Incompatible with Nature-A Mother's Story
In the summer of 1984, I, a young black American woman married a German man and moved to his country. Several months later, an uneventful pregnancy resulted in the birth of our son. Thirteen days later, a cardiologist explained to my husband that our baby was “born incompatible with nature and would die. At any minute.”
“There is no surgery to save him,” the doctor explained to my husband in German. “Let your son die,” he said to me in broken English.
Our son Marc was born with a single atrium and single right ventricle, mitral atresia and pulmonary atresia; basically only half of his heart as well as with #HeterotaxySyndrome whereby the internal organs are arranged on the wrong side of the body.
Incompatible with Nature–A Mother’s Story is about my challenge of doing all I can to ensure that he has a chance at life while battling my own fears, an array of naysaying doctors, Marc’s innumerable infections, and struggling with a foreign language.
Despite the dire prognosis and the incredible difficulties, Marc is today thirty-three years old and thriving.
I have written this book to inspire doctors and caregivers to be more empathetic for their charges and especially to encourage the parents of all heart warriors to be courageous and assertive in their children’s health care, and to just hang on in the fight for their child’s life. My story is a remarkable tale of rebellion and resilience; an inspirational story of my fight for my child’s life in a foreign country where I did not speak the language. It is a testimony to the perseverance of the human spirit. It will give encouragement to anyone facing a battle not of is or her own choosing.
Thank you for your time,
Tracie Frank Mayer