I'm Disabled and I'm Taking Sexy Back

How many people in wheelchairs would you define as fashionable? Go a step further. How many would you say are sexy or sensual? What about you? Even if you aren’t in a wheelchair but use a rollator or a cane, are you feeling sexy these days? Do you feel like you are allowed to be?

Forget about feeling like crap and feeling too tired to look good. Say you did have the energy, how would you feel about looking hot in a wheelchair? Do you notice that most disabled people just fade into the background? It’s like they make us turn in our sexuality card in exchange for our disabled parking placard.

I remember quite vividly one trip to the mall. My daughter and husband were at the food court. I had wanted to stay a bit longer at a store and I was to meet them. I was looking hot that day, awesome outfit, make up on point, I was feeling good. As I was rolling down the hall, I noticed a guy checking me out, but as soon as he realized he had been caught he looked away with such guilt, like he wasn’t quite sure if it was OK to see a woman in a wheelchair as a sexual being. Hell, as long as it’s me turning you on and not my wheelchair then we are good!

Why are we not allowed to be sexy, sensual beings just because we have a disability or chronic illness? Why must we blend into the wallpaper and be bland? Why are we letting this happen and accepting it?

We are strong people; we have handled so much many others could not have. Strong is sexy. We have researched our symptoms and found answers when our doctors could not. We are smart; intelligence is sexy as hell. Seems to me that we’ve just lost a bit of confidence.

So I bared all in the hope that it would inspire others to find their own sensuality, that they can look into the mirror and see their sexy, sassy side. My hope is that people will decide to stop blending in and start claiming who they are.