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I need some Advice...level of urgency:IMMEDIATE

Well ..my best friend...rather my closest to heart friend ..from my diagnosis she is suffering from severe anxiety and histrionic personality disorder which she is positively unaware of ...some common sources I have identified from observing her is...

Her family relation ...her relationship with her father is imbalanced and often get into fits...she has a hatred towards her father.

She is way dominant towards her mother and often uses her voice and physice to dominate her .

Her only loved one was her grandmother and she would often go to her house to stay...she was brought up mostly by her grandmother but due to unknown reasons she hasn't been visiting as she would .

Her relationship with me is of open and depth...she often and rather always calls me up during her emotional unstabilitys

But whenever she has to face some challenges or any sort of work or assessment she resorts to writing a message bidding farewell and how her surrounding is the cause of her current mental status.

She expects her decisions to be the sole decision ...

Currently board examination and college admissions too have taken a toll.

She often ends up writing messages of long lengths to seek attention and sympathy by referring to her trying to attempt suicide ...take pills etc.

She has a real bad mouth as in ...her respect towards authoritative figures or anyone is really low.

She feels the more she acts the rude and foul mouthed the more attention she would get

She even has started assorting to taking and also continuing to intake alcohol and smoke...she has developed an excessive need to try any and every thing that might affect her health .

She has become adamant and suspicious of her own parents.

She cannot think of situations practically but often go outside her practical and comfort thinking to wierd and really impossible thought.

She highlights anything and everything as a triggering element ... including me ...Me helping her in studies ... correcting her rude and arrogant behaviour ..any thing i try to do

Any opinion or well wishing from me or her closed ones makes her feel that we are going against her thoughts and trying to prevent her from achieving what she wants ... What do you think ? How should I comfort her through whatsapp chat or message ...because I am not a person who can console somebody well through calls..and often have my practical reality checks saying out loud while talking...

She has become obsessively insecure about her body ..so and so that she is yapping constantly about how surgries would help

she feels everyone is agaiinst her and relies more on the social media world ..the fake standards put up by it...

i cant even stop... like i am seeing a gradual decrease in her lifetsyle every day and i really need to make her aware that what I or her family is trying to tell or do is not bad ... its just ... i really want my old best friend ..my sister back !!

Please help me . I know helpline numbers exist but I don't want those...as a sister to her how should I approach and change her and tell her it's her who can change herself..and that it's all she who is preventing herself from achieving greatness.

I REALLY NEED SOME GUIDANCE BECAUSE I AM ALSO JUST 18 .. AND TO ...TO HELP AND GUIDE HER PROFFESSIONALLY I AM DEFINITELY NOT SO PROFFICIENT . ..AND SHE ALSO DOESNT WANT PROFFESIONAL HELP ..BUT I WANT HER TO ACHIEVE HER GOALS ..SEE HER IMPROVING IN HEALTH BOTH MIND AND BODY...

Hi, my name is GentleJaguar6851. I'm here because
I need some help and advice for some really dear and close to me !!
Level of urgency:IMMEDIATE:::Well ..my best friend...rather my closest to heart friend ..from my diagnosis she is suffering from severe anxiety and histrionic personality disorder which she is positively unaware of ...some common sources I have identified from observing her is...
Her family relation ...her relationship with her father is imbalanced and often get into fits...she has a hatred towards her father.
She is way dominant towards her mother and often uses her voice and physice to dominate her .
Her only loved one was her grandmother and she would often go to her house to stay...she was brought up mostly by her grandmother but due to unknown reasons she hasn't been visiting as she would .
Her relationship with me is of open and depth...she often and rather always calls me up during her emotional unstabilitys
But whenever she has to face some challenges or any sort of work or assessment she resorts to writing a message bidding farewell and how her surrounding is the cause of her current mental status.
She expects her decisions to be the sole decision ...
Currently board examination and college admissions too have taken a toll.
She often ends up writing messages of long lengths to seek attention and sympathy by referring to her trying to attempt suicide ...take pills etc.
She has a real bad mouth as in ...her respect towards authoritative figures or anyone is really low.
She feels the more she acts the rude and foul mouthed the more attention she would get
She even has started assorting to taking and also continuing to intake alcohol and smoke...she has developed an excessive need to try any and every thing that might affect her health .
She has become adamant and suspicious of her own parents.
She cannot think of situations practically but often go outside her practical and comfort thinking to wierd and really impossible thought.
She highlights anything and everything as a triggering element ... including me ...Me helping her in studies ... correcting her rude and arrogant behaviour ..any thing i try to do
Any opinion or well wishing from me or her closed ones makes her feel that we are going against her thoughts and trying to prevent her from achieving what she wants ... What do you think ? How should I comfort her through whatsapp chat or message ...because I am not a person who can console somebody well through calls..and often have my practical reality checks saying out loud while talking...
She has become obsessively insecure about her body ..so and so that she is yapping constantly about how surgries would help
she feels everyone is agaiinst her and relies more on the social media world ..the fake standards put up by it...
i cant even stop... like i am seeing a gradual decrease in her lifetsyle every day and i really need to make her aware that what I or her family is trying

Hi, my name is KBeauty. I'm here because 16yrs ago I had a mental breakdown, diagnosed bipolar w phycosis, schizophrenia w delusions. I was leaving an abusive relationship and was threaten w a gun. Was using marijauna. I just recently saw this attacker on the street I lived and became in a state of panic which became increasingly more intense w delusions of hearing gun shots and of thinking someone was trying to kill me. Spent a few days in a mental health hospital and diagnosed bipolar. I think I need a PTSD diagnosis. I still live in fear. I moved out of the house I lived in , from fear of him shooting up my house. I have 2 kids now. And my 5 yr old son’s father has never been consistent. Only w nit being there. We’ve been evicted twice and last year water and power was cut off multiple times. And left there to deal w it by myself and my kids. I have my own one bedroom now w my kids. Life is hard my son is not in school till this August.

#MightyTogether #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #PTSD

I realized that if my son was to pass away, he is a teenager, it is unlikely, that would be the last thing keeping me on this Earth.
My fiance would not be enough, the rest of my family would not be enough, it would be game over.
Then I had an even worse thought, if I never had him I could have already done it.
I got rid of that thought quickly because I am happy he is here, though I worry he will end up like me.
However, the fact that I don't think my fiance would be enough for me to push on if I lost my son makes me feel really crappy, almost like the only good thing to do would be to break off the relationship now so she can maybe meet someone more stable. I am honest with her about where my head goes, but that creates hurt as well.
I have no idea what to do.

We don't talk about this often but starting over and healing can hurt. Learning to reparent and forgive yourself comes with many rewards, but it can come with what seems like the cost of pain.

The pain is temporary, but it's hard not to get lost in it especially when it gets unbearable.

Healing sometimes require pinpointing where the pain started. It's not to wish what you could have done differently, but it's to thank the past for teaching hard lessons and acknowledging that you are human. And as humans, we are flawed.

I never fully closed any of my chapters which is probably why I continued to have repeated behaviors, patterns, and even experiences. Life will continue to bring you the same lessons until you've finally had enough. And, boy.. I've had enough.

At 33 soon to be 34, I am finding that everything is finally catching up to me. I can't keep running away forever. At some point, we have to stop & realize that we hold the key to free ourselves from prison.

I hope whoever is reading this understands that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I'm finding that no matter how dark and frightening it gets, you have to just keep on walking with the trust and belief that the light will find you.

#CheckInWithMe #BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Relationships #Healing #Anxiety #Bpdrecovery #MentalHealth #PTSD #PTSDSupportAndRecovery #PostTraumaticStressDisorder