When asked married couples, "Was your marriage arranged?"

or "From friends/ or contact from church/ relatives"

or if it is "Love Marriage?"

People say different answers!

And all come to one easy conclusion!

Arranged marriage always takes a lot of time to know, and hectic issues will persist.

And people's perception on love marriage is quite the opposite, people think it is easy, people think the couple will spend time understanding each others, and the fights will be shorter since they will be embraced by understanding in mutual.

So, if you think that is the reality, hell no!

" What the society thinks will happen will never happen " apply this formula everywhere in a marriage life, then it works well.

In short, people who do arranged marriage, they take time to understand one another, they are adjusting one-another for a new life, and they pick fights too, but compared to love marriage the fights are less in the first year!

The vice versa is love marriage, although one part is same in both the life choice, which is adjusting to a new life.

So in love marriage, the couple can literally sense what the other person wants. It is more like a fairy tale, like how it is showed in the cinema. But the underlooked factor is, the couple initially would love it when they set fights, it spices a lot of things. The more you fight you feel like, you are understanding one-another more.

And once this phase is over, mutually or one person may not welcome other person's choice (when it affects them) so the fights gradually starts, but more heated than the previous fight i mentioned here.

And the worst thing is, this prolongs, fights after fights. It feels like you're driving a car, and all of a sudden a giant rock ball crashed your whole car, and you are barely alive. And, sometimes you feel lost, even when you speak your opinion you feel unheard (this is for both the husband and wife)

So if you are stuck in this phase, dont think too much if you've regret marrying the wrong person, or if time brought you to the wrong person!

This is human nature! and the worst thing is that we wont realise value when a person is present, yet we grieve when they are gone!

So nm who is it, if you love them, prove them you do, by staying in their worst!

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