It’s not always easy to understand someone with anxiety. Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do or how to react. Even though there’s no secret formula, there are a few ways you can help someone you love when they’re anxious.
1. Be Patient
When you have anxiety, it’s difficult to be patient — sometimes it feels impossible. When you date someone with anxiety, like me, I need you to have the patience I sometimes lack. Your patience helps put me at ease in those anxious moments. When you’re patient with me, it’s easier for me to gather and regroup myself, taking a little bit of the pressure off.
2. Reassure Me
There will be times I need a little extra attention and a few words of encouragement when I’m feeling low. Don’t be surprised if I repeatedly ask you things like, “Do you love me?” Or, “Are we OK?” What’s going on inside my head is sometimes so overwhelming I just need some extra love and reassurance, telling me everything is fine.
3. Always Listen
My head is typically swarming with thoughts and I have a hard time processing them all. Sometimes I just need to get it out and talk through my feelings. I understand you won’t always have a solution and that’s OK; I just want someone to hear me and listen to what I’m going through.
4. Be Flexible
With anxiety comes indecision, and I need someone who’s along for the ride. Sometimes I feel frozen and I need a little boost when I’m anxious. When you’re flexible, it eases my anxiety when I don’t always know my next move.
5. Accept Me
I don’t want to be anxious, and even though I try, it’s not always something I can help. It’s important that you love me for who I am and accept the good with the bad. I need someone to motivate me and love me, especially when I’m not at my best.
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