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When People Say 'You’re Too Pretty to Be Disabled'

Recently, a guy told me that I was “too pretty to be disabled.” It’s something I’ve heard before and something I think most disabled women have heard before. This statement is quite possibly one of the most annoying things I have ever heard.

Telling someone they’re “too pretty to be disabled” is offensive, at least to me and some of my disabled friends. It’s as if you think disabled people can’t be “pretty.”

What does disabled look like to you? Do you just see one thing? Disability affects us all in different ways. It changes some of our appearances, and others it doesn’t. It isn’t a one size fits all.

I have many disabled friends and they’re beautiful, both inside and out. Disabilities included. Our disabilities are a part of us and that’s one thing that will never change.

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