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new stepmom is breaking down my mental

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so just for clarification, im 16, almost 17, and a sophmore in highschool currently. ive only lived with my dad for a good portion of my life, since i was around 2-3 so im very close to him and love spending time with him and sorts. my dad kicked my mom out when i was very young and i have never seen her since. we have been in contact since a few years ago but nothing, as of seeing eachother, has happened yet. my mom did alot of bad things to me and my dad but i still find it in my heart to take her back and love her as my biological mom. now, around 7 months ago, my dad met a new woman. he has had previous relationships and for some reason, ive always been mad about it. like i hate that i still am trying to love my real mom while trying to form "mom-like" relationships with these other women. its already hard enough to build my relationship back up with my bio mom. so this new woman, she seems good for my dad. and i hate that i dislike her because i really dont. i dislike the idea that shes taking away my dad slowly, but thats not her fault. but for some reason all my anger is directed at her. she does all the things that my dad used to do with me with him now and we never really hang out anymore because shes always here with him and, kinda, clingy. she doesnt do anything really either. when i get home from school, shes usually back in his room and she just sits in bed all day, dresses up for when he gets home, and doesnt even have a job. it makes me mad because we are already struggling with money just to get by and on top of that, we now have another person in the house who doesnt sustain whatsoever. i feel horrible that i resent her, though i know its all me and she is good to my dad and loves him dearly. and i like her aswell, just some things made me upset. i dont really know how to deal with the anger about this.

if anyone read this all the way thru, thank you (: it was mostly just a way to get out my emotions but if anyone has any advice, id love that! thank you again

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Bipolar struggles

I’m looking for advice. First let me introduce myself. I am 70 and have been living with bipolar for most of my life. It took me down in my mid 50s and I had to go on Social Security (disability until I reached retirement age).

I am having a lot of mood swings recently- really strong ones. They are damaging relationships. I’m also screaming when I dream. I was having a very disruptive sleep pattern which made things worse.

To help me sleep, I started taking marijuana edibles with indica and cbd. I live in a legal state and buy from a dispensary. They work and I get a good 9 hours of sleep, but I’m still dealing with the screaming and the bad mood swings.

Pdoc said he could put me on an additional mood stabilizer to see if that helps, but I don’t want any more meds or side effects. I’m at a loss of what to do.

I could really use your suggestions. Thank you

#BipolarDisorder

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Struggling with some uncomfortable feelings

My girlfriend's boyfriend reached out to me today to discuss how he's struggling with accepting my relationship with her. He feels like he's being replaced. He said he knows it's not true. That he knows logically she still loves him. That he knows it's not taking anything away from him. But he keeps saying he is "battling my inner demon". Which sounds very unpleasant but it's not my fault or problem. He needs to figure his shit out without causing problems for her. She's too kind and understanding to see hurting like that. She cried over the weekend cuz he was telling her he feels like he doesn't have a place in her life. I'm so sad for her.

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❤️? #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #OppositionalDefiantDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BipolarDisorder #PTSD

I’m just wondering 🤔 if I’ll ever find love again? Especially when you have the mental illness that I mentioned above! I truly miss being in a committed relationship and being married. I’m just worthless I guess and that’s why I want to go ahead and go to heaven now to avoid the pain and loneliness I feel right now. I honestly wish suicide was not a sin in the eyes of the Lord because if it wasn’t then I could go to heaven now and end the pain and suffering and loneliness I feel inside. I am a very loving and affectionate caring man and I love someone with all my heart and soul and I love the Lord even more I wish he would send me someone 😭😭😭😭😭

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Going home #Depression #Relationships #Anxiety #PTSD #FamilyAndFriends #MentalHealth

I’m waiting at Manila airport for an overnight to go home. It’s been a whirlwind 3 weeks in Indonesia, Malaysia and The Philippines. I have lost count of the number of intense conversations, helping people sort out their lives and finances.

Now as we board the final flight I am so excited to be going to familiar faces and places. Growing up “home” was a place we avoided at all costs. It was violent and unpredictable. Home today is so different.

I have discovered over the years that “home” can also be a relationship with a friend, a happy place, a favourite coffee shop.

Who or where do you feel most at home?

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The Bipolar Bear and Breaking Up

Trying to convince myself that I will be okay thru this breakup is becoming a challenge for me. Loving someone with a mental illness and having one of your own is a journey that has my heart torn and my mind exhausted. I have faith at times that I will be okay but then fear sets in for the times when I will be alone without that person beside me regardless of their behavior. My mental health is top priority to me because of my experiences I have had. Emotional abuse has been part of the journey in this relationship, but I have pushed forward accepting it for the simple fact that they have an illness like me and are human as well. I do not know what emotions I have caused for them but know having bipolar is an emotional rollercoaster. Manic episodes and depression are no cake walk. The belief I will find love again is there as well but maintaining self-love and care is something I must focus on. Praying for hope and faith to stay by my side and light and love to lead the way.

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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is Havelah. I'm here because I've been struggling with triggers lately. Lots of old feelings creeping into new situations or relationships that don't belong. I've been in therapy a couple times and I'm always growing and healing, I guess I need more healing in this area. I'm a sexual abuse and assault survivor, along with domestic violence survivor.

#MightyTogether #PTSD #Anxiety

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I Am a Rock #ChronicPain #Disability #Depression

Those of you Mightys who are seniors like me (I'm 70), may remember back in 1966 when Simon and Garfunkel recorded 'I Am a Rock' on their Sounds of Silence LP.
Recently, I heard it and it made me wonder about my fellow Mightys. How many of us live as a rock, in solitude.

Here are some of the lyrics.

🎶A winter's day in deep and dark December. I am alone. Gazing from my window to the streets below, on a freshly fallen shroud of snow. I am a rock. I am an island.
I've built walls, a fortress deep & mighty, that none may penetrate. I have no need of friendship. Friendship causes pain. It's laughter and loving I distain.
Don't talk of love. I've heard the word before. It's sleeping in my memories. I won't disturb the slumber of feelings that have died. If I never loved, I never would have cried.
I have my books and poetry to protect me. I am shielded by my armour. Hiding in my room, safe within my womb, I touch no one and no one touches me.
I am a rock. I am an island.
And a rock feels no pain.
And an island never cries.🎶

Solitude will never mean living a life without pain. Paul Simon's effective use of an extended metaphor compared a human to a rock. And that life with the characteristics of a rock could prevent the pain caused by the human aspect of living. He's lonely and alone, yet still avoids friendships and other types of relationships.
Being an island means "I'm strong. I don't need anyone. I can get thru things by myself."
(Isolation and emotional detachment)
However, in 1664, John Dunne penned that "no man is an island. He explores the idea of the connectiveness of people. That people are not isolated islands. That we are all part of a larger thing, and if one person dies, everyone is affected. It's actually been psychologically proven that people do depend on each other.
Rocks don't have feelings.
We're not rocks.
We do have emotions.

Maybe it's something to ponder. What do you think?

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