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5 Things I Do When My PTSD Is at Its Worst

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These are the things I do because of anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Things that others don’t understand. Things that I hope won’t make you go, “Oh,” and stop the conversation. Things I cannot share with anyone else.

• What is PTSD?

1. I have said cruel and untrue things to people.

Usually the people I love the most. I have done this in the clutches of anxiety when my brain is telling me that I’m worthless and I’m in a mess because I will never be successful. I’ve said words out loud that I don’t mean because those are the words running through my head. I have hurt the people who I love the most. I’ve said things that I can’t take back, things that sit and fester in people. No amount of trying to explain that it was just my anxiety will ever make it better.

2. I have contemplated suicide, lately daily.

Everything I do is so overwhelming. It takes everything out of me to be even halfway “normal.” Every little thing is like climbing a mountain without a rope. Oh, if I could just get through the dishes. If I could just brush my teeth. If I could just change my clothes. If I could just do one thing, then maybe I could make it through. By the middle of the day it just feels like it’s not worth it. I just don’t wanna be here fighting to have some sort of semblance of normal. I don’t wanna fight anymore. I’m so tired. I’m exhausted. I just wanna not have to do this daily.

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3. I don’t leave the house.

Like never. Like I don’t stand in front of the open door. I won’t leave the door wide open. The outside world terrifies me. I can feel it on my skin. It’s an intrusive touch. The touch of someone you don’t want. It’s all over me and I wanna run away. I wanna hide. I wanna fade away and disappear. I can’t. I can’t deal with it all. I can’t breathe. I can’t move. I’m crying, begging for mercy. Please make it stop. I just need to be in my house. I need to be locked in. Locked in. The door has to be locked at all times. I don’t hang out in my bedroom because what if I can’t hear someone from the outside trying to come in? I stay in the living room. I sleep in the living room. I live in the living room.

4. I don’t take a shower.

I’m terrified. When I take a shower it feels like I’ve just run a marathon and I have nothing left inside of me. I will cry for two days constantly after taking a shower. I’m terrified. I feel as if someone will come in and assault me. I feel as if I can’t trust anyone. I can’t take a shower with my dad or my daughter in the house. I don’t trust them. I can only take a shower if someone is sitting at the door making sure that no one will come in. Literally sitting at the door. It’s a show for me to take a shower. He’s sitting at the door. I’m checking every three minutes to make sure he’s still there. Oh, if I even think he’s left the door, I’m freaking out. I lose my shit. I’m crying and calling out for him. I can’t move. I’m frozen. All I can do is cry and beg for him to be there. He has never left but I’m scared he will every time.

5. I throw up.

Every day. At least once a day. Sounds easy, right? Just throw up and move on. Not so easy. When I’m puking I feel so vulnerable. Like I can easy be taken advantage of. Like I’m fair game for anything to happen to me. Sometimes it’s not so bad. I throw up; nice and simple, doesn’t even take two minutes. Over the trashcan I go, cause I won’t go and throw up in the restroom. Not so bad, huh? Other times, though, I spend hours, literally hours, anywhere from two to four hours, over a trashcan. Gagging, dry heaving and vomiting. It’s exhausting, humiliating and puts me on high alert. I can’t protect myself when this is happening. There’s nothing I can do to stop bad things from happening to me. Nothing. I’m at the mercy of fate, who is a cruel mistress. Fate is a bitch and I hate her.

All that being said. I pray. I pray every day. I beg God to make me better. I beg for my life back. I give thanks for all I do have. I give thanks for getting through another day. This is just a season. A season that will pass and make me a better person. I am grateful for every day, and for a chance to fight another day.

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Originally published: February 1, 2019
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