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18 Texts to Send a Friend Who's Isolating Themselves

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I say I’m a “bad texter” — but the truth is a little more complicated than that.

Most of the time, I’m scared of my phone, and sometimes go for days without texting anyone back. (Don’t get me started on Facebook messages…) During particularly tough weeks, not talking to anyone morphs into not hanging out with anyone. When I begin to isolate myself like this, it’s a red flag that something more might be going on — whether I’m beginning to sink a little into depression, or my anxiety is getting so bad, even the thought of hanging out with people makes me panic.

When people isolate like this, it doesn’t mean they hate their friends, or that they don’t actually want to hang out with them, Usually, it’s an indicator that something is wrong — and during these times of isolation, we sometimes need support the most.

But supporting a friend who won’t hang out with you or won’t text you back is tricky. Mighty community member Molly P. shared this insight:

I just wish someone noticed the pain I’m in, and not feel like I’m going through it alone all the time. The actions speak so much louder and being ignored cause it’s “easier” than addressing that I’m sinking.

A simple text can go a long way in supporting a friend who is isolating. That’s why we consulted with the lovely members of our mental health community, and asked them to share one text they’d love to receive when they’re isolating.

It’s important to remember our loved ones can’t read our minds. While one person who’s isolating might love when a friend insists on stopping by, another person might just need to receive funny meme. If you’re someone who tends to isolate, I’d encourage you to talk to your friends and family about what you need during these times. We hope this list of text messages helps you start a conversation with a loved one — and we hope it also reminds you that even when we’re isolating, we don’t have to be truly alone.

Here are some text messages members of our community would love to receive when they’re isolating:


A text message that reads: I'm here for you. You are enough.


A text message that reads: I'll be here when you're ready.


A text message that reads: What can I do for you right now?


A text message that reads: I'm here for you if you want to open up and talk to someone.


A text message that reads: Do you want to come hang out and be in comfortable clothes and just watch movies?


I've been thinking about you lately. When you're ready, know I will be there... aways.


A text message that reads: Hey I noticed I haven't seen you for the past 6 months, ya good?


A text message that reads: A know it's dark, but I'll always be here to help you find the light again.


Hey lovely, I want you to know I'm thinking about you and sending you lots of love and energy. Love ya.


A text message that reads: I miss you


A text message that reads: Hey, I haven't heard from you lately, so i just wanted to remind you that I love you, I am here, and it will get better. You are not alone.


Just respond with a thumbs up if you read this message. Just checking in... no need to type anything in response.


A text message that reads: Scoot over. I've got Chinese food and we're going to binge watch a show. I know you're in a dark place. Doesn't mean I can't feed you and keep you company.


A text message that reads: Hey, I feel like we haven't been hanging out as much and you seem to need some space. But I'm here for you if you ever need to talk, and if you want space, I can do that too.


A text message that reads: I just heard a song that made me think of you! Just wanted you to know that.


A text message that reads: I understand this is how it is for you sometimes. I don't take it personality, and I'm always here if you need someone.


I know you may not want to talk to anyone right now but I wanted you to now I love you and it's oK to not be OK. You're not alone.


A text message that reads: Even if you don't respond back, just know that I love you.

If you feel isolated, but aren’t sure where to turn, feel free to use the hashtag #checkinwithme on The Mighty to both receive and give support to others who might be struggling. You don’t need to do this alone.

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Originally published: October 17, 2018
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