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Hi, my name is CautiousHorse4814. I'm here because
I believe my wife (we are separated now) may have DID. I have a MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and there have been two mental health professionals who have assessed our situation and suggested that my wife may have DID. She was the most kind and amazing woman I ever met and she stated that way until 6 weeks after we married. I had asked her if she could please turn the bedroom TV volume down a little bit because I was trying to get to sleep. She went into a 4 hour tirade against me, saying horribly hurtful things, letting me know that she had been harboring resentments about me that I had no clue about, threatening me with divorce, etc. I was in total shock and confusion. She had previously never said one unkind word to me. I cried all night and when she woke up in the morning to me in tears and I said "well, you told me that you were going to divorce me", I will never forget the look of surprise and shock that crossed her face. But, she quickly masked that surprise and just said that she would never divorce me. That was the first time of thousands of times that she would go from being my loving wife, to the most cruel person who obviously hated and resented me in an instant. It was like a light switch. And then she would change back to her good self usually after she slept. I didn't understand what I was dealing with. I am still not certain. A lot of her abuse absolutely matches with Narcissistic Abuse. But, I always had a feeling like I was married to two very different people. We moved to Mexico in 2024 and within a year, she was being extremely abusive to me more often than not. She did extremely cruel things to me. She once told me that she had created a file on me and could make me look like a criminal if my family didn't wire her $100k. But, the worst thing is that she was drugging me and having men come to our home and into our bedroom. Witnesses gave their sworn testimony that she was doing that to me as well as beating me and cutting me when I was unconscious or very impaired on the drugs she was giving me without my knowledge. I got away from her after that. I have been diagnosed with severe, acute PTSD, I have suffered terribly because of everything she did to me. We had no communication for over a year and we recently have talked and texted. I confronted her with everything she did to me and she absolutely denies it. I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks that she has DID and she doesn't remember doing it to me. Part of me thinks she is a sociopath and a malignant narcissist and she is just hoovering to try to pull me back into the abuse dynamic. It's very confusing. It's been absolutely devastating.
