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You Don't Need to Apologize for Having a Chronic Illness

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When you stop apologizing for things that are out of your control, you often gain a new sense of freedom. You didn’t ask for this illness, you didn’t put this upon yourself and there’s nothing you could have done to prevent it. Things happen to us and sometimes there’s no real reason for it. We don’t deserve the pain, the sleepless nights and the unanswered questions but that doesn’t mean it’ll all just go away. Our chronic invisible illness is a life thing and we are the ones who have to live with it every single day.

So why apologize? This illness can bring such a huge burden that we have to carry with us… why do we make it harder on ourselves? Why do we feel the need to feel guilty and apologize for this illness?

We are human. We are sick. We have chronic pain. We have good days and bad days. Many of us struggle in silence. That’s us. You. Me. Many of the people around you don’t live every day with chronic pain. The people who criticize your every move have never lived a day in your shoes. Some doctors may take off their white coat at night and forget all about us. While people drop harsh comments on us then go on with their lives, we are often stuck feeling guilty. We may spend most of our days apologizing over and over until we sound like a broken record on repeat… why?

Why should we feel sorry for living? We hardly get to enjoy a day with little or no pain… so why should we spend those days explaining ourselves and apologizing for trying to enjoy the little joy we get to have?

No more! Be free! Your illness does not define you and neither do the negative people in this world. We are fighters, we are survivors, we are warriors. We deserve to laugh, to smile, to live freely as often as we possibly can.

Find something you enjoy and keep at it. Never give up on the things that bring you joy in life, especially when you have to fight like hell on the bad days. Always make your good days worth remembering.

Don’t let negativity steal your shine, you got this. Rise up.

Originally published: April 2, 2018
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