HI y'all (yes, I am from Massachusetts and say y'all, haha) - my fiancé and I will have been together for #tenyears coming August 17th and we are getting married in October. We are so excited! I

I had brain surgery for intractable #Epilepsy when I was 17 years old, and he and I have been friends since I was 8 years old - so he has seen it all, and then some. Since we got together when I was 20 years old, I have sustained three concussions, one being in a major car accident in February - each causing my migraines to worsen. And each year, we have unraveled more layers of how my initial surgery impacted my mind and body. We have been through so much, surgeries for me and he has a detached retina that had an old suture come through - and we are *praying* we can find someone who can reattach it. SO, we have been through more than people I have met that have weathered thirty year marriages.

SO, our wedding is a BIG DEAL for us - however, it has become a disaster! Nobody seems to understand how draining it is to plan, chase down RSVPS (because half our guests didn't even get their invites), manage family opinions, and also look for a new job all at the same time. Did I mention my rock of a fiancé made sure he got a solid job so I could pursue my writing, and #workfromhome because I was in education and got #COVID19 twice? I am generally someone who can delegate well, but this is causing so much anxiety. Has anyone else had to set firm boundaries with family when wedding planning? I know weddings are stressful, but I didn't want it to be this way because of everything I have going on. Advice so welcome. Thank you!