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A bereaved parents shares a list of rights she feels she should have as she grieves the loss of her son.

Transcription:

The Bill of Rights of Parents Who Have Lost a Child

I have the right to grieve for however long I need to, even if others think I should “get over it.”

I have the right to mention my child, even if it makes others uncomfortable.

I have the right to find comfort in my faith, even if others disagree with what I believe.

I have the right to treasure my children’s pictures and belongings, even if some think I should hide them away or discard them.

I have the right to not share things about my child that I hold close to my heart, even if others think I should.

I have the right to cry, even if it embarrasses someone who is with me.

I have the right to smile, even if some think I shouldn’t.

I have the right to visit my child’s grave and remain there as long as I need and want to, even if others would prefer I be elsewhere.

I have the right to not have to explain to others what it feels like to have buried my child, even if another wants to know.

I have the right to express my sorrow in whatever artistic matter I choose, even if others don’t like my expression.

I have the right to violate my own rights at any time, even if some make accusations when I do so.

Written by Jude Gibbs

Originally published: October 9, 2017
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