflix's Use of a Deaf Actor in 'Sierra Burgess Is a Loser'

Following its premiere Friday, Netflix’s latest romantic comedy “Sierra Burgess Is a Loser” faced backlash for scenes viewers have called transphobic, fat shaming, homophobic and more. One scene, which includes deaf actor Cochise Zornoza, is under fire for using deafness for a joke. Zornoza plays Ty, the little brother of Noah Centineo’s character Jamey. Ty, like [...]
Left to right: Millicent Simmonds and Noah Jupe in A QUIET PLACE, from Paramount Pictures.

How 'A Quiet Place' Breaks the Mold in Its Depiction of Disability

Having seen “The Intouchables,” a fantastic film, I feel little need to go see most films about disability. I won’t be watching “Don’t Worry, He Won’t Get Far On Foot.” Gus Van Sant is a good filmmaker, I like Joaquin Phoenix, and John Callahan was a great cartoonist. Still, I’ve seen “The Intouchables” so I [...]