Cancer again
So I just got diagnosed with squamous cell cancer . I've had abdominal pain for years now, but my GI doc just kept shining me on. I wasn't going to tell my wife until I'd talked to all my various specialists, but she knew there was something wrong and asked me. I'm worried about her and all my family when I tell them. My wife and I had a huge fight after the hospital lab work yesterday. She made me use my walker instead of my wheelchair with a broken hip. Because she hasn't cleaned out the car in 6 months and my walker was already in there. Long hospital hallways and a hard walk to and from the car wore me down. I yelled at her for not having any empathy, which has been a problem for our entire relationship. She hasn't bothered to learn about all my diagnoses in 21 years. She has refused to buy me food that I can eat, which has been a huge contribution to having cancer again. I'm going to have to work this out in therapy so I don't blame her to her face. She doesn't deserve that guilt. She was severely abused as a child and has never really worked through it all. It resulted in lack of empathy and great difficulty putting herself in others shoes. I have asked her to do couples therapy again. Keeping on, keeping on.