The Mighty Logo

Why We Need to Change Our Expectations When it Comes to Illness

The most helpful emails in health
Browse our free newsletters

As a child, I was taught that certain things become expectations as we grow older. Things we learn to take for granted.

• What is Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome?
• What Are Common Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome Symptoms?

Things like when you go to the doctor the expectation is that they will cure you with medication or a procedure. Everyone with that illness will be treated the same way and generally with the same medication. When you have Elhers-Danlos syndrome, post orthostatic tachycardia syndrome, mast cell activation disorder, or a slew of any other chronic conditions, that’s not the case.

I think our expectations have to change, that they need to be adjusted to fit our circumstance. The truth is that chronic conditions such as these will not be cured in most cases. They will be managed, but being managed is not a cure. Not everyone with these conditions will be treated the same. Not everyone will get the same medication. Not everyone will respond to the treatment the same. Not everyone will have the same experience with the same doctor. There is no rhyme or reason for this. Perhaps it’s personality, perhaps it’s just an off day for the doctor or the patient. We really don’t know.

Since there is no cure, I believe we have to think of what we expect from the visit. That’s a hard thing to do. What we want is a cure and many of us can’t have it. So adjust. Really think of what you want. Do you want to be able to accomplish more during a typical day? A medication with less side effects? Less pain?

What are you willing to give up to get your expectations? Are you willing to do less but feel less pain? Are you willing to endure more pain to accomplish more? Are you willing to make radical changes to your diet? To your lifestyle?

It’s all about adjusting your expectations. Adjusting your expectations allows you to have some peace of mind, and some control. Sometimes by not adjusting your expectations, that leads to frustration, depression and a fear and distrust of doctors and medicine.

So, I advice that we all adjust our expectations and live the life we’ve been given.

Thinkstock Image By: fona2

Originally published: September 13, 2017
Want more of The Mighty?
You can find even more stories on our Home page. There, you’ll also find thoughts and questions by our community.
Take Me Home