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If you have experienced emotional abuse, the following post could be potentially triggering. You can contact the Crisis Text Line by texting “START” to 741741.

I want to start off by saying this… 

Ye (formerly known as Kanye West) has been public with certain aspects of his mental health journey. He’s confirmed to have bipolar disorder, and has been in and out of psychiatric hospitals throughout the years.  As I’m not in his personal life, I can’t say what is or isn’t, nor can I diagnose him, and that’s not the purpose of this story. 

Now that that’s out the way, I understand the mental health community’s mixed feelings about Ye. He hasn’t been the most uplifting form of representation for the mental health community, Black community, and every pillar in between. I understand Ye and Kardashian “fatigue,” but we need to talk about his current behavior after separating from his wife, Kim Kardashian, and why regardless of what you think about either party, you should care about what’s happening.

If you’re looking for a run down on the breakup timeline, Cosmo has this great in depth explainer. I definitely think it’s worth checking out for full context. I will be consistently referring to that article, so it’s worth the read.

Let’s start from the beginning:

Once upon a time, Kim and Ye were very much in love once upon a time. Ye has doted on her publicly, giving her huge (and expensive) displays of love. We’re talking about Cartier bracelets that cost as much as a downpayment on a house, a multi million dollar engagement ring, multiple occasions where he gave her entire rooms and spaces decked out in bountiful blooms, stocks, cars, serenades, you name it. Before things went sour, this is what I always thought of when I saw the two. Big, loud, I don’t care who sees it, L-O-V-E, love.

If you’ve ever been in a toxic and/or abusive relationship, you remember when it wasn’t bad. When it was gifts and admiration and love and they made you feel special and wanted. We saw all of this real time over the past almost decade, and that’s what makes his current behavior so scary and concerning. 

ICYMI, Kim was on SNL this past fall and kissed Pete Davidson in a skit. Ye was there and reportedly wasn’t happy about the kiss. What no one expected was for Kim and Pete to start hanging out and eventually date after that night. Around that same time, Ye officially announced he wanted to stay married and that would have a domino effect of him trying to seemingly win her over, when in reality it’s really using the public eye, manipulation, and coercion to force a reunion that is not wanted by both parties, but we’ll get more into that later.

He’s publicly declared that God will bring them together again, and it’ll influence thousands of families, utilizing divinity as a driving reason and force for their reunion. Because, that’s healthy, right? (Yes, I’m being sarcastic)

Afterwards, Ye showed another major declaration of “love” at a concert he was performing at, name dropping Kim in his song which caused her name to trend on Twitter. A source close to the family responded that Kim was “embarrassed” by the grand statements of “love.” I think it’s safe to assume that means she was uncomfortable and wanted the behavior to stop, but it didn’t. His actions didn’t stop her from still continuing on with the divorce proceedings, however it’s been said that Ye was delaying divorce because he was being “unresponsive.”

Then, he bought a house directly across the street from hers. Definitely not weird, right? (Still being sarcastic)

Following all of this (stay with me) there was a misunderstanding at their daughter’s birthday.

Kim finally broke her silence with a post from her story that said:

“Kanye’s constant attacks on me in interviews and on social media is actually more hurtful than any TikTok North might create. As the parent who is the main provider and caregiver for our children, I am doing my best to protect our daughter while also allowing her to express her creativity in the medium that she wishes with adult supervision—because it brings her so much happiness.

Divorce is difficult enough on our children and Kanye’s obsession with trying to control and manipulate our situation so negatively and publicly is only causing further pain for all. From the beginning, I have wanted nothing but a healthy and supportive co-parenting relationship because it is what is best for our children and it saddens me that Kanye continues to make it impossible every step of the way.”

When Kim responded to the misunderstanding, Ye popped off in a since deleted post to his Instagram stating the following:

“What do you mean by main provider? America saw you try to kidnap my daughter on her birthday by not providing the address. You put security on me inside of the house to play with my son then accused me of stealing. I had to take a drug test after Chicago’s party ’cause you accused me of being on drugs. Tracy Romulus, stop manipulating Kim to be this way….”

Side note: If you don’t know, Tracy Romulus is Kim’s PR person.

Do you need to drink some water? Get some snacks? We’re almost to the end of this, promise.

Since all of this, Ye has since broken up with his girlfriend (oh yeah, he was actively dating during all of this) Julia Fox, and started posting Instagram post after Instagram post about Kim and their relationship. He’s posted memes about Pete (who he referred to as “Skete”) Davidson, to the extent that Kim had to beg him to stop so harm wouldn’t come to Pete. He posted those text screenshots as well, for the record. He also delivered a truck of roses to Kim’s house for Valentine’s Day. As of me sitting down to write this article, all of the memes and posts are gone to be replaced with two grid posts. 

Here’s the first one which is an apology for his behavior:

The caption reads:

“I’ve learned that using all caps makes people feel like I’m screaming at them. I’m working on my communication. I can benefit from a team of creative professionals, organizers, mobilizers and community leaders. Thank everybody for supporting me. I know sharing screenshots was jarring and came off as harassing Kim. I take accountability. I’m still learning in real time. I don’t have all the answers. To be a good leader is to be a good listener.”

Twitter has come to the consensus that his PR team finally found his Instagram password and took his account away from them, and as funny as that image is, none of this is laughable. 

If you haven’t picked up on the scarlet red flags above, I’ll spell the biggest ones out for you:

Ye was continually harassing Kim on the internet to the extent that he had to give a public apology.

He was trying to use public pressure to manipulate the situation and his part in all of it.

In all of his interviews and statements, there’s a constant denial of Kim’s reality (from what we can tell) which can be considered gaslighting only to be followed by more gifts and compliments, aka love bombing.

He’s created an environment that is hazardous and chaotic not just for Kim, but also their shared children who have to sadly watch all of this play out. If they don’t know now, they’ll be able to google it in a couple years and that’s still traumatic. 

If you have ever tried to leave an abusive situation where the person refuses to accept your departure, then you see what’s happening and how dangerous this is. For some, this type of situation can be deadly.

This is terrifying for anyone who has been in an abusive situation. Imagine if you tried to get a divorce or leave an abusive family member and they move across the street from you and then won’t stop talking about you to everyone you know, spreading rumors and potential lies?

Whether you like, love, or hate the Kardashian name, no one deserves this treatment – not Kim, nor her kids. 

And before someone comments, saying something about their financial privilege, abuse is still abuse and manipulation is still manipulation whether there’s five comma signs attached or none. Yes, she has more resources available than the average person, but so does he and he’s using said money and power in terrifying ways.

Now of course, I could be wrong, but picking up from past Instagram captions and interviews, it appears that he feels 100% justified in his behavior. That’s even scarier because there’s no discerning voice saying “Maybe I’m doing the wrong thing.” 

Survivors all around the world are seeing his behavior and they’re triggered because they’ve been there before. It’s easy to roll your eyes because they’re celebrities, but I need to make something very clear – Kim and Ye may never see your Facebook posts or Tweets saying “Who cares?” but your friends and family members who have been through abusive situations will. 

Regardless of your feelings, please care. Care about people in toxic and nasty situations that borderline abuse, and pray that this has a decent ending, at least for those kids.

Lead image courtesy of Ye’s Instagram account

Originally published: February 16, 2022
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