16 Messages to People With Depression, From Their Friends


When a friend is deep in depression, words often aren’t enough to pull them out. But, words can offer hope, remind someone it’s OK to speak up, and help make sure nobody feels like they’re completely alone.

So, we asked people in our Mighty community to share a message to someone they love who has depression.

You or a friend might need to hear this today:

1. “I would never ask you to wear a mask for me in order to hide what you’re going through. I love you, no matter what.”

"I would never ask you to wear a mask for me in order to hide what you're going through. I love you, no matter what."

2. “I know today may seem insurmountable, but never forget the friendship we share is vital to me. I’m always going to try my best to help you find some semblance of normalcy, but I know depression can be draining, and ‘normal’ may not be possible right now.”

3. “Just remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending.”

4. “I love you. Nothing you do is going to change that. I’m always here with anything you need. I know it doesn’t feel like you deserve it, but believe me you do!”

5. “Depression is telling you a boldface lie and dressing it as truth.”

 "Depression is telling you a boldface lie and dressing it as truth."

6. “You are stronger than you believe or feel in this moment. Keep fighting.”

7. “I’m always here for you. No matter what.”

8. “There’s a dark cloud covering the great sun you are. After it lifts, you’ll be shining.”

"There's a dark cloud covering the great sun you are. After it lifts, you'll be shining."

9. “I still love you. Depression will never change that.”

10. “As someone who suffers from depression myself, I would tell them: ‘It’s OK. It’s OK to feel what you’re feeling. It’s OK to ask for help. It’s OK to want to be alone. It’s OK to scream and cry and it’s OK to laugh.’ True friends will be there to talk, to help and sometimes just to sit with you and not say anything.”

11. “You’re not alone. Hang on!”

12. “I have been, and still am at times, where you are at right now. I understand. You are loved. Your pain and sorrow will pass, even though it feels like it won’t.”

"I have been, and still am at times, where you are at right now. I understand. You are loved. Your pain and sorrow will pass, even though it feels like it won't."

13. “Call me any time, day or night.”

14. “I will always be your friend and love you. Your life is important to me. I know it’s hard to believe that during the dark times, but I’m right here to help you through.”

15. “I can see you struggling. Sometimes I don’t know what to say or do to help, but know I will always do whatever I can to support you. You’re my friend; you matter so much to me.”

16. “We will get through this together.”

"We will get through this together."

*Answers have been edited and shortened.

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