Bladder Cancer

I hate depression. Been so low since Saturday. Been missing work (thank God for FMLA).
I'm in a sexless marriage, where divorce is not an option.
2nd marriage for both of us.
It's a sexless marriage through no fault... my husband was diagnosed and beat stage 2 bladder cancer a few years ago. Has a permanent urostomy bag and 2 parastomal hernias.
The only thing he needs me for is to change his urostomy bag two times a week.
I never got over my first husband who cheated on me.
My self esteem basically doesn't exist.
My husband and I talked about splitting up yesterday evening.
I live in a very cluttered home. I'm just so burnt out from carrying all this stuff around 24/7.
I know this post is all over the place. I have a counseling appointment tomorrow afternoon. Any encouragement would be helpful.

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Hi, my name is bogoaz5.

I’m in the early stages of fighting T1 high grade non-muscle invasive bladder cancer. Just putting the feelers out for like minded individuals

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Ok Mighty Warriors
It's been awhile since I've posted and I'm looking for some encouragement.
Last week I stayed home from work on W, Th, and Fri because I just couldn't handle life.
The last two months have been pretty stressful.
My husband survived stage 2 bladder cancer about 3 years ago (he's cancer free now) but part of his survival plan was to remove his bladder, prostate and lymph nodes. And about a year ago he developed a parastomal hernia (hernia of the intestines near his stoma).
Anyway, he spent 4 days in the hospital (2 days in the ER) to correct a bowel obstruction. That was March 5-9, 2025.
I had a panic attack at work in March. Which led to me going to my psychiatrist and applying for FMLA coverage. Which I was approved for.
Since being approved for FMLA I seem to have missed more work than I've wanted to.

I feel like my body has been stressed for so long and now that my job isn't in jeopardy (first time I've been approved for FMLA for my mental health struggles) my body is forcing me to relax.

But the problem is I need to go back to work next week.

I can't just drop all the responsibilities that I have, even though sometimes I want to.

So, there's my health struggles (Generalized Anxiety Disorder/ Depression, oh, and Type 2 Diabetes which is not well controlled), my husband's health struggles, and we're down to one vehicle. My car is in the shop bc the transmission needs fixing; and we all know that's not going to be a low cost repair.

So, next week my husband works the 5:00 am till 1:00 pm shift. I know exactly why I started staying home this past Wednesday. It was the first day of the 5:00 am till 1:00 pm shift.

Prior to being on this very early shift, he was on a 10:00 am till 6:00 pm shift and he was home while I was getting ready to go to work.

Whenever he doesn't have to go into work early, he helps me get ready to go out the door. But when he's not here, the task of getting ready for work by myself seems huge to me.

But, next week he works the early shift all week.
Ideas that I've had
Get things ready the night before
Get up when my husband gets up
Get ready for work at the same time my husband does
Go to a Cafe and get some breakfast for myself until it's time to go to work. I'm thinking like IHOP or something, as I don't want to spend a ton of money.

Well, if you've made it all the way to here, thank you!
Any other ideas, so I can have a successful week next week?