How Hypomania Is Helping Me Deal With a Bad Situation
Hypomania isn’t all bad. Right now, I’m facing one of my worst triggers, and instead of retreating into depression I kicked into hypomania. Then I harnessed as much of it as I could and channeled it to work for me.
Here’s the sitch. My longest and most vicious major depressive episode (which lasted literally several years, even when I was under treatment and on medication) was triggered by, among other things, massive financial problems. (There were other factors involved: health problems, family health problems, family problems, irrational thinking, strained relationships and bad ol’ neurotransmitters.) I was unable to work. There was plenty of anxiety along with the depression, you can be sure.
So here I am again, almost a decade later, once again in dire financial straits. I’m able to work, but only part-time and telecommuting. Then one of my biggest, most reliable clients cut way, way back. I made the mortgage this month, but next month looks iffy at best.
In the past, this would have resulted in major mental symptoms, and physical ones as well. (Better you shouldn’t ask, but my digestive tract responds to stress in an overwhelming manner. I know, TMI.) I would be immobilized, unresponsive and spend most of my days on the sofa when I wasn’t in the bathroom. I would abandon the financial problems – and myself – to my husband’s care, for as long as he could keep everything together. Until he burned out too.
During this new version of assorted crises, I seem to have a better handle on things, and I credit hypomania. I am trying to better the situation — not yet particularly effectively, but steadily. I am looking for new clients and more work from my old ones. I am looking for other sorts of telecommuting jobs, and even part-time outside work that seems to be within my modest-at-this-point capabilities.
(This process is hindered by the fact that all the job search engines are lousy. When I say I am a writer, I get leads for technical aerospace writing and service writers for car repair shops. When I say I’m an editor, I get invitations to become a driver for Uber. True story.)
I pursue these avenues every day. Soon after this post goes up, I have a networking “date” with a former client and a former co-worker.
And in the meantime? When the days stretch out with nothing happening and the sofa calling my name? I blog. I work on my novel. And I take surveys.
Admittedly, none of these pursuits brings in mortgage-payment-sized money. But the surveys bring in a couple of dollars a day, which is pitiful, but helping with a getaway my husband and I planned before the finances went belly-up. (My husband is still working, but his wages alone aren’t enough to pay all the bills. We need both of us, a situation familiar to millions of people in the U.S. with or without mental illness.)
And, aside from the getaway (which it’s too late to cancel), we’ve instituted cutbacks. We typically spend way too much on food and now must revisit our newly married days, when we subsisted on mac and cheese, and tomato sandwiches. It’ll be good for us, I tell myself. We could both stand to lose some weight.
I don’t know how long my “proactive hypomania” will last, when our financial situation will improve or whether my energy level will survive after it does. Or, for that matter, whether we’ll end up eating cat food under the Third Street Bridge and fighting stray dogs for cold french fries.
But right now, for now, I’m dealing. And that’s something I couldn’t do before.
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