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To my Ex: Who told me that my illness is part of my identity

To anyone but, especially to a partner this is such a hurtful thing to say..Good Riddance! Boy, Bye!

You would not say that to anyone with a broken arm or physical deformity would you? No of course not you'd sound like an asshole. Would you make your grandmother feel guilty about saying no to a vacation because so much activity would cause her pain? No of course not. I Believe me I understand. I know that you have made tremendous sacrifice for me and probably tried your best. For all of that I am very thankful. The sacrifices you have made do not change the cold heartless nature of several things you have said to me.  Honestly our relationship in a lot of ways our relationship was toxic and dangerous to my health.  Walking away is a fresh start and probably one of the best decisions I can make for myself and my health right now. It is also one of the most difficult decisions I have ever  made.

 About my illness being my identity... You are wrong. Truly you could not sound more insensitive or moronic. My illness is something  that happened to me it does not change my identity. Believe me I am not bed/couch ridden by choice. This is not how I imagined 25 buddy. I am not weaker less than and should never be made to feel small because of my  illness. No one should. Ever. You are a weak little man for making me feel this way instead of building me up when I needed you most. I don't wish anything negative and I want the best for you. I just don't have any respect for you. Which is a lovely bonus because you have made yourself very undesirable. That will make it easier to let go and leave you behind.

 I am so glad to be free of your negative energy. My stress levels are lower and my sleep is better because of it already. I'm sure my path to recovery from my disease and self love have just become worlds easier. In letting you go I have really started to find myself again..  I am not going to lose myself for the sake of a boy like I did for you ever again. I prefer a real man. My life is much better without you. I give myself all of the love and acceptance that you never could. Its been here the whole time. -Hannah  (a girl with an illness that is separate from her identity)
Don't ever let someone tell you your illness is your identity. It is not! You are beautiful creative, brave, strong, talented, brilliant and so much more. Illness or not surround yourself with people who build you up instead of bring you down. Don't settle for someone who can simply handle your illness and survive.. A partner should challenge you to improve and not make you feel poorly about yourself. We all deserve someone who truly accepts us for who we are. An illness does't make you less than anyone anyone else. Take up space. Take up a lot of it! You are deserving and worthy of love. #thankyounext #MyPainPointOfView #lymerage

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So, Lyme Rage is a thing!

I think no longer being able to drive, and this Lyme Rage crap, are the two things I dislike the most about Lyme at the moment.

And please don’t be concerned about safety issues of any kind. I was always the happy drunk that still was aware of everything around him. Fortunately, in a similar way, I don’t physically lash out at people due to anxiety or rage... well there was that one time... but that guy was being a total pos.

So while I have had to become a little more familiar with this symptom, usually only a poorly placed inanimate objects have suffered. Typically hurting me more than anything else. And I’m actually really cool with that. I have always dealt with physical pain and injury, a tad better than the emotional side.

It’s a very nebulous place to be, when you know that you are acting irrationally. Yet it feels like 100% the right and correct thing to be doing. That area when you are not in control of you... and there’s lots of those area’s. But it’s the not being able to control the things we once did, some things giftedly, that really can bother you in a way a lot of things can’t. The embarrassment of apologizing for what you just did. The disappointment in self, simply because you weren’t in control.

That is a thing I would be fine with it just not happening. And if you are familiar with this, I would appreciate any info share on coping tools. #ChronicIllness #ChronicLymeDisease #BrainFog #lymerage #Apologizingforbeingyou


Can anyone help me with Lyme rage? I desperately need help. Someone who understands and can give me ANY advice at all. I do not know of anyone 😓

#lyme #lymerage #ChronicIllness #chroniclyme #LymeDisease