Hello I’m new here....& so much to share but stuck between putting my thoughts & emotions in check. Just so I can maybe vent w/out forgetting what I’m even wanting to share. I’ve been single for many years prior to me finally dating & having a relationship w/someone who is “Okay w/my chronic illnesses. Fibromyalgia & Sle Lupus just to name the main two. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia at the age of 21 I am now 43 years old. Sle lupus 8yrs ago. When I got diagnosed with lupus dating was the last thing on my mind. Wasn’t ready didn’t feel “worthy” it just turned my entire life upside down(as well as my imidiate family. Anyways a year ago this coming Jan 19th to be exact the same day of my Bday I met this most incredible man. We kept in contact during this entire COVID 19. & in September of this year he asked if I’d be his girlfriend....& “Heck yeah! I do!” Hahaha it’s been great of course it’s not perfect just like everything else isn’t. He was married before years ago for 22yrs before he met me. His wife passed away from Cancer years ago. Hes 49 btw....& that made it easy for me to feel comfortable that he understood a little bit where I was coming from when it came to pain medication and how I live my life etc. etc....but just recently within the last couple of two months he’s just been making me feel guilty from suddenly feeling tired & just wanting to sleep like right there & then. He’s also been telling me that he’s “kinda disappointed” because I didn’t go make some rounds w/him to go last minute Xmas shopping. One I shouldn’t be out & about his knows this. Now am I being insensitive to his feelings. Or am I being way to sensitive myself & feeling guilty? I’ve told him before prior “accepting his courtship” that I come w/many “health issues” which I thought he totally understood. I do as much as I can not just w/this relationship we have going but also with my own child who happens to be 9yrs old. There’s 3 of us in the home my mother, my daughter & then myself. All our boys(my son & 3 brothers) are outta the home....up & have moved on many years ago. Now having a new relationship has been new to me. Does anyone have any suggestions as far as how to approach him vs “attacking him” cause I feel he’s not understanding me but he says he does....I beg to differ. The last thing I need in my life or anyone really is stress. How do I approach him w/out “raising my voice” cause he’s the “quiet soft spoken one” I’m more of the “kill 1st ask questions later(if even that). I love this man very much & I don’t want my any of my conditions to hinder our relationship and a unhealthy way. #helprelationshipadvice #ChronicIllness #chronicfatiguesyndome #SystemicLupusErythematosus #Fibromyaliga