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6 Tips on How to Deal With a Breakup With Adjustment Disorder

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Last year, I went through a breakup. At the same time, I was dealing with my adjustment disorder, which makes a breakup more of a rollercoaster than it already is.  So you’re probably wondering how I coped with such a difficult time in my life.

I have to tell you firsthand it wasn’t easy dealing with all my emotions. At first, some days I wouldn’t even think about my ex-boyfriend and then some other days, I would think about him constantly. Seeing certain things like fire trucks and minions (since those were his favorite things) would trigger me and make me depressed. It would be a couple weeks before I was able to adapt to my life again.

But now that I’ve gotten through it and I’ve been able to conquer the obstacle of going through a breakup with adjustment disorder, I wanted to give some tips for those who also have the disorder and are going through a breakup as I did:

1. Seek professional help.

When I was going through my breakup, I went and spoke to a mental health doctor who was able to give me some great coping skills on how to handle things.

2. Spend time with friends and family.

Spending time with the people who love and support me was the most helpful thing during the time of my breakup. It reminded me that I have people who love and support me, and who want to see me be happy and well. So I had to keep going.

3. Find something new to do that interests you.

When going through the breakup with my ex-boyfriend, I got into podcasting. Becoming interested in podcasting was a great distraction from my triggers and emotional state.

4. Go somewhere you’ve never been.

Going to a place you have never been to is the perfect way to cope with a breakup when you have adjustment disorder because you’re creating new memories and you get to clear your mind.

5. Redecorate any room in your house that you and your ex spent time together in.

When I went through my breakup, I redecorated my bedroom where I would Skype my ex-boyfriend in. I found this to be a huge help with my adjustment disorder, since all the things that triggered me are gone and I could finally heal.

6. Write down your emotions.

Writing is the best way to cope with your breakup while having adjustment disorder because you’re expressing your feelings and heartbreak in a healthy way. It keeps everything private for only you to see and one day, you could look back at this experience and say I made it this far.

Truthfully, breakups could be an emotional rollercoaster but we’ll make it through. I have no doubt these tips I have shared with you guys will help you along the way to remember you are not alone.


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Originally published: November 26, 2019
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