I love my fiancé but he has the worst older sister I’ve ever met. In the beginning we got along great even though it was apparent she was a spoiled, rude brat of a woman, but after their mother died in a tragic car accident and their father was horribly injured in the same accident, it’s like I became one of her many targets and everyone just lets her. She has issues of her own and I think she has some OCD, but refuses to get help for it. It all came to a head last summer when we all went on vacation. Everything had to be her routine, and if not here comes the mouth. Now I have anxiety that effects my stomach in the worst way and often times it made it difficult for me to want to do everything they wanted to do. Between the large meals, the summer heat and activities it got to the point if I didn’t separate at some point I could have an attack. If it did occur, I was fine going back by myself. My fiancé is a caring man who doesn’t like to see me by myself if I am suffering and as much as I insisted he stay, he’d go back with me. This angered future sister in law because it made her think I was keeping her brother from enjoying himself and was missing out on things. The whole trip she was snarky to me even when fiancé told her to knock it off. It came to a head when at one point she told me to shut up. The anger in me boiled over and not only did I tell her off, I kicked her and her infant daughter out of my wedding party. I even said that if her husband had a “job” on our wedding day he was out too as a groomsman. He wasn’t on this vacation with us for that reason. The man works in sound production and in all honesty we see he felt pressured into marrying her then having kids. So he takes any job offered to him to stay away. And this is where the topic of this post comes in. At first I was thinking we’d still have her husband in our wedding party (because fiancé was groomsman in their wedding) then I thought forget it. The man while hardworking is very self-absorbed, falls asleep at the worst times (no he’s not narcoleptic) and all around unless it involves him, why give a damn? So I thought I said to my fiancé I didn’t want him in it. He thought I did and long story short, I told him it’s his choice. He said he’d think about it. Yesterday we were looking at suits he told the gentleman brother in law might tentatively be in it. I know he had been hinting at it (though he denies it) so I said today that he’s in the wedding party but if his sister who is best woman needs help I hope she realizes he won’t because he’s a selfish man. Fiancé was saying he wasn’t sure and this and that and then I just blew about his sister. Her attitude, his family’s reluctance to tell her to stop, and how he better understand that if she comes at me again, I will not be like the rest of them and take it. They do yell back at her, but not vicious enough like she does them. I’m just fed up, our whole wedding has been about everyone else!