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Check-In

Hi Friends,

It has been exactly one month since I last updated everyone with what's going on in my life. First off, 2025 happened so fast but is off to a great start.

I usually only write when I'm puzzled or going through something traumatic in my life, but I want to shift that narrative and also write when I'm doing well. Although it's been a constant struggle coping with BPD & PTSD, I find that it gets easier once I've accepted that no one day is going to be the same. The ups and downs will happen - but knowing and believing that things will work out calms my soul.

My relationship has been going well. My boyfriend and I are now 1 year and 2 months into our relationship. Last year was challenging because we fought nearly every day. Now I know it was because we were still learning each other & were dealing with our own traumas. However, we've both found a happy medium. We've been practicing healthy communication and are way more supportive and respectful of each other now.

As for therapy, I was consistent for several weeks but had to stop. Come to find out, my health insurance was cancelled back in September and I was slapped with a $700 invoice from the mental health clinic. Not fun... lol. But I'm not worried. Everything will be resolved soon and hopefully I can start seeing my therapist once a week or perhaps twice a month.

I also got hired for a second job. Not only do I work a full-time job as a Junior Cybersecurity Analyst, but I will now be working part-time as a Pharmacy Technician. I'm trying not to overwork myself and get as much rest as I can, but I find that being busy and doing things that benefit my life in a positive way makes me feel good about myself.

I have also been doing well with being sober and even started to work out atleast twice a week. My goal is to turn it to 4 times a week, but I know that will take some time.

Overall, I want to thank The Mighty once again for giving me an outlet and access to a community that shows so much empathy and love.

You will hear from me again.

As for now, take care.

#TheMighty #CheckInWithMe #Forgiveness #BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Relationships #Healing #Anxiety #Bpdrecovery #MentalHealth #PTSD #PTSDSupportAndRecovery #PostTraumaticStressDisorder

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It's been a long day and I am exhausted

My tummy and back hurts so much. I have only taken a tramadol today. I was worried about the inspection today but it never happened. I've spent a lot of time in my bathroom today. I've been taking some diuretic pills for a few days. My feet are so swollen and stiff. The bilateral lymphedema came back. Because of course it did. Especially now when I have back problems and migraines and my vision is utter shit. I'm so thirsty. I've drank a lot of coffee today but I just finished drinking a cup of sugar free juice. It's probably a 16oz cup.

My girlfriend got me to go back to Discord again.

Oh it's time for my insulin. Fun times.

#Diabetes #DiabetesType2 #Relationships

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PATIENCE: Alicia Keys’ Mindful Life Lessons and the 4th of 9 Foundational Attitudes of Mindfulness As Part of Resilience

Patience - The attitude of understanding that things happen in their own time, including our own experiences.

The importance of patience is also a way to accept the present moment without resistance.

Patience is a form of wisdom.

I would like you to think about where in your life, and in your mental health, that you can apply Patience.

And, as always, to help You even more- Let’s have a convo about this topic by commenting below 👇

Jay Shetty sat down with Alicia Keys on one of the most critical podcasts for us, his (free) podcast called “On Purpose” which is the worlds’ #1 Mental Health podcast.

Side Note: Before he became an award-winning podcast host, Jay Shetty has been a great teacher and guide throughout my journey to mental wellness.

In this conversation/episode called “5 Ways To Overcome Self Doubt & Build Confidence Within, Nov 11, 2024;
Jay Shetty asks Alicia Keys:

“What was the work you had to do in order to go from someone who was anxious, doubtful to become someone who manifested this beautiful, incredible full life?

What was the work in the beginning stages that you had to reorient your mind?”

To this, Alicia Keys says: (who by the way Also lives a life with intention/on purpose with Mindfulness)

“I think one of the things that I had to come to terms with is that pretty much nothing is going to come in the time frame that you think is going to come.”

“And I realized, wait, you know, as hard as I try to push the thing forward, when it's time, it's time. And if it's not time, it doesn’t matter what I do. It doesn't matter how much sleep I don't get.

It's not going to be time until it's time. And so I think that that steadiness of like kind of, you just have to put one foot in front of the other is just as simple as that.”

“And so I discovered that that is how we get where we're going.

Like this increment of small, ***determined*** moments.”

And, she also advises “Have Grace with yourself. It’s alright. You are doing your best and you're going to figure out the rhythm of this thing. Have some grace.
And we can start again and try again and it’s ok.”

Let’s recap the attitudes of our healthiest mental state that I have covered so far in this group: Beginner’s Mind, Acceptance, Non-Judgment, and now too, Patience.

#MentalHealth #Mindfulness #Relationships #FamilyAndFriends #Depression #Anxiety #MajorDepressiveDisorder #PersistentDepressiveDisorder #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #SocialAnxiety #ChronicFatigue #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #ChronicIllness #BingeEatingDisorder #EatingDisorders #MoodDisorders #MotorDisorders #BipolarDisorder #BipolarDepression #Agoraphobia #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #ChronicPain #AutismSpectrumDisorder #Migraine #Selfcare #Selfharm #Grief #SuicidalIdeation #SuicidalThoughts #SuicideAttemptSurvivors #Suicide #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #PTSD #PostTraumaticStressDisorder #Trauma #Caregiving #IfYouFeelHopeless #Fibromyalgia #AutonomicDysfunction #PosturalOrthostaticTachycardiaSyndrome #CrohnsDisease #CerebralPalsy #Addiction #Disability #ADHD

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Help

Hi, I've never posted on here, and I'm not sure if I'm posting in the appropriate place for the issues I have

Anyway, I've recently started going to therapy and I've come to realise that I'm extremely paranoid and insecure about how people see me/ their opinions of me. I always knew this was an issue, but now having spoken to a professional, it appears that it permeates/ affects my whole life.

I think a few things that have worsened this is my opinion of myself (very low) due to being bullied earlier in life, having a previous relationship tell me they were in love with someone else rather than me, having toxic friends for most of my life. Now, finally, it seems as though I'm just alone, I don't really have any friends, and not really anyone to talk to (in general or about stuff like this)

That makes me think that people just don't want to be around me, that I'm not good enough for people's attention or love.

Does anyone have any suggestions that may help, or way that they might be able to help?

Thank you :)

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Welp...

Last night I got a text from my building manager saying we'd have an inspection today. It's after 340pm and nobody came. I fell asleep early cuz I really wasn't feeling well. Pauley cleaned up the living room and kitchen and bathroom. My bedroom is good. I am so thankful for her. I don't know what I would do without her. I love her dearly. I hate being disabled. I want to be able to help with cleaning but my body hurts so much.

#Relationships #sograteful

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Why am I afraid of being alone

Yes am an introvert not the isolating one but I feel comfortable away from people but all the time I want to be in a relationship am afraid of being single am afraid of feeling lonely am afraid of opening my phone and there is no one special who is thinking about me . So how I heal is one breakup to another relationship .Is it that I question my worth is it that I create my value by having someone besides me
#MentalHealth #PTSDSupportAndRecovery

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Tip Tuesday 💡 Trauma Bond vs. Love

So many of us enter into relationships without realizing it could be a toxic connection or a trauma bond.
I first learned about trauma bonds in therapy.
This visual is a very helpful way to discern the difference!
#Addiction #AvoidantPersonalityDisorder #Grief #PTSD #MentalHealth #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Schizophrenia #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #ADHD

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Hi I am new to this group! :)

I am a highly sensitive gal from a highly sensitive family! I have six siblings and each of us are quite sensitive, as both our parents are as well.

Several years back, I went through a period of time where I tried to desensitize myself due to social pressure. I've never been able to watch scary/dark/creepy/violent films, but I tried to get used to watching some mildly disturbing content. There were always people in my life that wanted me to watch things like Stranger Things or Black Mirror, etc., but it's too much for me. When I was trying to desensitize myself, I was extremely out of touch with my body and my emotions and my spirit. After leaving a toxic relationship I was in, I began to focus on healing, and starting becoming more in tune with myself. Instead of trying to form a callous around myself, I embraced my sensitivity as a gift.

I am more sensitive than ever, which can be a burden at times, but not the way it used to be, now that I know how to take care of myself. When people pressure me into experiences that don't feel good to me, I no longer feel the need to conform. I just simply say "no thank you, that is not for me."

I love my sensitivity because it is what makes me the compassionate person that I am. I love so deeply, which can be scary and painful, but I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Thanks for letting me share :)

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