Narcissitic

My family is currently struggling with my younger brother. He definitely has narcissistic personality disorder and probably borderline personality disorder. He is currently on his second divorce and has abandoned the family, not allowing anyone to see his kids, and frankly being horrible to everyone, while trying to make himself sound like he’s this awesome, stand-up guy. He has of course denied needing any psychiatric help. He gets evil just at the suggestion. We have done our best to ignore him and work through the ex-wives to make contact with the kids. This infuriates him. Now it seems every major holiday, celebration, etc. he makes an effort to send a nasty gram. He sounds like an angst ridden teenage that can’t process or express feelings. He’s gone off the rails and while we are following the advice of ignoring him, our fear is that he will become physically violent. He already has been with both of his exes. #Narcissitic #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #violent

My ex is a Narcissist. He has been abusing me for 19 years. What do I do .