Tryingtosupport

I have been trying so hard for 7-8 solid years, she just can’t see my efforts, and my words she believes are fake basically. I love her and I am willing to go above and beyond, I don’t need her to give me any credit, I tried to defend her accusations that I don’t care about her, by reminding her of the types of things I do because I care. When I try to hug her she pushes me away about 75% of the time.
Also, she always says that I “make her feel” and I cause her anxiety and panic attacks. She has told me that I “make her feel that I don’t care” #Tryingtosupport #tryingtobegentle #husbandisclueless #supportive #failedmarriage

#MentalHealth

My husband is in depression, we are young couple with lovely daughter 1,2years old. I take care of our household and try to figure out his moods - when to talk, when to be silent, when to give advise, when hug, when to leave alone. It is a constant labirint where i try to find the right doors how to get closer, how to support him. Sometimes, when nothing helps and he says that I dont understand him and we live in different worlds - I get upset, sad, can blame myself that I am not good enough supporter by his side, bad wife.. eh.. maybe you have some tips that can work? Thank you!