When Lupus Makes You Cancel Your Plans

I planned to get a lot done today. I wanted to start prepping my vegetable garden beds for the fall while we had some nice weather today, move the remainder of my potted plants into the house, get some cleaning done around the house, and make some progress on my crochet Christmas presents for people.

Like I said, this is what I had planned for the day – but this is not what the day had planned for me.

As soon as I woke up I knew things were not going to go as I expected. You see, I have had a terrible week… my joints have been more achy than normal, I had a massive migraine after an infusion on Tuesday, I had a few days of my pericarditis along with some palpitations rearing its ugly head, and I’ve just been feeling more run down than normal. Then this morning I woke up feeling exhausted, my joints screaming, and a low-grade fever… all signs of the beginning of a lupus flare.

Rather than getting to everything on my to-do list, I moved the plants inside, took a shower, brushed my teeth, put on a pair of sweats and favorite “flare day” T-shirt and climbed back into bed. I’ve got my computer, my favorite rose water spray, lots of fluids, and Netflix… everything I need to take it easy and rest today.

This is one of the things about lupus that has been very tough for me to come to grips with. You can have as many plans, schedules, and timetables as you want, but when lupus tells you you’re not doing anything today – you’re not doing anything today. And that’s exactly what you need.

I look at lupus as a relapsing, remitting illness, in the sense that you will have days and weeks when you’re able to get things done. You may have some aches, pains and fatigue, but you’ll be able to manage your symptoms – then, out of nowhere, you will relapse by having a flare-up, and your symptoms will knock you on your ass. No matter how much you fight it and push back against it, those bad days are going to come. There’s nothing you can do about it and fighting it only makes it worse. Because of this, you have to learn how to ride the wave. Take advantage of the good days, but be able to let go of plans, expectations, and judgment when those bad days arrive.

Lupus is a disease where your body is, in the simplest terms, attacking itself. When you get the flu, part of the reason for the fatigue you feel (and the reason you are told to rest) is because your antibodies are fighting against the foreign invaders, trying to rid your body of the bad stuff. When you have lupus, those same antibodies and your connective tissue are attacking you, leaving you feeling flu-like symptoms on top of whatever way lupus affects you. So, as you can imagine, with all that going on in your body – you need to rest and recuperate when your body calls for it.

Being able to take each day as it comes and accept your body’s fluctuating limitations is such an important lesson for anyone struggling with lupus, or any type of chronic illness. There will be days where you have to cancel plans. There will days where dirty dishes will have to sit, piled up in the sink. There are times when you’re going to have to use that grocery delivery service, rather than running out to the store. There are times when the most you will be able to do is brush your teeth and move from the bed to the couch.

You have to be willing to let go of what you thought you were going to accomplish that day and remind yourself that these things are not selfish, lazy, or whatever judgment your brain comes up with. This is what is going to get you to those “remission” days quicker. So if, like me, you are in a full blown flare, or your chronic illness has you feeling run down, grab a blanket, put your feet up and bust out the Netflix… this is exactly what you are supposed to be doing today!

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