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What Happens When You Ghost Someone With Anxiety

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I’m not sure what’s up with this generation, but for some reason, ghosting is the new norm. Whether it’s in relationships or friendships, it’s easier to not respond or fade away than to be upfront with people.

But for someone like me, with generalized anxiety disorder, ghosting leaves me questioning things and broken for weeks.

My greatest examples of ghosting involve guys in my life. They were friends but also a little more than friends if we’re being real. They were people I was close with, whom I cared for, and who I thought cared for me.

But for some reason, they stopped talking to me. Without any warning. Without a closing statement. Without any goodbye.

Now, goodbyes have always been hard for me, but not having closure… I think that’s worse.

Because when you have anxiety, you are constantly asking “what if” and questioning yourself. You wonder if you did something wrong. What if they think I’m a horrible person? What if they doubt my abilities? What if they tell people that I’m the worst? What if I never hear from them again?

These are the things I think to myself. Because closure is important. It keeps things within my control. It eliminates the uncertainty that surrounds me daily.

But our world doesn’t always give us closure, and people ghost us. It took me three times with the same person for me to finally walk away. It took me that many times to decide I’m worth more than the ghosting.

And you are too. Don’t let your anxiety decide how you feel about your relationships or about yourself. Be confident in who you are. People come and go, but you remain. You are resilient and brave, and don’t let ghosting tell you any differently.

And if you’re out there reading this, don’t ghost someone with anxiety. Just don’t ghost anyone ever.

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Originally published: July 16, 2019
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