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Id cry but I'm completely numb

Pauley is burnt out from everything. I feel awful about it but I keep reminding myself this is what she signed up for when she decided to be my caregiver. On my bad days I need a steady supply of coffee and juice. I've been asking her for juice and she says yeah and then 2 hours later I finally go make it myself cuz clearly she can't handle it. I feel like I'm just asking for too much. she gave me a laundry list of her tasks and honestly most of it was stuff you already do for your partner in a relationship. And then she said I don't do enough in the relationship. I'm the only one trying to find events for us to have enrichment. I've got 2 apps for events that I search for weekend stuff. It's difficult for me to stand in the kitchen for more than 10 minutes.
The way my health problems ramped up so bad this past year is shocking. I was afraid she would think it was a lie to get out of chores. But the X-rays of my hips told the truth. Bone on bone. And the bone spurs got worse. I'm gonna have an MRI in about 12 days. The doctor suspects more damage than what showed up on the X-ray. We also need to see the full extent of my lumbar post surgery. The pain is unbearable. My meds only work about one third of the time. I spend a good amount of time crying in bed so Pauley doesn't see it. She knows it got bad. She knows I'm struggling to manage my bad days. But she has no concept of chronic pain.
It's gotten bad enough that I require mobility aid. I've got my brand new rollater and I love it. I also have a bench in the shower. After 4 minutes of standing in place, my lumbar gives out and either I sit down or I fall down.
I'm exhausted and feel drained. Pauley is going to the office for work in 10 minutes. We had a little argument tonight and I need space and time to process it.
She just left, transportation just got here. It's gonna be a lonely night.

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It’s been 4 years since I posted and went silent

TW: selfharm and suicidal ideation

As I am preparing for my 3rd endometriosis surgery I feel stuck in so many places in my life. I don’t do therapy anymore cause I have no money to pay for it. I’m done with the medication. No more antidepressants for me. None of them help me. My Endometriosis is taking over every part of my life. My relationship is going really bad. I can’t work, the daily pain is sooo bad I can’t do anything. I’m thinking about cutting or ending it all because the pain, my mental health, my relationship and I feel like I’m rotting in bed and have no future.. I take so much supplements which kinda help but I wouldn’t be here without oxycodone unfortunately and I’m so tired It’s hard to get the right pain treatment after being called a medicine shopper and addict. Like I would ever take oxycodone for fun and have this much pain for fun or lie about it. The amount of gaslighting I’ve been through either medically or in relationships is too much too still be treated this way. They took my painkillers away and replaced them with paracetamol :/ I wanted to kill myself of the pain and the doctor said maybe you need to check yourself in the mental health ward. No b*tch I need to get meds for the pain. I tried everything. Now I’m afraid to take them or to ask something about my dose. Or even a new prescription. My ovary and uterus are fused together with my sigmoid/rectum and had cysts on them. Anyone else would’ve gone to the ER by now. #Endometriosis #CPTSD #medicalgaslighting #complextrauma #Selfharm #SuicidalIdeation #ChronicPain

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Embracing Quietness: Finding Strength in Silence

Being quiet and shy has impacted me in more ways than I can count. It’s been a heavy silence that no one really sees, and a loneliness that stretches long and deep. I’ve always had a hard time forming new relationships. It feels awkward most of the time, stumbling over invisible words.

For most of my life, I’ve struggled with communication. I don’t always know what to say, or how to say it. Sometimes I get so nervous that I just laugh, even when nothings funny. Or I’ll say “thank you” when someone asks me a basic question. Because I panic and suddenly forget how conversations work. It makes me feel awkward, small, and like I’m always behind.

And if I’m being honest, this quietness—this deep, tender part of me—has made me feel painfully lonely at times.

The Loneliness of Being Quiet

Because I’m quiet, people often assume I’m okay. But I’ve spent a lot of time suffering in silence. I’ve held back tears in public places. I’ve smile through anxiety. I’ve kept so much inside, out of fear that if I spoke up, I’d be judged.

Even now, even knowing what I know—about my ADHD, my autism, my anxiety—it’s still hard. It explains things, yes. But it doesn’t make the loneliness disappear. It doesn’t stop the ache of wanting connection but not knowing how to reach for it. It doesn’t take away the fear that maybe I’ll always be alone.

There are days I quietly wonder if I’ll ever find someone who truly understands me. Sometimes I worry that being this quiet, this reserved, means that I’ll always feel like an outsider. That I’ll stay single, not because I want to be, but because I don’t know how to “put myself out there” in the way people expect. It’s a fear that I carry, and one that hurts more than I like to admit.

But My Voice Was Always There

But the thing is, I have a voice. Even when I thought it was buried under years of silence and self-doubt, it was there.

Lately, I’ve been trying to speak up more, and stand taller in my own skin. I’m learning to say what I need. I’m learning to set boundaries. I’m learning to share parts of myself even if my voice shakes. Even if I still laugh when I’m nervous. It’s scary, but also freeing. And quite frankly, I’m very proud of myself for trying.

Power Isn’t Always Loud

For so long, I thought I had to be louder to matter. I thought that I had to be more outgoing, more extroverted, or more…something. But I don’t believe that anymore.

I might never be the loudest person in the room, but that doesn’t mean I’m not powerful. There’s strength and courage in showing up, even when you feel invisible. And in speaking, finally, after years of holding everything in.

I’m not silencing myself anymore. I’m letting my voice rise, bravely, and on my own terms. And maybe, just maybe, the quietest voices carry the loudest truths.

“Our silence is not weakness; it is the soil from which our voices grow.”

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#MentalHealth #ADHD #Autism #BipolarDisorder #Depression #Anxiety

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There was a time when I didn’t know how to like myself. Mostly because I never understood who I truly was. I would always picture myself as someone else. Someone confident, talkative, and more capable. Because inside, I felt small and had no clue how to decipher my emotions.

I always felt off, like I was constantly falling short. Socially. Emotionally. Professionally. I’m extremely sensitive, somewhat spacey, and the poster child for the “quiet” girl. So, felt like I was inept. Not productive enough, not fast enough, and not the easiest person to understand.

I learned to mold myself into what others needed me to be. I’d mask my discomfort, my confusion, and even my personality. I was the master at pretending everything was fine, when clearly it wasn’t. I was an emotional wreck inside, and the longer I did it, the more disconnected I became from who I was underneath it all.

Diagnosis Wasn’t the End—It Was the Beginning

Getting my diagnoses later in life changed everything for me. It didn’t happen overnight though. There was a lot of back-and-forth emotions for me. But ultimately, it was like a light being turned on in a long forgotten dark room.

Suddenly, there were reasons for the things I’d hated myself for. The forgetfulness. The brain fog. The emotional extremes. The overstimulation. The shutdowns. The way I’d disappear into daydreams just to cope. They weren’t moral failures. They weren’t character flaws. They were real, they had names, and they weren’t my fault.

From Criticism to Compassion

It wasn’t easy to shift how I treated myself. I’d spent decades internalizing that I was a problem to fix. That I had to earn love, rest, and peace by being good enough or useful enough.

But slowly, therapy, self-reflection, new experiences, and writing helped me being to extend gentleness to the parts of me I used to shame.

I started noticing how hard I was trying. How much I carried. And how much I cared, even when my brain made things harder than they needed to be.

I Still Have Bad Days

There are days where I slip back into old patterns—self-blame, overthinking, comparison. Days where my brain feels like static. Days where the fog is thick and I don’t know where I went.

But now, I know what’s happening. I don’t label myself a failure. I don’t abandon myself anymore. I might be starting over from scratch, but I’m discovering parts of myself that I didn’t know existed.

Becoming My Own Safe Place

My relationship with myself is getting better each day. I’m continually growing, and I think I’m headed in a more positive direction. I’m not trying to be easy to understand, but I’m trying to be real.

I may not always love myself, but I have a newfound respect for myself now. And that’s definitely not something I could say a few years ago.

#MentalHealth #ADHD #AutismSpectrumDisorder #BipolarDisorder #Depresssion

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Why Counseling Centers Are the First Step Toward Holistic Mental Health in 2025

🌱 The Importance of Counseling Centers in Mental Health

As we approach 2025, mental health has become a significant priority across both personal and professional spheres. Counseling centers are emerging as the cornerstone of holistic mental health care, offering individuals the support they need to manage stress, navigate life’s challenges, and build emotional resilience.

In the context of an increasingly fast-paced world, counseling centers provide essential services that address not only mental health but also emotional well-being, making them the first step toward holistic mental health. These centers focus on comprehensive care that tackles the root causes of mental health issues rather than just the symptoms.

⚡ AEO Quick Answer

Q: Why are counseling centers crucial for holistic mental health in 2025?

A: Counseling centers offer foundational support for mental and emotional well-being, helping individuals address the root causes of their challenges. This comprehensive approach sets the stage for achieving holistic mental health in a rapidly changing world.

📍 GEO Insight: Rising Awareness of Mental Health in the U.S.

In the U.S., mental health awareness has skyrocketed in recent years, with counseling centers becoming a critical part of the mental wellness landscape. As workplace stress, societal pressures, and personal challenges continue to rise, Americans are increasingly turning to counseling centers for help. These centers are integral in managing stress and fostering emotional well-being, especially as mental health challenges become more recognized and prioritized.

Counseling centers are not only essential for individual well-being but also for strengthening community mental health. With mental health being an integral part of overall health in the U.S., counseling centers are playing a vital role in the broader movement toward mental wellness.

🎯 How Counseling Centers Lead to Holistic Mental Health

1. Addressing the Root Causes of Mental Health Issues

One of the core principles of counseling centers is to look beyond surface-level symptoms and explore the root causes of emotional and psychological challenges. Whether it’s childhood trauma, relationship difficulties, or workplace stress, counseling centers provide the tools to understand and address these underlying factors. This comprehensive approach is essential for long-term mental wellness.

Benefits:

Long-Term Solutions: By tackling the root causes of mental health issues, counseling leads to lasting improvements in mental health and emotional well-being.

Better Coping Strategies: Counseling equips individuals with effective coping mechanisms that they can use in challenging situations, reducing the risk of relapse into poor mental health.

Empowerment: Through therapy and counseling, individuals gain the skills and knowledge to take charge of their mental health, empowering them to live healthier lives.

2. Providing a Safe Space for Emotional Expression

Counseling centers offer a confidential and supportive environment where individuals can express their emotions freely. This space is crucial for those who may feel stigmatized or isolated in discussing their struggles. By fostering open dialogue, counseling centers help individuals better understand their emotions, leading to healthier emotional regulation and improved mental health.

Benefits:

Reduced Anxiety and Stress: Speaking openly about emotions in a safe, non-judgmental space alleviates anxiety and stress, which are common precursors to mental health issues.

Improved Self-Understanding: Counseling helps individuals better understand their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, leading to increased emotional intelligence.

Stronger Support Systems: Counseling centers help build trust between individuals and their therapists, strengthening emotional support systems.

3. Enhancing Mental Resilience and Coping Skills

Mental resilience is the ability to withstand and recover from life’s challenges, and counseling centers play a key role in helping individuals build this resilience. Whether it’s through cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness practices, or stress management techniques, counseling centers offer the tools needed to improve mental resilience.

Benefits:

Better Adaptation to Change: Counseling helps individuals become more adaptable to life changes, reducing stress and improving mental wellness.

Increased Confidence: Developing mental resilience boosts self-confidence, allowing individuals to navigate challenging situations with greater ease.

Healthier Relationships: Counseling enhances interpersonal skills and communication, leading to stronger, healthier relationships with others.

4. Creating Holistic Support Systems

Holistic mental health is achieved when an individual’s emotional, physical, and psychological needs are met. Counseling centers integrate these components to create a well-rounded support system that addresses all aspects of an individual’s mental health. This holistic approach is vital in 2025, where a balanced, comprehensive view of mental health is more critical than ever.

Benefits:

Well-Rounded Well-Being: Holistic counseling centers help individuals find balance in their lives, integrating emotional, physical, and mental health strategies.

Strengthened Support Systems: Counseling centers often work in tandem with other wellness practices (e.g., nutrition, fitness, and mindfulness) to provide comprehensive care.

Better Quality of Life: Individuals who receive holistic care report improved well-being, greater life satisfaction, and enhanced emotional balance.

🚀 How to Leverage Counseling Centers for Better Mental Health

Seek Comprehensive Counseling Services

Choose counseling centers that offer a range of services, including individual therapy, group therapy, stress management programs, and mindfulness practices. This ensures a well-rounded approach to mental health.

Commit to Long-Term Wellness

Achieving holistic mental health requires consistency. Regular counseling sessions and proactive engagement in mental health practices help individuals maintain lasting emotional and psychological well-being.

Create a Holistic Mental Health Plan

Work with your counselor to develop a holistic mental health plan that integrates different aspects of wellness, such as diet, exercise, and stress management, alongside therapeutic services.

Incorporate Family and Social Support

Encourage the involvement of family and friends in your mental health journey. Counseling centers often offer family therapy sessions to strengthen support systems and improve interpersonal dynamics.

🚫 Common Mistakes to Avoid in Holistic Mental Health

Ignoring the Root Causes: Mental health is often treated as a symptom rather than addressing the underlying causes. Holistic counseling focuses on identifying and addressing these root causes.

Underestimating the Power of Support: Support systems, including counselors and loved ones, play a significant role in mental health recovery. Do not attempt to manage mental health in isolation.

Neglecting Self-Care: Holistic mental health requires the integration of self-care practices like exercise, nutrition, and mindfulness alongside therapy.

Focusing Only on Short-Term Relief: Mental wellness is a long-term commitment. Focusing only on short-term solutions may result in temporary relief without lasting improvement.

❓ FAQs: Counseling Centers and Holistic Mental Health

Q: How can counseling centers help achieve holistic mental health?

A: Counseling centers provide therapeutic services that address both the emotional and psychological aspects of mental health, helping individuals develop coping strategies, resilience, and emotional intelligence for long-term wellness.

Q: What services do counseling centers offer?

A: Counseling centers typically offer individual an

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Hi, my name is growi. I'm here because I’m going through a difficult season emotionally.I’m trying to reconnect with myself, rebuild my confidence, and break out of a cycle of overthinking, loneliness, and emotional burnout.I sometimes feel like I give more than I receive in relationships and friendships.I’m hoping this space will be a place to breathe, share without judgment, and learn from others who understand.Thank you for having me. #MightyTogether

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Hello, I am new to this app. I recently learned that not only was I sexual and emotional abused as a child, but the abuse started at age 2. My ex step father groomed me until I was 17 years old. My mother finally divorced him in 2019, but enough damage had already been done to my sisters and I. I don’t feel anger or resentment anymore towards him, but I do feel it towards my Mom. I struggle to keep healthy relationship, especially romantic ones. I am suspicious of every single person I come into contact with, and I feel like my close friends and family don’t really know me. I feel like I don’t really know me sometimes. I don’t trust myself and I am struggling

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Pride can sometimes come after a fall #Depression #Pride #Anxiety #Relationships #MentalHealth

3 weeks ago I tripped on some branches from a tree I was pruning. My leg landed on a branch and instantly my leg started to swell with a significant lump.

I went straight to see my GP who agreed to see me immediately because he was very concerned, as was I, that 2 years ago I came perilously close to losing a leg due to unexplained acute spontaneous compartment syndrome.

He did a thorough examination and was pleased it didn’t indicate anything other than deep bruising. The pain was very intense but I didnt for strong pain medication because frankly I didn’t want to appear as weak or drug dependent.

A week later I had to see him for something else but this time I asked for the strong meds as well as a repeat prescription.

I was too proud to ask earlier for the meds. My medication options are limited. I am allergic to oxytocin and ibuprofen interacts badly with my cardiac meds and quickly leads to kidney failure.

My pride after the fall meant a week of intense pain.

I have often preached on the benefits of asking for help. I needed to heed my own advice!!!

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