When my husband and I were about to get engaged my future in-laws asked to meet me. At the meeting they told me that they don’t approve of my religious level and are concerned that I would be a bad influence on their daughters it was a mean and bullying behavior, and not different than the horrific things that they inflicted on me in the early years of my marriage. Many years many tears and much therapy later we figured out how to set up healthy and strict boundaries while maintaining a respectful relationship with them. Our marriage is not just intact it’s truly wonderful. Our oldest child is married our second is betrothed. While welcoming new members to my family it hit me with the force of a sledgehammer the love, the kindness and the warmth I never got. The acceptance I was never given. How two adults in their forties bullied a nineteen year old child. It is something I can never get back and I’m grieving I’m reliving the trauma. I’m enraged. How??? As many affirmations as I give my children and children in law I hope they feel enveloped in a bosom of love… #Grief #Pain #narcicism #Family #Love #hurt