entering old age can be fun, but it will depend upon attitude and gratitude. I find gratitude always makes the best attitude—even in my older years. I don’t know of any elderly person who disagrees with this saying: “Old age isn’t for wimps or sissies.” After reaching older age, this has even more impact with the older I get. These years seem to bring more smiles from others when I smile first. Things have started to take a little more time, and with health conditions, it usually takes longer to heal. Remaining young at heart and realizing I made it to this age brings me gratitude.
When I’m in pain — physical or emotional — the kindest thing I can do for myself is…
Be kind to myself.
Seems simple, but we (I) are our own worst critics. We think we shouldn’t be slowed down or hindered by physical or emotional disruptions in the force (haha). But seriously, being kind to myself is the best gift I can give to myself. It’s hard to do at times though. If a good friend or family member was going through the exact same struggles I am, I would see all the brave and beautiful things about that person and would urge them to be kind to themselves. So, the challenge to myself is to see the brave and beautiful things about myself during times of struggle… and be kind. It sounds kinda weird but my focus shifts from myself in away.
Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude, and all that extra stress is gone #52SmallThings#IFindStrenght
IF you use Facebook, you would never be able to discern my periods of intense pain, anxiety, Brain fog and depression from the times when I was feeling pretty good.
Instead, you’ll find posts that suggest I’m in an apparently constant state of joy and accomplishment: Photos of my family on hikes, park trails , beachs and crafts with my niece and nephews, and kids. Much of this happiness was real. And much of it was totally manufactured. The truth is that what people post on social media often has very little to do with their inner state of mind. You don't post about how bad your pain is, that you've been in bed for two days, or definitely not photos of you on a bad day. That you've fallen and had a seizer in the shower again and your kids had to stay there naked mom out of the shower floor.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how insurance companies will sometimessage use their evaluation of your claims,” “That led me to thinking about what a potentially irresponsible and risky thing that is, particularly pertaining to invisibleillness for several reasons: for one, people rarely post pictures of themselves in the throes of panic and anxiety attacks or grieving, being stuck in bed and crying in pain, curating the perfect picture of yourself on social media is kind of the purpose of social media.” When i scroll through my Facebook feed “and counted the pictures where I look happy and well-adjusted but was really struggling. We must remember that ab collection of photos offers a few important reminders. First, far too often, we see other people shining on social media, and we assume that they, and everyone for that matter, are far happier than we are. They have more friends and better relationships. They’re more fulfilled by their jobs and definitely more successful. Their kids never act like insatiable devils, and they actually love their in-laws.
This cycle is exhausting. It is the damaging effects of social media on invisible illnesses. This influence is only amplified by the fact that it’s easy (and expected) to post fun, light experiences, but it feels overbearing to share your experiences with the darker sides of life. Posting about depression, ,brain fog, tumors and even cancer makes you feel weak, and less of a person.
“Depression negatively affects your memory in a number of ways, including making it difficult to recall happy memories in general and especially positive memories about yourself,”. So even if you’re in the midst of a painful period in life, there’s nothing wrong with taking a photo of yourself at dinner with friends or having fun on your vacation. You can be unhappy and a little bit happy, too. they reveal not only the universality of pain, but also the overwhelming fear that we have of being seen at our worst. Even more profoundly, they reveal the beauty of a person who is unwell, but wants to be able to imagine themselves as better. One who is trying, in their way, to heal. When we’re at a personal low,
it always seems to help me personally if I am able to do something for someone else battling their own problems. Lifting others up and helping them is a great medication. #52SmallThings
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