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Milli Smith Shares Relatable Instagram Post About Medication Side Effects and Hair Loss

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For those living with a chronic illness, starting a new medication can be scary — especially when the prescription comes with a long list of side effects. Instagrammer, Milli Smith, who runs the account @selfloveclubb, knows how difficult it can be to cope with physical changes that develop after starting a new medication.

“This post is damn hard for me to do, this is something I don’t talk about at all and something I’ve been ashamed of for so very long,” Smith wrote. “Hair loss is scary and watching my hair fall out in handfuls after taking a new medication left me devastated; the hair still hasn’t grown back and might not ever.”

This post is damn hard for me to do, this is something I don’t talk about at all and something I’ve been ashamed of for so very long. 〰 Hair loss is scary and watching my hair fall out in handfuls after taking a new medication left me devastated; the hair still hasn’t grown back and might not ever. 〰 I’ve hidden it for years, styled my hair in ways to hide it and been forever conscious of it. 〰 After watching @dothehotpants Story in which she mentioned a few ladies with hair loss who are living their beautiful lives; it made me realise that hair/no hair /hair loss doesn’t and won’t control my happiness. ????It doesn’t make me any less worthy of love. ????It doesn’t make me any less beautiful. ????It doesn’t make me any less deserving of happiness. 〰 So here’s to all my lovelies out there who are losing/have lost hair. YOURE FUCKING BEAUTIFUL and NOT ALONE. 〰 Don’t be ashamed of who you are, you’re unique and damn bad ass. #mybadassbody

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Because of her hair loss, Smith has been self-conscious, styling her hair in ways that cover up her missing strands, for years. It wasn’t until she watched another Instagrammer, Dana “Hotpants,” talk about hair loss, that Smith realized her lost locks were nothing to be ashamed of. “[I]t made me realise that hair/no hair /hair loss doesn’t and won’t control my happiness,” Smith wrote, adding:

It doesn’t make me any less worthy of love. It doesn’t make me any less beautiful. It doesn’t make me any less deserving of happiness. So here’s to all my lovelies out there who are losing/have lost hair. YOURE F***ING BEAUTIFUL and NOT ALONE. Don’t be ashamed of who you are, you’re unique and damn bad ass.

Smith isn’t the only person speaking out about how illness and medication can change your appearance. In May, actress Sarah Hyland spoke out against body-shamers in a series of posts on Twitter. Hyland, who lives with kidney dysplasia, says she’s experience a number of physical changes due to her health. “Don’t let other’s comments alter any part of you! Love and positivity is what we need most,” Hyland wrote, adding:

[I]t’s never fun to look in the mirror and see your hard work at the gym fade away or have your legs be the size of one’s arms. But I know that when I get clearance I will be able to get back to the STRONG, lean and fabulous self I know I can be. You all will probably have something to say about that as well but it won’t affect me. I don’t mind when you say that I look pregnant. Or fat. Because I know that my face is swollen from medication that is saving my life. For those on prednisone I know what you’re going through and I commend you sticking git out as I have.

Have you experienced physical changes due to your illness? How did you cope? Let us know in the comments below.

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8 Couples Taking on Chronic Illness in the Most Beautiful Ways

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It’s true that chronic illness can bring new challenges to relationships. But it’s also true that illness can strengthen them, bring partners closer together and teach us what it really means to support and love another person — in sickness and in health.

In honor of the millions of couples who take on chronic illness together every day, we rounded up eight that have made headlines for speaking openly about the challenges of illness and how they support each other through it all. Perhaps they’ll start a conversation if you need support, or if your partner has a chronic illness and you’re not sure how to help, offer you a new way to be supportive.

We also know examples like this happen every single day in households that don’t get media attention — we want to validate and celebrate you, too. So we asked our Mighty community to share their advice for people who are supporting a partner with chronic illness. You can read their answers below and add your own in the comments at the bottom.

Here’s to supporting each other.

1. Jim and Jeannie Gaffigan

Ever the comedian, Jim Gaffigan recently posted a sweet and funny video of himself helping his wife, Jeannie, with a tube-feeding as she recovers from surgery to remove a benign brain tumor. “This is kind of like our own cooking show,” Gaffigan quips. Later, joking about their neighbor helping insert the syringe into Jeannie’s PEG tube, he says, “I know that if I was in the same situation, Jeannie would be OK with me getting ‘pegged.'” When you’re tackling illness, a little humor can go a long way.

2. Chrissy Teigen and John Legend

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After Chrissy Teigen wrote an essay for Glamour about her struggle with postpartum depression, husband John Legend told E! News his advice to other spouses supporting a partner with depression.

You have to be present. You have to be compassionate. You have to understand what the reasons for them feeling what they’re feeling are. I think once you know the reasons, I think you can be more helpful in identifying what they’re going through.

3. Michael J. Fox and Tracy Pollan

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After his diagnosis with Parkinson’s disease in 1991, Michael J. Fox confronted what many people with chronic illnesses face: the question of whether or not their spouse will feel “burdened” by their illness. In an interview with The Guardian, Fox said the public image of his wife Tracy Pollan as a “long-suffering wife” was “bullshit.”

This is my situation and she deals with it, and I never feel like, “I’m sorry you have to put up with this” – it’s nothing like that. When I told her about the Parkinson’s I said to her, “Are you in for this?” and she said, “I’m in for it.” And that was it. It was still a struggle but that was a really great moment.

4. Brandon and Machi Marshall

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Brandon Marshall, a wide receiver for the New York Giants, was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder in 2011 after years of struggling with the symptoms — which made it difficult for him to reach out to his wife, Machi. “If she hadn’t held me accountable — if she hadn’t loved me, hadn’t shown compassion during my weakest moments, I would have probably lost everything,” he wrote in an essay in The Players’ Tribune. Together, the couple created Project 375, a foundation dedicated to breaking the stigma of mental illness and encouraging others to speak out and seek help.

5. Rob and Marisol Thomas

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Singer Rob Thomas’ wife, Marisol, first began experiencing symptoms of autoimmune disease in 2003 and was eventually diagnosed with Lyme disease. Since then, the couple has worked to raise awareness of Lyme disease; Rob performed at the Global Lyme Alliance’s annual gala in 2016 and his songs “The Great Unknown” and “Her Diamonds” were inspired by Marisol’s experience.

6. Jamie-Lynn Sigler and Cutter Dykstra

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Jamie-Lynn Sigler went public with her multiple sclerosis diagnosis at the same time she revealed her wedding to Cutter Dykstra. In an interview with Entertainment Tonight at the Race to Erase MS Gala, Sigler said her husband “holds her up” physically and emotionally. “He sort of taught me that, regardless of MS, who I really am… He has really helped me realized that [MS] doesn’t [define who you really are],” she said.

7. Robin Roberts and Amber Laign

Today my girl Amber is celebrating her birthday…the Big 4-OOOOH! #AndManyMore

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“Good Morning America” anchor Robin Roberts underwent breast cancer in 2007 and a blood and bone marrow disorder called myelosysplastic syndrome in 2012, and in 2013 she revealed she hadn’t been going through it alone: she had the support of her long-term girlfriend, Amber Laign. “I just love the fact that people now know that this very special person was there [helping me] as I was recognizing others that were there,” Roberts told People. “I love her that much to let people know that.”

8. Viral Imgur User With Endometriosis and Her Husband

Romance is Not Flowers and Chocolate. It’s cleaning a grimy tub.

Romance isn’t always about candy and flowers. In a viral post on Imgur, user showed just how powerful some non-traditionally romantic actions can be. She described how her endometriosis kept her awake, crying in pain at 3 a.m. one night. The next day, her husband returned home from work and went to work taking care of her. “I have never, in my life, felt more cherished or protected,” she wrote.

He immediately made me a snack with cheese and crackers and then went to town cleaning our tub. I mean *cleaning*. He scrubbed every jet, took off the filter, and made it sparkle and shine. He filled the tub with muscle relieving bath goodness he’d just bought, set the jets running, and brought me my favorite wine and chocolate after I settled in (along with “just shout out any time you want more wine.”)

As I sit here soaking, he’s now cleaning the kitchen and said he’d prepare dinner after. He got lotion for a massage, a hot pad for my stomach, and said we can watch trashy TV or play Breath of the Wild tonight while I relax in my pajamas.

When couples are forced to confront “in sickness and in health,” it’s not always easy for people to know exactly how to make their partner feel supported in their illness. So we asked members of our Mighty community what their advice would be for how to support someone who has a chronic illness. Here’s what they recommended:

1. “Tell me I’m beautiful at my worst because that’s when I need to hear it, not when I’m dressed up and having a good pain-free day. Love and encouragement on a bad day can make a world of difference to someone in pain.”

2. “Don’t wait for your partner to ask for help because it is often hard for individuals with chronic illness to admit they need help. Having to ask for help, especially help with tasks that you used to be able to do yourself, can be hard. It makes you feel like you’ve become dependent on someone. Be proactive in looking for ways to help your partner so they don’t have to ask for it.”

3. “Help me not feel guilty when I ruin plans by canceling or having to leave. Also, help me not to feel like we are only spending a night in because of my illness when I fear you actually want to go out instead.”

4. “Be there. Be present for every single heartbreak and every tiny crack of hope. Be emotionally available and fight with and for us. But don’t get this concept of support misunderstood with fixing the situation, curing the illness. Don’t pressure yourself to fix the situation — unfortunately like so many things in life, chronic illness is out of your control.”

5. “Please have some compassion. Not sympathy… compassion. I know it gets frustrating sometimes because your partner in life’s life has changed drastically. You have to remember that life doesn’t stay the same and you can make this work! Change together. Communicate. Ask each other what you need to better your relationship.”

6. “It’s the little things that make it better for me. Like when I wake up and breakfast is made. Or pitching in with the housework with out being asked.”

7. “You don’t need to be superman. You’re allowed to feel your feelings too of frustration and hopelessness at times. You can get tired and overwhelmed. But all I need is to know you’re there for me and are willing to go through anything by my side.”

8. “Please tell us you’re proud of us. Be proud of us for getting out of bed, for not sleeping all day, for making a healthy meal, for getting out for the day. No matter how big or small our feats can be we want someone to be proud of us.”

9. “Take care of yourself just as much as possible, and don’t forget to do that at the expense of your ill spouse. You are just as important. Also, don’t forget how deeply you are loved. Because you are. Always.”

 If you have a chronic illness, what is the best way a loved one can support you? Let us know in the comments below.

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22 Secrets of People Who Take Prednisone

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Editor’s note: This piece is based on individuals’ experiences. Please see a doctor before starting or stopping a medication.

Prednisone is a corticosteroid medication often prescribed to help suppress the immune system and reduce inflammation in the body. While it can be quite effective in controlling symptoms, it can also cause a variety of side effects, including weight gain, increased appetite, excessive sweating and mood swings. For some, the benefits outweigh the side effects, but for others, prolonged periods on the drug can start to take a physical and emotional toll.

Because prednisone can carry stigmas, and because doctors can only tell you so much about how it will affect you, we asked our Mighty community to share some of the secrets they don’t often tell others about taking prednisone. We hope this helps you make an informed decision — but please consult physicians and other patients before making a final call on taking or not taking prednisone. What has your experience been like with this medication? Let us know in the comments below.

Here’s what the community shared with us:

1. “I hate how I feel bloated. It’s a terrible feeling when you’re trying to lose weight – you eat right, you try to exercise when you aren’t in agonizing pain – but when you go to the doctor you haven’t lost anything.”

2. “Mentally it makes my mind a roller coaster. I have major mood swings. One minute I’m OK, the next I’ve burst into tears. One minute I’m mad at nothing, the next I am fine.”

3. “I’m grateful for it. It seems like all I really say about it is how much I hate it. But in reality, without it I would not be alive today! Yes, it has some not-so-fun side effects, but there are ways you can teach yourself to cope over time. The good outweighs the bad!”

4. “Hair loss on [my] head, but I gain a nifty mustache!”

5. “I ended up with horrible localized seizures and an extreme hypertensive crisis that landed me in the ER. Couldn’t stop taking it, as it’s one of the only treatments for my autoimmune disease, so we had to work out the highest dose I could take without seizures.”

6. “I go on two-to-four-week bursts for asthma and it’s the weeks that follow that are worse. Breakouts, red inflammatory patches on my skin that react, redness across my face, aches, fatigue. I call it the ‘Pred Hangover.’ Sometimes it can take a month for the inflammatory/autoimmune response to calm and for me to feel human again.”

7. “It makes me feel like a million bucks. I go from couch surfing due to joint pain to exercising again. I overexert myself and find out the relief was only temporary. Then I eat everything in my refrigerator and it takes me a month or two to lose all the weight I packed on in one week!”

8. “Sweating and being so hot all the time. Even if it’s winter, I’m pouring sweat. Non-stop sweating.”

9. “Prednisone always gives me insomnia. It’s a double-edged sword… It can make me feel great but then I eventually just come crashing back down. I am always exhausted after completing a course.”

10. “It can make you really depressed. When I first got diagnosed with Crohn’s disease I was 8 and was on a high dose for almost a year. I remember just crying and crying for no reason and feeling awful emotionally for no reason. And it can be hard to talk about that side of things because when you get depressed you tend to withdraw.”

11. “I don’t like to admit I actually love it, even with all of the horrible side effects, because every time I’m on it I feel almost normal. It sometimes makes me feel jealous of so many people who get to feel healthy and ‘normal’ every day.”

12. “It’s a tough reminder that I truly have no control over my own body.”

13. “Blood sugar ups and downs that, along with weight gain and moon face, do not in any way match what you consume.”

14. “It made my breasts really sore. It affects my already unbalanced (from pain/fatigue) sex drive.”

15. “[I have to run] to the bathroom and pee constantly. Sometimes I’m not fast enough.”

16. “When I did take it, it was like another world. I wasn’t hurting. I [wondered], is this how everyone feels? Is this real? It was the best week of my life! I wish it was safe enough to take all the time. I miss feeling ‘normal.'”

17. “The withdrawals are almost as bad as the side effects while taking it. I have a rash, acne (I never get pimples!) and headaches. It also affects my mania pretty badly.”

18. “I take it on top of my other psoriatic arthritis meds for flares and the cravings and food ‘needs’ can resemble what we hear of pregnancy. Hard, practically unavoidable cravings. Salt-sweet-salt-sweet-sour-etc. And not getting those foods creates an entire new level of grump.”

19. “[I feel like] I’ve got PMS the whole time – heightened sensitivity to any emotion, body swollen to what feels like double its size, insatiable appetite, hot flushes, wild dreams, bad skin that no product can fix.”

20. “I usually won’t talk about how it helps me so much with a daily low dose because I always hear about how terrible it is.”

21. “It causes bruises to randomly show up, so I end up looking like I got hit by a truck. Everyone stares at me and, if I’m with a male friend, he gets death glares.”

22. “I look in the mirror, and I don’t recognize myself. Physically or psychologically.”


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How 'Unfriending' Makes Life With Chronic Illness Easier

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I intend to be a nice, kind and courageously loving person. For the most part, I pull it off. Living with several chronic illnesses has increased the value of my time, energy and mental space. As time goes by, the importance of the quality of each relationship and personal interaction has increased, too. Mitochondrial disease and Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (parts of my puzzle) are exhausting conditions, physically and emotionally. I’m one of the people who got diagnosed as a teenager, and I dealt with plenty of judgments and negative people while I was a “mystery.” So now, I reserve the right to protect myself against likely stressors. While that may sound negative, giving myself permission to “unfriend” has actually been a great step.

Many of us with “invisible illnesses” are aware of how other people see us…or, what they don’t see. There were people in my life who refused to see the truth of my illnesses, and that was hard when I was still trying to grasp the hardest truths myself. As much as I care about those people, living with these illnesses means “wellness” is a priority. These relationships weren’t “well,” and stressing because of them was only going to do me harm. After facing that, I looked to social media. Did I want these people to observe big parts of my life? Did I want their commentary? Not really, and that doesn’t make me a horrible person.

Part of managing my health (as much as that’s possible) is managing energy drains. One by one, I plugged those slow trickles of energy by hitting “unfriend.” Little by little, I felt more peaceful and safe on my personal accounts. Even in “real life,” I set boundaries where I had previously gone out of my way to be accommodating. Stopping the emotional energy leaks allowed me to breathe and focus on the positive people in my life. Gone are the unnecessary reminders of particularly difficult moments, and at the top of my feed are sprinkles of humor and strength.

It’s not possible to block every negative influence or reminder in the world, and I believe there are many healthy coping strategies. When that doesn’t feel possible, it’s important (and constructive) to seek help. In my case, closing a few digital doors helped me to move forward. I’m actually more open about my health through writing, and I have a mix of old and new friends along for the bumpy ride. People with chronic illnesses can feel guilty about taking steps to protect their physical and emotional health, or feel defensive about their situation. Having a space where I can share both the joyful and painful parts of this complex life is something to be celebrated.

Follow this journey on Maria Gracefully.  

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We Need to Stop Basing Our Self-Worth on Productivity

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I used to think I was better than those who simply made a living. I had goals, ambitions, dreams  –  I couldn’t imagine just coming home after work and watching TV. I saw my parents do this every single day while growing up, and I thought it was the saddest thing I’d ever seen. I vowed never to do just the bare minimum  – I would have a career, do what I loved, make my mark on the world and leave something behind so people wouldn’t forget me. What was the point if I just lived and died?

Now, at 27 years old, the fear of being unproductive is seemingly an epidemic. I hear my friends tell me about how they feel disappointed in themselves because they “weren’t productive today” or “aren’t meeting their goals fast enough.” It’s become evident that society doesn’t measure our worth by how good of a person we are or how much we’re contributing to society, but by how many hours we spend at a conventional job, how far up the ladder we’ve worked and how much money we’re making. CEOs and celebrities are valued over cashiers, artists and volunteers. It’s the same system my parents grew up with, only now everything is documented on social media and we constantly compare our lives to the lucky few on the internet.

In society, or America at least, we’re told we could get anywhere we wanted if we just pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and work hard enough. But what they don’t tell you is this is bullshit. For example, most entrepreneurs you hear about are able-bodied and neuro-typical, coming from supportive families, able to work full-time and have some sort of savings or loan going into starting their business. When you’re not able-bodied or neuro-typical, and you don’t come from a supportive family, and you have trouble supporting yourself and have bad credit, it’s going to be that much harder to get your dreams off the ground. It’s pretty privileged to say everybody can do what they want as long as they work at it.

When I was younger I ran away from home because of abuse. I barely graduated because I had trouble retaining information. Soon I went to university for a degree in communications, where all I wanted was to work for a major magazine and have my work read. But three years into my degree my mental health issues became too much and I dropped out of school to take care of myself. I failed to hold a job and went on welfare, moved around a lot because I couldn’t pay rent and decided to work around my symptoms by starting my own magazine. But constantly worrying about where my next meal would come from or generally not having enough energy from going hungry kept me from being able to give my magazine the full attention it deserved. I burnt out often as I isolated myself from others and neglected my mental health to work on my business instead of taking the time I needed for myself. I wanted to be one of those success stories that made it from “welfare to faring well.” The only thing that got me through those hard years was the hope that if I worked hard enough, it would happen.

 

A year ago I was fortunate to become approved for disability. I finally had enough money to stop being stressed out about my next meal, and I thought I could finally put in the time and effort needed to get my magazine off the ground. I realized it would only grow as fast as I did, so I started looking after my mental health more now that I had a quiet, safe home where I could work from. But all of those years of neglecting myself because of lack of money or struggling with mental illness had taken its toll, and I spent a year just figuring out how to balance everyday things: eating regular meals, exercising, chores, errands, socializing, work. I struggled with the newfound reality that more money wasn’t going to fix everything  –  I still had health issues that hindered me from working the conventional way or simply taking care of myself.

And then the depression hit me. I spent more time watching Netflix than working hard, and I blew away too much money on takeout because I didn’t have the energy to cook. The more time went on, the more doubt started to sink in: What if I didn’t have it in me to do the hard work required? What if I didn’t want to put my mental health on the line to try? What if I just wanted to enjoy my life? I had spent years isolated because I was too broke and mentally unwell to leave my apartment and I just wanted to have fun again.

I kept telling myself I would take a day, a few days, a week to relax  – and then I would get back to work. But as my depression lifted, I wanted to go out more instead of work. I went to see live music, went out dancing, made new friends and remembered what it was like to be happy. I would come home elated, only to turn towards guilt  –  because I was getting better mentally, but wasn’t achieving my goals. I felt lost in one world and better than ever in another. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to work on my magazine anymore  – but it stopped being the only thing I was living for. I didn’t want to sacrifice my eating habits, my mental health and my social life as I tried to balance everything.

And then I became the person I was always terrified of becoming: unproductive.

I had been idealistic and optimistic all my life  – thinking if I just tried hard enough like society had told me to, things would happen for me. But just like getting a degree, keeping a job and balancing everyday activities, getting my magazine off the ground wasn’t as simple as simply trying hard enough. Because of my mental health, I had to take more time for myself, and that forced me to live in non-traditional ways  – on social assistance, learning how to reduce stress in my life, prioritizing diet and exercise over everything else. I thought I could run my magazine the same way –  on my own terms, on my own schedule –  but I wanted to find investors, get it in print and pay people, and just doing the bare minimum was sometimes too much for me. How was I going to run a mainstream magazine when I couldn’t even keep a job or get out of bed some days?

I was finally seeing that the world wasn’t the place society had told me it was. The game was rigged. Was sacrificing everything just to win worth it? Was that the only way to play?

This got me thinking –  those entrepreneurs who we see as success stories, what do they have to sacrifice in order to succeed? Often we hear that in order to run a business you need to dedicate all of your time to your work. And often this comes at the cost of something, like your health or your dating life. We see it in celebrities who go to rehab for exhaustion, or men who get sugar babies because they don’t have time for real relationships. I’m not saying all entrepreneurs are unhappy, and some balance their life and work well  –  but for those of us who struggle with disabilities, mental health or physical health issues, things are even harder.

Suddenly I understood why my parents only had the energy to work, come home and watch TV. Using productivity as a way to measure our worth works to keep the capitalist cog turning  –  but it’s dangerous in the way that Photoshop on magazines change our view of how we should be. It gives us an unrealistic expectation that there are no limits to productivity  –  just laziness. And when our bodies give out in various forms of burnout such as extreme fatigue or anxiety attacks, we feel like it’s our fault, that we’re just not trying hard enough, that we’re lazy. But what if our worth was measured by something other than productivity? What if it was based on simply being alive?

What if we didn’t have to work our way up the ladder or get more likes on social media or have the newest product advertised? What if we just did what made us happy and were content with that  – whether working part-time at a grocery store or working hard at a university to become a lawyer? Why is our pleasure not enough? It’s time to re-define success. Money or fame aren’t the only things that make people fulfilled.

For me, my magazine makes me fulfilled. Going out with friends makes me fulfilled. I don’t need to prove I’m successful by finding an investor and printing the magazine and paying people  –  although all of that would be great and I’m still going to work towards it. People ask me why I can’t afford to pay, and besides the fact that getting a magazine off the ground is extremely difficult, I often blame myself for not working hard enough, just like I feel guilty for relaxing. People will judge you based on where you are in life because that’s the system they grew up in  – but nobody else is living your life but you. Nobody else gets to tell you what success is to you. Learning that takes time, but it’s one of the best things you can do for yourself.

I’m successful because I’m doing the best I can. Because I exercise and eat well and do chores even when I’m having a bad mental health day  –  and because I know when to throw everything to the side to just stay in bed. It’s not because I’m financially stable or doing what I love or happy with my life  – because all of those things can disappear. Success shouldn’t be measured on circumstance. If you have depression, have to work a job you dislike or are broke, there’s nothing wrong with you and you’re still successful. And while it’s easy to look for outside approval to base your self-worth on, doing that is always going to leave you unfulfilled because self-worth comes from within.

Having financial freedom has taught me money doesn’t equal happiness  –  it sure helps take the stress off, but once the rent and bills are paid I’m just left with me. For myself, success is learning to be comfortable with who I am, my obstacles and limits. It’s being understanding of what I can and can’t do each day. Recognizing this doesn’t mean I should shame myself for not being the person I want to be  –  it means changing the way I see myself. I’m not weak or lazy because I can’t work on what I love 24/7  –  I’m human, my limits are different than everyone else’s, and I’m worth more than my productivity.

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To the Carers: Thank You for All You Do

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To the carers: The parents, the partners, the sisters, the brothers, the grandparents, the aunties, the uncles, the friends.

I know you feel so helpless sometimes. Like there’s nothing you can do.

But you’re doing everything you can. Please believe me when I say this. Without you, we wouldn’t be where we are today in our recoveries.

You can’t take away our illness or our pain.

But you make us feel loved, cared for, and like everything is going to be OK again one day.

You make us cups of tea, hug us, comfort us, make us laugh, cook us meals, message us and drive us to countless appointments.

This may feel like nothing to you, but it’s everything to us.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you to all the carers out there. We love you so much. 

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