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Why You Should Remember That Everyone's Battle With Mental Illness Is Different

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I’ve heard so many times lately — from friends and casual acquaintances — that since they were able to do X, Y or Z, I can do it too. This has been in regards to a lot of different areas in my life, but especially in regards to my battle with multiple mental illnesses. And in all honesty, that argument is getting old. It has no real logical standing.

What is possible for one person is not always possible for someone else, for a variety of complex reasons. Humans are complicated — so are mental illnesses. It’s not that I don’t appreciate the sentiment, but I think what often gets forgotten is that we all are fighting our own battles, we are all living our own stories and we are all doing the best we can to survive. What looks like self-destruction to one person may be the only thing holding someone else together. Recovery from any mental illness does not have a one-size-fits-all solution. What might be extremely beneficial for one person living with a mental illness might not be beneficial, might possibly even be harmful, for another.

Mental illnesses are biologically-based, genetically-influenced, family-influenced and society-influenced. Many people have gone through some kind of trauma which only adds to the complexity. Not everyone has a supportive and understanding family or has found the right combination of medication. Not everyone has found a reason to live. Not everyone has the same access to treatment options. Not all treatment options work for everyone. A lot of people have to deal with a whole pile of different diagnoses. There are so many factors, so many variables. Two people with the same diagnoses are not automatically both guaranteed to recover because of the same sort of treatment.

Mental illness affects people in so many different ways. It can be completely debilitating, making the smallest task seem insurmountable. The message I hear — even if it’s not what is intended — when someone tells me if they can recover then I can too, is that they are saying I’m not trying hard enough; if I was truly trying then I too could be recovered. I hear I must not have it as bad as they did. I hear that my repeated attempts at recovery haven’t been good enough. And that’s just not the reality. I have tried so many different things at so many different points in time. I have fought with everything I had in me and I still hear it was not good enough because I’m not recovered. Not every story ends in “they lived happily ever.” That just isn’t life, especially with mental illness. The truth is many people with mental illness do recover, but there are also some who don’t. And it’s not for lack of trying or some kind of weakness. It just is what it is, especially when it comes to eating disorders.

I’m not saying the answer is to give up, to stop fighting and to just admit defeat, although I know some days all I feel is defeated. And I don’t really have an answer — more just a plea for compassion, for empathy and for people to stop assuming we are all going to recover. The statistics say otherwise. Please know that, when it doesn’t look like I’m fighting, I am truly fighting my hardest just to hang on. I don’t need you to tell me everything is going to be OK, that I’m going to be OK and one day I’ll be able to say “I made it.” I just need you to love me and have compassion for me as I am, right now.

Please know, I am so glad you are making it to the other side, or have fought your way there because I know you have fought incredibly hard to get to where you are. Please know too though, that I am also fighting incredibly hard. My fight may not look like yours did but I’m still fighting with everything I have in me left to fight with.

I am trying; I really need you to believe me when I say I am trying.

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The Pros and Cons of Using Online Therapy App 'Talkspace'

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Talkspace is an online and mobile therapy app which matches you up with a licensed therapist for $128 a month. You’re able to communicate with them almost 24/7 through texting, voice or video calls. It’s a great app for someone who is on the go or if they prefer typing over being face to face. I’ve always been a writer more than a speaker so I fell into the latter category of Talkspace users. In the past year of using this app, I’ve been through three different therapists and have seen both the pros and cons of this modern day tool.

After seeing regular therapists face to face off and on for almost ten years, I needed something different. Talking in person began to trigger me as I approached tougher subjects, so I needed to find a way to respect my own boundaries while still getting the help I needed. In this kind of situation, using Talkspace really paid off and it allowed me to discuss the things I couldn’t vocalize in a less nerve-wracking manner. Below you will find my top pros and cons of this app.

Pros

1. It’s convenient.
This was the main selling point for me. I needed someone I could talk to immediately, so I could relieve my friends of my spam texts due to my spiraling. There is no limit or bad time to text your therapist. You can write them a damn novel if you want and they’ll still be there to respond. Granted, it will take them a while to reply if you do write a lot, but there will always be a response in my experience. Always.

2. You’re able to switch therapists whenever you want.
When you first create an account on the app, you meet with a representative who asks you a few questions about your mental health and what you look for in a therapist. Once that conversation is done, they take all of the information and match you with a therapist who they feel would best suit you. If by any chance this match doesn’t work out in the end, that’s totally fine. You’re able to go into the settings tab and click “change therapist” and you will be asked what they can do to find you a better fit. There is no limit (that I know of) to how many times you can change therapists. (Personally, I’ve been through three in the past year, so I assume there aren’t any limits.)

3. If/when you do switch therapists, you don’t have to repeat everything you’ve already talked about.
This is what I consider to be a huge perk. This is also something which never really crossed my mind when it came to in-person therapy sessions. When you switch in real life, you have to go through the daunting process of repeating your stories multiple times and that can be exhausting.  But once you switch therapists on Talkspace, the chatroom automatically saves all previous conversations no matter how many times you switch therapists. This takes the legwork out of having to re-explain everything you’ve been through. And once your new therapist has been given a little time to catch up and read over everything, you’re able to start back where you left off. They also ask what you liked and didn’t like about your last therapist so they won’t make the same mistakes.

4. It’s a great platform for people who are uncomfortable talking about things out loud.
Something which seems to be rarely acknowledged is the fact that different people have different communication styles. Some, like myself, operate better through writing or text, while others have no problem talking about things out loud. There is no shame in either approach, and this also took me a long time to learn. After seeing my in-person therapist off and on for two years I began to notice a pattern, where I would feel like jumping out of my skin every time I got too close to a serious topic, but I was determined to keep trying. Did this help? Nope. I finally gave up trying to force myself to adhere to traditional therapy standards in order to try something different. As someone who has fallen into the former category of communicating more comfortably through writing, this app was a perfect choice and not only that, it actually improved how I handle my in-person sessions as well. It’s like that old saying: play to your strengths. Find a way that helps you communicate the best and go for it. Talkspace also allows you to communicate through video and voice if texting becomes too much.

5. You’re able to freeze your account for up to 30 days if you need a break.
If you’re feeling exhausted or can’t afford a payment, they allow you to freeze your account for 30 days. I assumed this meant that when you freeze your account, you will lose contact with your therapist until you unfreeze it. I was wrong. Apparently, even when your account is on hold, you’re able to communicate with your therapist if you need to do so.

6. You’re able to create a passcode for your account.
This is great if you want to keep people from snooping on what you’re talking about, or if you just want to be extra sure to keep these conversations between you and your therapist. You can create a 4-digit passcode in order to log into your account. It’s a great simple way to keep things safe and to make sure no one has direct access to your private thoughts and feelings.

7. You can also talk to your therapist on the computer.
If you’re someone who types faster than they text, you can simply log into your account via the Talkspace website. This definitely comes in handy when you’re in a mood to write a novel and/or they respond to you with a novel.

Cons

1.  Sometimes the therapists don’t have the best responses.
I’ve had a few interactions on this app which seemed almost slightly robotic. Maybe it’s just the way I communicate through text and it happens to be more animated than I am in person, but I still couldn’t shake off this weird feeling. Their responses were always polite but lacked what I felt like were human-like responses. There was something missing I just couldn’t put my finger on, and their lack of emotion through their words made me feel tense. There were also moments where I requested what I felt like was textbook information about Psychology and behavior, but they either didn’t know anything about the topic or responded in a way that avoided the specific subject. So out of curiosity one day, I contacted support to see if they had their therapists go through a training program since there had been such a variation in communication styles. They responded and confirmed the therapists go through training; however, I still find it odd some therapists lack basic compassion or knowledge of basic subjects.

2. Their schedule could possibly conflict with your needs.
Generally, the therapists take two days off a week. I thought this meant every single one took weekends off since in-person therapists tend to do that. But turns out I was wrong in the best way. While some therapists on here do take weekends off, others don’t. This scheduling can either benefit you or conflict with your needs. My second therapist on Talkspace took weekends off. At first, I didn’t mind until I began to spiral primarily on weekends and I would have to wait until Monday for a response. (Weekends are generally hard for me without any solid structure to follow, so not having that person there to help me out exacerbated the situation). It wasn’t until my most recent therapist when I found out the schedule varies from person to person. This is also something important to note when you’re in the beginning stages and telling the representative what you’re looking for in a therapist.

3. Sometimes your therapist isn’t the best fit for you.
There is always going to be a trial and error period when trying to find the right match. Unfortunately, that process doesn’t become any less daunting when you have to do it through an app versus in person. (Although, the app does make it a lot easier.) There likely won’t be an instant connection with your first or maybe even your second therapist. It can be disheartening. I’ve had to switch therapists three times within the span of a year because things didn’t feel right or the communication styles were off. It’s a process and a very annoying one at that. But there is a silver lining — at least you can stay in your pajamas while trying to figure things out.

4. The therapist evaluation surveys are kind of annoying.
This is a personal gripe more than anything. It’s a survey which pops up once a month to gauge how things are going with your treatment. I’m sure it’s helpful and necessary for the company and everyone involved, but I swear that thing pops up more than once a month. It’s just something small and probably insignificant, but it still gets on my nerves. And like I said, it’s just a personal gripe. It annoys me, and that’s about it.

Overall, my experience on Talkspace has been a positive one, despite the bumps in the road along the way. It helped me to understand my primary mode of communication and in doing so, allowed me to clear up a lot of the discomfort I was experiencing in regular therapy. I no longer dissociate when I see my in-person therapist, and if there’s a chance I might, I save those topics for Talkspace. My general advice for using this app is to take things slow like you would with any new therapist and make sure they’re a good match before diving into the deep stuff.

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How Quitting Meditation Helped Me Be Honest in My Mental Illness Recovery

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Awhile ago, I spent over two hundred dollars to embark on a quest to get an online Bachelor of Spiritual Healing. I never received my degree. I couldn’t force myself to finish once I realized two things: I do not like meditation and I had a mental illness.

I hypothesized my problems might be solved through spiritual healing combined with some chakra balancing or cleansing. I woke up early to go downstairs in the dark. I sat in a chair and forced myself to meditate. Instead of spiritual revelation, I ended up with a backache and frustration.

I watched awkward online videos of teachers who did not represent what I wanted in my life. I didn’t want to wear flowing robes or have tie dye wall hangings. I didn’t want to sit on a small wooden bench and focus on my breath for hours every day. I couldn’t be enticed with communal living and intensive courses, though at times I wished I could.

Mostly I wanted a simple and obvious solution. I wanted to find a way to heal and be in control of myself. I sought for that healing and control in ways advertised by others, paying for the potential of experiencing peace and healing. I was willing to do what it took to end up where I felt I needed to be.

I felt if I padded my resume with more knowledge and sought for my solution in as many varied locations as possible, I would somehow stumble upon it. I prayed, I read scriptures and yes, I meditated. But I had a hard time feeling those things.

Only eventually did I realize it was not due to a lack of effort that I didn’t find my solution in spiritual healing. I believe it was because of one simple fact. My problem was not a spiritual one.

I found I was searching in incorrect places and using incorrect means for answers because I failed to properly understand and diagnose the problem. In reality, more important than arriving at a satisfactory conclusion was acknowledging and understanding my starting position.

I learned finding my starting position involves one thing. Being honest with myself.

This can’t be that hard, surely? Well, it’s tough enough that WikiHow has a whole article entitled “How to Be Honest with Yourself” that includes many images, ironically, that strongly resemble the meditation I so detested.

But really, being honest with ourselves involves cutting the crap that ties us to the view we have it all together. It involves brutally acknowledging our failures, our needs and our desires. It involves acknowledging our faults and understanding we aren’t perfect and, more importantly, we don’t have to be. We don’t have to be 100 percent self-sufficient. It’s OK to need other people. It’s OK to need things outside our own skill set to provide.

Once we come to that realization, we are free to explore possibilities that once seemed “lowly” or “demeaning.” For me, once I gave up on the Bachelor of Spiritual Healing and accepted I had mental illness rather than a spiritual one, I could accept the fact I needed professional psychological care.

This possibility I had toyed around with, but ultimately rejected out of fear and a false assessment of own capabilities, became my only viable option once I let honesty control my fate. From that point, I made progress. Once I allowed myself to be governed with honesty and let that honesty define myself to others, I became more whole.

Of course, I am not completely whole. I, like each of us, am a work in progress. We are not perfect. We are not whole.

Instead, I believe this life is about healing. We break a bone and our body does its best to heal itself. It cannot perfect itself, but it does what it can with its limited resources. The same is true with our spiritual and mental health. We can attempt to heal, but we cannot force ourselves into wholeness. We are imperfect, but I believe it’s in accepting this fact that we push ourselves one step closer to the wholeness we so desire.

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Why I Want NoStigmas to Be a 'Mental Health Melting Pot'

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I don’t remember much from grade school history (suicide loss and anxiety had a way of erasing my brain), but the concept of “The Melting Pot” has always stuck with me. People from all over the world, regardless of their ethnicity or religion, could come to the United States of America and be woven into the fabric of the nation. The imagery was beautiful to me.

Of course, I now understand the reality and purpose of such teachings. But, I’m still an idealist. I think that’s a big reason I designed NoStigmas as a global community where people can find judgment-free support, no matter their background. A melting pot, of sorts.

In a recent video, one of our community members Tiffany said, “It takes a village.” She was referring to the generosity of spirit that her family brought to the U.S. from Trinidad and Tobago. Those values are woven into the fabric of her community, and now the NoStigmas community as well. That foundation stays strong, even through disharmonious times.

However, we cannot rest on the laurels of our forefathers. We must continue to be diligent in the pursuit of mental health equality for all people. It will mean temperance from the desire to point fingers and call names. It will take fortitude to stand up for what is right, while still maintaining a voice of quiet strength. But mostly, it will require patience. With the system, with each other, with ourselves.

But this doesn’t have to be a chore! Coming together today to plant the seeds of equality that will be harvested by our children and their children should be a joyful process. We can surround ourselves with forward-thinking people and celebrate our differences. Let’s do good work together. Let’s be kind to each other. Let’s hold on to that beautiful dream of “The Melting Pot” and mental health equality for everyone.

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5 Things I Would Tell My Future Self About My Mental Illness Recovery

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I am not naïve. I know my mental illness will not just get up and fly away. It is quite possible this is something I will live with for the rest of my life. And it’s the same for many, many other people. So I wondered, if I could speak to myself, 10 years in the future, what would I say?

1. It’s OK to be afraid.

Some days, everything scares me. Loud noises, bright lights. Spiders. Dark corners. Knocks on the door. Text messages. The thoughts inside my head. The prospect of living my life this way. And automatically, I criticize myself for these fears. Tell myself I’m being ridiculous.

But fear is not always a bad thing. Fear can motivate us. To change. To fight harder. I’m not saying I would want to live with intense, debilitating fear every day. But don’t beat yourself up over it. If you’re scared, that’s OK. Chances are you’re already feeling bad enough. There’s no need to add to it by shouting at yourself!

2. Talk to people.

Don’t keep it all in. Let people help you. They won’t be able to make it all go away, to make all the doubts and worries disappear. But they can be a shoulder to cry on. A hand to hold. It can be so tempting to bottle it all up and avoid ever mentioning your problems. Most of the time though, your friends, your family and your colleagues will want to help. They might not understand, but they will try. So let them.

3. Never apologize for the way you feel.

It’s all too easy to apologize. For anything and everything. A lot of the time, I apologize for my feelings. If I’m tired or depressed or anxious or agitated, I will usually tell somebody I’m sorry. It makes me feel like a burden. But sometimes, I can see I’m not. I can’t help my thoughts and my feelings. No one can. You did not ask for this illness. You did not want it, or choose it. It was not an intentional action. You didn’t wake up this morning and decide you were going to feel so very awful. And so why should you say you’re sorry? You have done nothing wrong. Remember that.

4. You are always enough.

Sometimes, people will not understand your illness, and they will not even try. They will make you feel less of a person, like you’re not worthy of the same amount of love and attention as, say, somebody without depression or anxiety or a personality disorder. Maybe they will even tell you you’re “strange,”you’re “mixed up,” you’re “crazy.” Never believe them. Ever.

You are enough. Always. Exactly as you are. Don’t let the ignorance of others change you. Don’t let it quieten you. Speak up. Shout. Be who you want to be.

5. Never stop fighting.

There will be days, weeks, months, when you feel like it’s all too much. You won’t want to fight anymore. The idea of letting your illness consume you will become so, so strong. But those are the days you have to be stronger than ever before. It will pass. You’re reading this now and you might not believe me. But I’ve been there. I can tell you, in all honesty, those days will pass. The sun will set and you will wake up one morning and feel a little better. So don’t stop. Don’t let it take over. I know it seems impossible sometimes.

But when the world tells you to quit, hope whispers “try one more time.”

And hope will always win. Always.

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How People With Mental Illness Really Feel About Celebrities 'Opening Up' About Mental Health

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It feels like nowadays whenever a celebrity says the word “anxiety,” the internet gets bombarded with a new round of complimentary headlines, praising them for being brave and talking about their mental health. (We do it, too.)

Just this week: Prince William and Lada Gaga Facetimed about mental health stigma, Lili Reinhart from “Riverdale” said she “has the best outlook on mental health” and Kendall Jenner talked anxiety in her Harper’s Bazaar cover story. She also said in a video promoting the issue she “thought she was going to kill herself” after her first heartbreak.

But with all this saturated mental health news, which despite the context are all given similar enthusiastic headlines, the meaning of words like “anxiety” and “mental health” can get convoluted and watered down, and (when I’m feeling cynical) makes talking about mental illness seem like “the next hot thing,” thrown in between news of “who wore what best” and “which celebrity is dating who.” Rarely do these “tell all” interviews get into the nitty gritty. More often, we put sound bites and a single quote on a pedestal, not really thinking about the deeper narrative of their experience and what it means for the rest of us.

This isn’t to undermine the mental health of celebrities — as we know in this community, you can never judge what someone is going through based on their status, appearance or occupation. It’s just that coverage of celebrities speaking out about mental illness, although popular, often only scratches the surface.

At the same time, celebrity culture is a powerful tool for setting standards and normalizing experiences. So when a celebrity decides to get vulnerable about their mental health, whatever their intentions, it does in some way give others permission to do the same. It at least lets others know they’re not alone, which is never a bad thing.

To find out what people who live with mental illness think when celebrities open up about their mental health, we decided to ask our mental health community. We’d love to know what you think — join our conversation in the comments below:

Here’s what they shared with us:

1. “I feel conflicted. On one hand, I feel empowered that mental health is being discussed on a larger stage. On the other, it’s not often broken down and only discussed on a surface level. In addition, there’s some issues of romanticizing mental illness, especially anxiety and depression. Overall, it depends on a lot of factors. I do love everything Carrie Fisher (RIP) has done for the mental illness community, and I hope more celebrities try to channel her energy in the future.” — “Emily D.

2. “It annoys me, as I think well, why is their mental health taken with overwhelming sympathy and empathy, and mine is taken with a view that I’m just lazy or a benefit scrounger? It doesn’t change people’s perception of mental illness, it just enhances a more endearing approach to the given celebrity. Just my opinion.” — Ian S.

3. “I’m glad it gives it a stage to appear on where people generally listen, however, it’s also really upsetting that it takes a celebrity to open up about their mental illness for the world to take notice and care that people who [struggle with] these types of things.” –Maddy F.

4. “Encouraged and empowered. The more famous people open up about the importance of mental health, the more everyday people feel comfortable opening up about their own struggles. The more awareness, the better.” — Sarah A.

5. “I am always suspicious. I know they may say the truth, but the fact that almost every celebrity starts talking about having mental health problems at some point, it makes me question whether it’s not some kind of trend nowadays and a way to get more attention.” — Hana K.

6. “Sometimes it seems inauthentic and disingenuous, especially when they talk about their recovery.” — Bethany D.

7. “The same as when some random non-famous person opens up. They’re people, just like every one else.” — Dillion M.

8. “I think a lot of the time it’s done to keep them in the limelight. It doesn’t make the lives of those of us who live with mental illness any better. We could all go public and say I have this mental illness and the rest of the world would say ‘so what, who are you anyway?’ So why are they told ‘well done’?” — Wendy W.

9. “I’m grateful that a person whom many admire and listen to isn’t afraid to give mental illness a face and help the rest of us who live with and fight the stigma on a daily basis. Sometimes people put celebrities on pedestals, this helps remind everyone that they’re human too and that mental illness can affect anyone anywhere.” — Melodie K.

10. “It gives me courage and hope to know that I’m not alone. To see how they handle it means a lot.” — Brandon C.

11. “I’m thankful because the more people talk about it, the less stigma there will be. It’s nice to show the world that you can have everything that you could possibly want and need in the world and still have your brain be against you. Mental illness does not discriminate! Just because you’re in a different tax bracket doesn’t mean you can’t have a mental illness.” — Jamie H.

12. “I appreciate that they’re trying to help end the stigma around mental illness. I feel a lot of empathy for William and Harry as my own mother died shortly after theirs so I have lived through pain like theirs ‘alongside’ them. It seems to me they are saying that no one is immune to mental health despite wealth and opportunity. That said, when services are being cut and children have to live away from support networks such as family so that they can receive treatment and others have to wait so long for treatment; that is were they cannot empathize. I am sure they had access to the best treatment without having to go on a waiting list.” — Tara M.

13. “It’s great knowing that people we look up to, admire, etc. also facing the same challenges. Just because you’re in the spotlight or famous doesn’t mean you can’t/don’t struggle. It’s inspiring, it gives you courage to also be open about your mental illness.” — Mary K.

14. “It humanizes them and reminds me that despite their fame, they are still people with their own individual experiences and stories to tell. We tend to forget the roles celebrities play on screen are the fake part. There was a time when no one knew their names either, and they were no different than the rest of us.” — Katie H.

15. “Sometimes, it makes me wonder if they’re actually being genuine about it or not. Sometimes I often feel like celebrities use this as a fad to build themselves up after some kind of scandal. Having a mental illness isn’t trendy, so those celebrities who use it as a crutch are doing more harm than good.” — Mandy R.

16. “I feel hopeful — even if their story doesn’t apply to me, they are helping someone, somewhere. It normalizes the conversation which minimizes the stigma. Just because they have money and a platform where they can speak out doesn’t mean they struggle any less. It’s not a competition. Mental illness doesn’t discriminate based on race, gender, sexuality or class. We need to stop criticizing and start supporting.” — Allisyn M.

17. “I feel empathy and compassion for them because, at the end of the day, they’re only human and even though they’re in the public eye, it’s important to remember that they go through the same thoughts, feelings and emotions that anyone else does. But, at the same time, I think it shouldn’t take a celebrity talking about mental illness for people to take it seriously. I’d much rather hear someone’s story who isn’t in the public eye.” — Katie S.

18. “I think it’s great, celebrities have spent a large amount of their time gaining the trust and compassion of their fans so it’s a great way for our voices as a whole to be heard. I understand how some people may feel as if the general population cares more for celebrities than everyone else, but the fact of the matter is they don’t know us as well as they know these celebrities, we are strangers to them as is anyone else mental illness or not, we have given them no reason to trust us and follow us. I think celebrities opening up about their mental health is necessary for us to move forward as a whole.” — Stephanie F.

19. “I’m extremely conflicted. Part of me is happy that it’s talked about but another part of me is upset that the only way people seem to really listen to how it impacts people’s everyday lives is when celebrities talk about it. It should be listened to no matter who talks about it in my opinion.” — Erika S.

20. “It depends on who and what their intentions seem to be. One positive example that encourages me is Wentworth Miller. He speaks with honesty and transparency that brings both awareness and vulnerability. He also explains how hard even just speaking about it can be and how much work it took to get to that point. He discusses the pain and the struggles that come with his mental illnesses and how much if a struggle it was and is. He offers resources and encourages seeking out help. His motives always appear to be for helping others and offering hope… I appreciate the celebrities who speak and speak to offer hope on mental illness.” — Hannah S.

21. “It depends. Sometimes I feel like they’re just doing it because it’s ‘fashionable’ and I feel annoyed and hurt by that. Sometimes they’re trying to help the cause, but a non-celeb could help just as well.” — Jess L.

22. “Celebrities have resources ‘normal’ people couldn’t even imagine. So when celebrities come out with a mental health condition and talk about diet and exercise helping or going to a glamorous recovery center or vacation, stepping out of the lime light… that’s all well and fine, but the rest of us may not be able to afford such luxuries. A lot of us are low income trying to afford our meds and feed our families, so taking an extended vacation or focusing on ourselves might not be an option. I sort of hate how it draws attention to the issue, both glamorizing it and making it seem like a short break with make it manageable or fix it.” — Gretchen M.

23. “Sometimes I feel like it ends up getting romanticized by fame. It’s mentioned but never deconstructed. They just disappear then pretend to be better. Mental health isn’t fixed overnight.” — Sam C.

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