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Polyamory can be wonderful

It can be awful too. Communication is so important. Connection with my partner is difficult cuz it's long distance so I rely on texts and phone calls. Lately our calls have been really short because she hangs up on me so she can call her other boyfriend. And that's making me feel worthless. She hasn't been texting much lately. Today she sent me a bunch of pictures of her daughter. While that's cute, I miss the meaningful conversations we used to have. I'm just feeling very unwanted. I just wish I was as valuable to her as her other partners.

#Relationships #Polyamory

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New revelation

My best friend sent me a FB link for an infographic that explains queer platonic relationships. I realized I have 3 in my life. They're wonderful people who I adore but don't want a romantic relationship with them. My ex girlfriend is one of them. I feel like I learned a lot about dynamics today.

#queer #Polyamory #Relationships

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Ugh

The friend of mine who runs the con and comped my ticket is a travel agent. He said he'd help my girlfriend and I find the best deal for getting my happy ass to her. So far the consensus is Greyhound is the cheapest and only real option since there aren't planes flying from me to her. But it's looking like we won't get a few days together before con. I am really sad. I was gonna build a pillow fort, bake cookies, watch cartoons, and make her dinner. We were so excited to spend time together. Right now we only see each other at the con. It's been 8 months since I last saw her. I just want my hugs and forehead kisses. #Relationships #Polyamory

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Asexuality is a spectrum , your mileage may vary

When the topic of sex is brought up in my life I always say that I am Ace. But I'm not. The problem is nobody can wrap their minds around sexual aversion disorder. So when I got into a relationship with my girlfriend, her boyfriend freaked out. He thinks we're going to eventually do the sex. He thinks ace people still have sex sometimes because his trans spouse identified as Ace but they have sex 2x per year. He's afraid I'll replace him. Which I think it's hilarious.

I've given some really good resources on jealousy in poly dynamics to my girlfriend so she can talk with him about his feelings. I'm not gonna talk to him about my sexual aversion. He was told many times and he's not listening. He needs to get over his drama.

#Relationships #aceerasure #Polyamory #sexualaversiondisorder

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Resources

It's difficult to find really good resources for long distance poly relationships. But there's a website called multiamory.com and it is a podcast. It's for all different types of relationships. I searched the database for episodes about long distance relationships and I found lots of really good episodes. My girlfriend and I are gonna take turns choosing an episode to listen to every 2 weeks. It's exciting. It's a really nice way to bond.

#Relationships #Polyamory

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Multiamory

Multiamory offers support and advice for modern relationships: polyamory, monogamy, monogamish, swinging, casual dating, relationship anarchy, and more. Est. 2014, our weekly podcast has brought our faithful community of listeners the latest research, personal experiences and a diverse group of sex
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Ugh

So my girlfriend's boyfriend is super jealous of my relationship with her. He thinks I'm eventually going to want a sexual relationship with her. He can't wrap his brain around asexuality. She's trying to explain that I was diagnosed with sexual aversion disorder with sex repulsion. He doesn't seem to be listening to her. He's being very possessive and that worries me. Polyamory can be great and sometimes it's a minefield.

#Relationships #Polyamory #CheckInWithMe

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Valentine advertisements are the worst /vneg | TW exclusionism/amatonormativity, some all caps, almost breaking something

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I freaking HATE them, especially if you’re in a non-monogamous non-romantic relationship (but NOT FRIENDS). They are meant to be love-exclusive, heteronormative, and monogamy-exclusive as much as they possibly can and it makes me sick and drives me crazy to the point where I almost broke my computer screen this morning because of seeing another stupid advertisement (no worries, it’s fine)! I hate the alternative title “Single awareness day” because it further proves the belief that Valentines is “oh so romantic” and plus while many single individuals don’t really care, some are making themselves and others feel bad because of the standard belief of “being in a relationship” when they are valid with OR without a partner(s).

Valentine’s Day does NOT have to be a romantic holiday. Plus, not every experiences love, whether that be romantic, platonic, familial, or whatever. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be for everyone because it isn’t even FOR everyone, so society needs to STOP PUSHING IT DOWN OUR THROATS AND LEAVE US THE FRICK ALONE!

#Anxiety #anger #ValentinesDay #MyAutismIsNotADisorder #SocialAnxiety #valentine #Love #DearSociety #Stress #Polyamory #Vent #StopThis #Exclusionism #amatonormativity #LGBTQ

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Dear Society, queerplatonic relationships are not “just friends” | TW some all cap text, misconception

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Firstly, what is a queerplatonic relationship, you may ask?

It is defined as a relationship that bends the norms of what is considered romantic and platonic in today’s society. They can look different depending on the individuals partaking in them, but they often (though not always) involve some sort of high level of commitment. They are often partaken by individuals who identify as aromantic (having a lack of romantic attraction) and those on that spectrum, but they are not exclusive towards them.

I’m in 7 queerplatonic relationships (with everyone’s consent). I am polyamorous. We are NOT friends, but we are NOT romantic, either. We are MORE than friends, but still not romantic. Call us queerplatonic (QP) partners, or just partners, NOT friends or romantic partners.

It always freaking sucks whenever someone calls us “friends” even though we are much more than that… /neg

#queerplatonic #Relationships #LGBTQIA #LGBTQ #Polyamory #sad #Misconception #Partners #multiplepartners #notromantic #notfriends #QueerplatonicRelationships #asexual #Society #aromantic #aroace #polyamorous

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A poem on feeling ignored by this planet | TW for ignorance and misrepresentation on different topics, swearing, the word k*ll (i)

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It hurts,
It fucking hurts.
It kills,
It always did.
Sad excuses left and right,
Ignorance is left to bite…
Me.
And Us.

“Systems and plurals are crazy,”
According to this planet.
“There’s only men and women,”
According to this planet.
“There’s only heterosexuality,”
According to this planet.
“Sex define your gender identity,”
According to this planet.
“There’s only monogamy and monoamory,”
According to this planet.
“White folk deserve more than those of color,”
According to this planet.
“There’s only romance and friendship,”
According to this planet.

“Everyone’s autism is a disorder or disability,”
According to this damn planet.
“Neurodivergent folks are too loud,”
According to this damn planet.
“Fat folks are a joke,”
According to this damn planet.
“Sex and romance and love is natural among all beings,”
According to this damn planet.
“Adults can’t cry,”
According to this damn planet.
“Mental health is selfish,”
According to this damn planet.
“Trigger warnings are a joke,”
According to this damn planet.
“You should stop being poor and pay more,”
According to this damn planet.
“Everyone should identify as a human being and alterbeings, otherkin, and fictionkin folks are snowflakes and ‘cringe-worthy’,”
According to this damn planet.
“Anything that is not seen as ‘normal’ or not common should be stigmatized and criticized until it makes other folk want to closet themselves for eternity and be forced into this void of hell called “being like everyone else’,”
According to this damn forsaken planet.

Past mother’s self,
Mentally abusive.
Keeps me up,
As thoughts are still intrusive.
New mother’s self,
No longer abusive,
Past mother keeps me up,
As they are still intrusive.

Fuck ignorance.
What’s it ever done to us?
Take the Mars and Venus symbol,
Combine them together,
And destroy it altogether.
Neither are truly me.
Take the “human” label and wash it away,
And don’t tell me I’m human,
Else I will cry,
I’ve cried too much.
Alterbeings exist anyway.
An alien hybrid trapped in this damn realm called Earth,
I love space,
I miss my home,
It was much more quieter than here,
Much more sensical than here,
Much more reasonable than here,
Much… less ignorant.

Than here.

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I am a non-binary transmasc overweight individual who is part of a system/plural. My pronouns are he/they/it, and some others. I do not identify as a human, I am alterhuman/alterbeing, although I still identify as someone of color. I’m black/mixed. I have 6 non-romantic partners who I all love equally with my entire heart and are also part of the same system I’m a part of, they are as real as ever. Also, I despise my autism being called a disorder or disability.

And I’m so sick of feeling ignored, and of what Earth had to offer for the past 20 years of my life on its ground. Thank you.

#MyAutismIsNotADisorder #nonbinary #LGBTQIA #ignorance #Poem #Vent #TW #Anxiety #SocialAnxiety #Alterhuman #otherkin #Racism #Capitalism #Trauma #Polyamory #system #plural #EndTheStigma #GenderIdentity #GenderDysphoria #MentalHealth #Awareness #earth #Homesick #StopSilencingUs

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Help #Polyamory

I can’t stand that my husband is polyamorous. I feel “less than” because he loves his partners and wants relationships with them. He won’t stop. I asked him. He says this is who he is now. We opened our marriage a year ago and I was ok with it all at first but I’m not ok with it anymore. I could go back to being monogamous. But I’m stuck. I’m running out of hope.

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