A Letter to My Fiancé About My PCOS

My dear,

I know we’ve been through so much together already. The tears, the pain-filled nights, the angry outbursts and all the doctor appointments. I know this hasn’t been easy for you because it definitely hasn’t been easy for me.


Thank you. Thank you for being kind. Thank you for the kind words when you know I’m in pain. Thank you for understanding that I can’t help my beard (even though I shave every day). Thank you for making me feel loved and sexy.

I’m also sorry. I’m sorry for cursing at you when my emotions get the best of me. I’m sorry for asking so much of you. I’m sorry you have to care for me when my cysts burst and I’m in tears on the couch. I’m sorry I can’t lose weight.

I can’t express how grateful I am every single day for your dedication to me. My moods, weight, excessive hair, acne, infertility and depression have never kept you from loving me. PCOS is no fun for either one of us and I know it’s hard. Thanks for being my strength.

– Your future wife

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