The Comment I Wish People Stopped Saying About Raising Kids With Disabilities
“I don’t know how you do it.”
I know I have.
More than once. Add to that also being a military wife, and it’s a double whammy!
It’s a question that makes me scratch my head. I mean, I know most people mean well and just don’t know what to say. But here’s the thing:
What choice do I have?
These are my beautiful kids.
They were born with hearing loss.
So, there really is no other option. I roll my sleeves up and parent them the best way I can.
I advocate for them.
I ensure they have access to accommodations.
I make sure they are equipped with the best technology.
I find top-notch professionals to advise and support us.
I surround them with people who will champion for them.
I unload a can of whoop-ass on anyone who thinks it’s funny to mock their disability.
I love them.
That’s how I do it. Just like the way any other momma would do for hers.
And what would I rather someone say?
Try saying to the momma of a child with disabilities:
You are amazing!
Are you OK?
Let’s get coffee.
Tell me more about your child’s diagnosis.
You are an awesome advocate.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
I know it can be hard, but you are doing a great job.
I see you.
That’s it. Every person, no matter what they are going through, just wants to be seen.
Mommas of kids with disabilities — I see you!
A version of this story was originally published on My Battle Call’s Facebook page.
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