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    introducing myself.

    hi, I’m new to the mighty. I’d never heard of this app before my therapist suggested it as a way to try to expand my social circle with like-minded individuals since I have a hard time making new friends. I’m #neurodivergent (diagnosed #ADHD , but possibly also #Autistic ) and also deal with #generalanxietydisorder, major treatment resistant #Depression , and food issues. I am a previous patient of ECT therapy.

    some other info about me: I’m #nonbinary and my pronouns are they/them; I’m also queer. I’m fat and learning to love my body, and trying to dress the way I want despite years of being afraid to. I really like punk/goth/alternative fashion but I also love tie-dying and Crocs so I’m trying to reconcile all that. I love tattoos (I have three so far) and piercings (6 facial so far). I like going to Disneyland but kind of abhor them as a corporation. I love animals of all kinds and I have a dog and two snakes who live with me, plus two cats with my parents. I used to love writing and reading a lot more; I’ve actually won several poetry competitions, but due to my depression and subsequent ECT treatment I have a hard time cognitively and it’s become quite difficult for me to read or write more than a short post on social media.

    I’m starting to realize how much I miss socializing now that I’m not as depressed as I used to be and I’d love to find community and maybe even some friends. Photo is of me in case anyone is curious. The sweater is Sauron-themed because I love LOTR.

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    It’s hard living as a nonbinary individual… and just trans | TW misgendering, gendered phrases/products, fetishism, lack of recognition/representation

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    This is going to be a long vent.. so I apologize.

    I thought that my preferred clinic had a nonbinary option, but I remembered that it was only on one of their forms. The other form said “m or f” so I just put nonbinary on top of it (which was the only form I was given).

    It just plain sucks. For example, earlier this year, I forced myself to change my gender marker to Male on my ID since I despise being seen as female, but even though I’m transmasc, it’s still not satisfactory. And while being there, I was misgendered as a woman a ton. 😒

    We have to freaking wait for 3 more freaking years for a gender neutral marker in the US, and I’m so sick of waiting for that long already!

    Shopping online sucks, too. Today, I was so mad that computer glasses were gendered. They’re freaking computer glasses!! And I still like some feminine stuff and being androgynous but hate that everything feminine is labeled “for ladies”. And although I know that clothes don’t equal gender, seeing those “women/girls” and “men/women” labels still trigger my dysphoria. And you may say “well, there are markets out there who make clothes gender neutral and aim for inclusiveness for those outside the binary”, but 1) most of them cost too much money that I don’t want to spend and we’re not rich, and 2) they’re not really my style of clothing.

    And I hate when companies (or anything/anyone) say or put options for those out of the gender binary, but then don’t use gender neutral language at all, like “mom/dad” or the worst one, “ladies and gentlemen”… Like we don’t just want to be included in gender options, but in everyday language, too! Especially if someone’s interested in specific topics like bdsm and doesn’t want to be freaking fetishized for being trans like come on 🙄

    I’m not a freaking fetish.

    Anyway, this is the reason why I may appear anti-social and why I have my headphones on whenever I go outside. That and I tried to not made being nonbinary not do obvious, but no. Since from being misgendered a lot no matter what I freaking look like, I’ve had it and now my hat, mask, and patches clearly state that I’m nonbinary and to not call me miss, ma’am, or she. So that those who can read can see it very obviously. My social dysphoria is that bad.

    Having to put up with this almost everyday is so tiring and annoying and just… ugh.

    #nonbinary #genderqueer #GenderDysphoria #LGBTQIA #venting #itsucks #SocialAnxiety #Autism

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    How Presentation Affects Representation - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 56

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    🗣 - "Taylor Lakhryst was an undecided voter who participated in a #CBC program called Face to Face during last year's federal election campaign. While being on the show gave her a chance to ask questions of a party leader, she felt CBC's production choices spoiled the experience by making her appear inept and powerless."

    ❓ - What's #DwhellOnIt ?

    👀 - Dwhell On It is a series where I answer your questions about my lived experience as a #trans woman!

    📺 - A new episode gets uploaded every week! - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLr2CrTrMJaIzM7ETpDxpMcGHhJ1TPxPq4

    ‼️ - Get engaged!

    ➕ - Subscribe for more episodes & similar #Content ! - www.youtube.com/TaylorLakhryst

    ✉️ - #Comment w/ thoughts & questions!

    👍🏻 - Please like & #Share !

    🔖 - Bookmarks!

    "While you expressed #Gratitude for the #Opportunity to provide visibility on the subject of abuse toward the 2SLBGTQIA+ #Community , you felt that #CBC made choices which diluted your appearance. It left you feeling, if not misrepresented, then underrepresented."

    It feels as if #CBC chose to represent me as what I interpret as inept, powerless, and stuck with candy-coated concerns because who I am isn't palatable enough for Canadians who can't cope that #people such as myself strive to inspire and create #change .

    #social platforms highlighted my segment as being of the utmost importance on an issue that had not been placed front and centre in the campaign until my appearance.

    I continued to focus much of my argument on the treatment of my introductory video. I emphasized how problematic it was that this video highlighted "my love for #Sports and karaoke" while omitting more substantive #Comments about the importance of placing responsibility for bigotry and hate-based abuse on the abusers rather than the victims.

    "I'm an undecided voter because" and "Let's be #leaders …" were extracted from two completely different sections of what I provided. #CBC created that line and not me, and I'm not sure if that is conducive to "accuracy."

    "You stated that you followed all the directives given to you in advance by producers, yet you were the only one of the four participants given less than 40 seconds of airtime."

    "You also reiterated that #CBC exercised poor judgment when it failed to include your exchange about pronouns with #ErinOToole .”

    #CBC watered me down and presented me with the safest, most palatable and most comfortable image they could build based on the information I provided.

    "Your complaint is, first and foremost, a reminder that the stories journalists tell are not really "theirs." They are the stories of real #people with real lives, ambitions, and concerns."

    Journalistic Standards and Practices covers much ground regarding ethical #Journalism but doesn't cover specific circumstances.

    "There is more debate to be had about editing your introductory video … it's clear that those producers took two risks with your video."

    "On your frustration that the #question you asked on the show was "negotiated," … I worried it meant that programmers were forcing you to ask the questions that they wanted."

    🔗 - Links!

    How Presentation Affects Representation - tinyurl.com/yc26c89x

    Your Friends Appreciate a Random Check-In Call or Text More Than You Realize - tinyurl.com/3hbad7au

    What four undecided voters asked #ErinOToole | Face to Face 2021 - tinyurl.com/2p8ntybn

    #Media and #Journalism are transphobic. I was on #CBC News: The National Face to Face - tinyurl.com/5yfc9a65

    #Canada Voted In Favour of Policing Women's Bodies! - tinyurl.com/56b67cr9

    Is there anything that #people expect you to be good at but are very bad at? - tinyurl.com/br4j293z

    #CBC News: The National | #ErinOToole , Alberta's deadly COVID-19 surge, TIFF returns - tinyurl.com/4mvaemvy

    👀 - Create #change !  

    📣 - End anti-2SLGBTQIA+ abuse! - act.newmode.net/action/hirewheller/csr

    📣 - You can #help ! Everything inspiring HireWheller stays ongoing - biased systems, ignorant platforms, violent abusers & isolated victims.

    📣 - Grassroots #power comes from its #people ! Get involved or refer others you know to challenge systemic violence & oppression!

    💻 - Connect!

    @HireWheller: A grassroots group to #help the 2SLGBTQIA+ #Community overcome often-minimized struggles.

    Instagram: https://instagram.com/hirewheller

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HireWheller-103322085282334

    #Twitter : https://twitter.com/HireWheller?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw

    👱🏼‍♀️ - Look me up!

    TaylorLakhryst: #Transgender woman, advocate, INFJ, ♊️, she/her/hers 🏳️‍⚧️

    Linktree: linktr.ee/TaylorLakhryst

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    Please help me come up with a gender neutral outfit for my friend’s interview

    Hi! So firstly, I hope everyone is doing ok <3 so,="" i="" have="" a="" friend="" and="" they’re="" non="" binary="" they="" to="" do="" an="" interview="" thing="" for="" university="" as="" part="" of="" their="" course.="" the="" problem="" is="" are="" being="" marked="" (partly)="" on="" appropriate="" dress="" attire="" but="" really="" struggling="" because="" basically="" all="" women="" seem="" be="" wearing="" dresses="" high="" heels="" men="" suits="" stuff.="" don’t="" want="" wear="" suit="" feel="" comfortable="" in="" that="" certainly="" wanna="" or="" heels.="" if="" anyone="" has="" any="" suggestions="" what="" could="" which="" more="" gender="" neutral="" option="" it="" would="" greatly="" appreciated!="" thank="" you!!="" #nonbinary

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    I’m getting tired of fighting against people’s prejudice

    I’m non binary and the way I dress, plus the piercings and tattoos I choose to wear, the ones that help me express who I am, cause me a constant negative judgment from people.
    I’m a teacher and the places where I work won’t allow me any opportunities because of this, regardless of the positive feedback I’ve received for the last four years
    At the beginning I stood up and spoke about it to my boss, but now I feel like I’m doomed to deal with it and just accept that, as long as I look like this, I’ll have to accept that treatment.
    #Anxiety #nonbinary #Discrimination #Prejudice #Tattoos #piercings

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    Starting to embrace who I am... #LGBTQIA #MentalHealth #Disability #Trauma #queer #nonbinary #trans

    I've been doing a combo of talk therapy, EMDR, and a type of therapy called internal family systems. This combination of treatment, plus my own personal work, is really helping me to embrace who I am. I feel like I am finally getting somewhere. I am also dating again too.... it's exciting, scary, and awesome. I am feeling so many feelings. I am also, with select people in my life, trying out they/them pronouns, possibly even a new name! This journey is not easy, and I know there are others in this group that may relate. It's hard to have mental illness and deal with identity challenges, trauma, disability, etc, all at once! But we got this. I believe in you, and I am finally starting to believe in me.

    I identify as queer in my sexuality as well as ace spectrum. I identify as non-binary and trans-masc in my gender identity. I am learning to embrace ALL sides of myself!

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    #CheckInWithMe #CheerMeOn #MightyTogether

    #Bipolar1Disorder #PTSD #Trauma #ADHD #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #LearningDisabilities #Tourettes #EatingDisorders #Recovery

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    Learning who I am

    A few months ago I came out to my family as #nonbinary , meaning I used they/them pronouns instead of she/her. Essentially I was somewhere between a girl and a boy. But more recently I've learned that I am in fact not nonbinary, but a Demi-boy. This means that I use both They/Them pronouns along with He/Him pronouns. I also now use the alias Skyler, or Sky for short. After learning this about myself I spent about a week in a state of total panic to tell my family. I have always had a very accepting family...on my mom's side. The problem is my mom's boyfriend's side of the family. They're the kind of #homophobic people that don't realize they're homophobic. It's a (harmful) subconscious bias of cisgender people. I came out to my maternal family a couple of days ago and have gotten endless support and love from them! But I'm scared to tell the other side of the family. My mom is going to help me tell her boyfriend, but then he'll end up outing me to his mom and so on. It's just #scary . I might be #overreacting but I don't know.

    #Depression #Anxiety #PTSD #Fear #LGBTQ #Advice #help #scared #Parents #teenager

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    I'm new here!

    Hi, my name is mytho. I'm new to The Mighty and look forward to sharing my story. #MightyTogether #Fibromyalgia #PolycysticOvarySyndrome #Chronicbronchitis #nonbinary

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    I did it!!

    I finally figured out my name. As a #nonbinary I didn't like the "girl" name that I had. So...I changed it!! My name is now Skyler. I had this friend and her boyfriends name is Skyler, and then on the show Breaking Bad, a woman's name is Skyler...so I tried it out with a few people and it just seems fitting =D

    #finally

    #LGBTQ

    #LGBTQAI

    #loveyourself

    #inowknowmyname

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