18 Honest Facebook Statuses People Want to Post When They're Lonely, but Don't

There are a lot of reasons people don’t open up about feeling lonely — especially in the moments they feel the loneliest.

Sometimes it’s the fear that people will think you’re the kind of person no one would want to be friends with. Sometimes it’s self-shame, believing if you say “I’m lonely” out loud, it means you are “pathetic” or a “loser.” Sometimes it’s because you’re afraid people will think you’re an “attention-seeker.”

If it can be that hard to just admit you’re feeling lonely, imagine how much harder it can be to post about it on social media — where there’s the potential to be “ignored publicly” if people don’t respond.

We wanted to know what honest Facebook statuses people who are feeling lonely want to post, but don’t, so we turned to our Mighty community. Below you can read what they shared.

It’s important to remember everyone experiences loneliness at some point — even the ones who don’t “seem” like they would. People who seem to “have it all together” get lonely. People who are married or in long-term relationships get lonely. People who have loving and supportive families get lonely.

If you are struggling with loneliness and don’t know where to turn, I encourage you to check out the three pieces below. No matter how lonely you feel, I want you to know you are worthy of love and support.

• 101 Self-Care Suggestions for When It All Feels Like Too Much
• 6 Tips for When Your Mental Health Is Going Downhill
• 4 Depression Self-Care Tips for When You Literally Cannot

Here are honest Facebook statuses people who feel lonely want to post, but don’t:

1. “Can someone please just check up on me? Like actually talk to me instead of assuming you know everything from my Facebook page? I’m so open about my depression, but no one checks in.” — Samie J.
2. “I want to post everything I’m feeling but I don’t want to look like I’m doing it for attention. I just want help.” — Chris W.
3. “When I message you saying ‘Hey, how are you?’ I am not looking for a two minute conversation — I am looking for someone to talk to. Not even about what’s bothering me — I don’t want to keep talking about that — just to talk. Tell me about your day, tell me about the prat who you saw run a red light, tell me about how your Starbucks was extra chocolatey — just talk to me. I need you to Just. Talk. To. Me.” — Leigh H.
4. “Even though I’m married, I still feel very lonely.” — Robert R.
5. “I’m sorry I’ve been in hiding. It’s been tough. But please don’t forget about me.” — Felicia C.
6. “‘I have depression and psychosis. I feel terribly guilty, worthless and helpless. I hate myself. But I want to love myself and stay living… I hope you understand.’ People in my country still don’t quite understand mental illness yet even though the government health ministry started to focus on mental health long time ago, since Chester Bennington’s death. And it scares me to open up about my illness. I’m afraid they might think I’m just seeking attention. So far, only my three best friends know about this.” — Fithriyaani Y.
7. “I am not OK. Please look at me — really look at me — and realize for once I am holding back tears. Solitude is my best friend and my thoughts have taken my over my mental health completely. Please just look at me.” — Jenifer P.
8. “I have literally posted this and then deleted it because I was scared/nervous/embarrassed. ‘Is anyone available to hang out? I’m struggling with feeling alone, and I don’t know what else to do.’ It seems simple and not a big deal, but people just don’t post these kinds of things. Everyone says to not be afraid to reach out, but they don’t do it, so it seems like you’re the only one who can’t handle life if you tell people how you really feel.” — Julia W.
9. “I’m lonely, and need help.” — Rhys M.
10. “I am a survivor, but in the process I lost a lot of you guys. I left him and I’m safe, but I feel alone. I want you back in my life, even if I don’t answer texts or seem standoffish. Please keep trying and loving me — I just need some time to heal. I’d like your support and I need it, [but] I just don’t know how to ask.” — Stephanie W.
11. “I could really use companionship. No friends in this city. Just me and my thoughts.” — Erik M.
12. “I just need someone to hold me and tell me everything’s gonna be OK.” — Megan D.
13. “Give me attention please. I feel like I’m suffocating. I don’t feel anything right now and I’m afraid I’m going to do something dangerous in order to feel any emotion.” — Katelyn G.
14. “Could somebody just call me and ask me how I am?” — Jason G.
15. “I lie to you guys almost every second of every day. My smile is a lie, my laughter is a lie, I’m really not OK.” — Heather F.
16. “I know it looks like I’ve got this, but y’all, I really don’t. I’m just not sure how much longer I can do this.” — Jessica P.
17. “Hug me. Just hug me so I don’t feel so alone for a minute. I need your support even if I never usually act like I do. I need it. I crave it.” — Jade D.
18. “I am tired of pretending I am strong all the time.” — Jenn T.

If you experience loneliness on a frequent basis, you’re not alone. We are so grateful you’re here and in our community. If you’re struggling, we encourage you to post a Thought or Question about it on the site to get support from other people in our community who get it.