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Hi, my name is Kristin. I'm here because I’m depressed and sad and often anxious regarding my health, his health and grief over my main relationship

#MightyTogether #Anxiety #PTSD #Fibromyalgia #Migraine #Grief

He had me by my own book about abuse and relationships. I don't even know what to say because I'm confused and hurt. I'm always the one who's quote unquote wrong in this relationship. It just occurred to me today I've had this book for a while that oh my God like I think that he needs to be the one reading it. I feel lousy he makes me feel really lousy and i keep staying with him

How I Came To Use YouTube As Therapy For BPD

If you’re like me, you probably know how it feels to be without a good support system for your mental illness. As people with Borderline Personality Disorder, we often struggle in many ways to either find or keep a therapist. Sometimes we are isolated due to our poor mental health and difficulties we face regulating our moods. Other times, we can be experiencing homelessness, financial issues and a lack of transportation, making it very difficult to get to our appointments. Or maybe you have a decent therapist but for some reason end up leaving your sessions feeling worse, and realize that therapy just isn’t working. I’ve been through it all and can relate. For me, one reason I sought therapy was because I needed help managing the intense emotions or numbness that comes with having BPD, and the effects that rollercoaster had on my life. But during the various times I was going to therapy, I got so worked up and really didn’t like how the sessions with my therapists made me feel. I would talk about my experiences and problems to this well-meaning person, but I left the end of each session feeling worse and before I knew it, my mental health would spiral. “It turns out, there’s a name for this, and it’s called dysregulation”. Whatever your situation may be, like me, you need tools to manage emotional dysregulation in order to begin healing from your illness, and to live a full and meaningful life. These tools need to be able to be accessed anytime, anywhere. Let me share with you how I’ve come to do just that.

As a single mother of 3, and as someone who has BPD, I am often very isolated and have many struggles when it comes to both parenthood and mental illness. There are times where I am so low or my moods are so extreme, that it is crucial to my life and the lives of those around me that I act on bettering my mental health and find healthy coping mechanisms. Being without a support system, I had to find ways to do that on my own. One day in particular, after a very toxic breakup, I was looking up information on YouTube about how to heal from narcissistic abuse. In one of the videos, the doctor was describing the emotional dysregulation that narcissists inflict on their victims. This led me to look into “ emotional dysregulation” and I found a video about it on a page called “Crappy Childhood Fairy”. Learning about dysregulation and being given the tools to manage it daily, was the beginning of a new life for me and I am confident that it will help you deal with the emotional turmoil we all experience from having BPD.

Crappy Childhood Fairy can be found on YouTube and with a free subscription, I was able to access one of the most beneficial forms of therapy I never knew I needed, self therapy. I can do this in the comfort of my own home or anywhere else I may find myself in my busy life because all I need is my phone to access the videos, and perhaps a pen and paper. Self therapy with YouTube videos also works during any type of mood, and without having to talk about painful experiences that get us all worked up with no way to de-escalate. Anna Runkle, the founder of Crappy Childhood Fairy, describes dysregulation and how she also had a hard time with therapy. For the first time ever, I felt understood and like I wasn’t going completely crazy wondering what was happening to me from talking about, or feeling my feelings. “ I wasn’t crazy, I was DYSREGULATED!” Anna Runkle created Crappy Childhood Fairy to help others because of her own emotional dysregulation from C-PTSD, or, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The symptoms of this disorder are very similar to BPD which is just one reason why Anna’s videos have helped me so much. With Crappy Childhood videos, I’ve been given the crucial information that I’ve been needing to not only learn about myself and my emotions, but how to manage them with “The Daily Practice”. As people with mental illness, we need most of all our own support and compassion in order to heal from our painful experiences and negative coping mechanisms. The videos, and tools that are given in the links below each video, have helped me do that! And I am so grateful. Crappy Childhood videos continue to help me on good days as well as bad days, with the self discipline and self guidance the helpful information in these videos have helped me obtain. With this type of support system, you do not have to go on alone, but you alone can choose to learn and heal. In time, and with practice, your recovery IS possible!

Another way on YouTube that I practice self therapy is from Dr. Daniel Fox, a licensed Psychologist in the state of Texas, USA. Dr. Daniel Fox creates videos for people with personality disorders, as well as for practitioners who treat personality disorders. For me, watching Dr. Fox’s videos on BPD have dramatically increased my level of self awareness that is crucial for coping with this complex mental illness. In each video, the up-beat language and demeanor, directness, compassion, and information from Dr. Daniel Fox, completely changed my views on recovering and healing from BPD. I’ve learned that not only is it possible, but it is in fact common for a high percentage of people with this kind of personality disorder! Something none of us have been told when it comes to having a diagnosis of BPD. Dr. Daniel Fox released the stigma surrounding this complex mental illness. And for that, I am grateful. Watching his videos not only gives me the up to date information I need to figure out how BPD affects me, they have changed my negative ways of thinking when it comes to my disorder. By using both Anna Runkle’s videos at Crappy Childhood Fairy and Dr. Daniel Fox’s videos on BPD, I have transformed my relationship with myself and my relationships with others. I’ve found self therapy with these two on YouTube, along with the links to the tools they recommend, to be the most beneficial to my recovery so far. If you are like me and have been struggling on your own, you do have the power to heal and live a more meaningful life, don’t give up hope. You deserve it more than you may know.

Hey. I'm new here and my name is Piitu and I live in Finland and I have BPD. I hope you understand, because sometimes I have to use a translator. I have a very challenging time with emotions and that they always boil over. In the last months, my biggest problems have been doubt, blaming others and mistrust, and all of them are directed at my husband and he has to suffer from my fluctuations and negative feelings. And I don't think he can stand my behavior much longer. i feel terrible guilt and bad mood for a while after i explode and i don't know how to apologize every day every single argument and disagreement causes me immense bad mood and anxiety. How can I explain my feelings to my husband? How can I explain to my husband that I don't mean to be mean, cruel or accusing, that I don't wish him harm. And I don't want to break our relationship, but I feel like I've already ruined the relationship. How can I convince my husband that I love him and I don't want to be like this? #relationship #BPD #Emotion

Hey. I'm new here and my name is Piitu and I live in Finland and I have BPD. I hope you understand, because sometimes I have to use a translator. I have a very challenging time with emotions and that they always boil over. In the last months, my biggest problems have been doubt, blaming others and mistrust, and all of them are directed at my husband and he has to suffer from my fluctuations and negative feelings. And I don't think he can stand my behavior much longer. i feel terrible guilt and bad mood for a while after i explode and i don't know how to apologize every day every single argument and disagreement causes me immense bad mood and anxiety. How can I explain my feelings to my husband? How can I explain to my husband that I don't mean to be mean, cruel or accusing, that I don't wish him harm. And I don't want to break our relationship, but I feel like I've already ruined the relationship. How can I convince my husband that I love him and I don't want to be like this? #relationship #BPD #Emotion

#trigger Warning: This Post will deal with Religion and various forms of abuses.

A few years ago I stumbled on to #the MIGHTY by accident. I was glad I did. It was amazing to be able to write posts about my life that no one really got unless they were on the same journey. I wrote a ton of posts, and commented on many posts written by others. THE MIGHTY became an important part of my life. I found my people, I thought.

When a person post in any forum there will be criticism. I know everyone doesn't share my opinions and I welcome discussion with those who don't. What is not acceptable were personal attacks. I give THE MIGHTY a lot of credit for removing the comments that crossed the line.

Here is the controversial part of this post. Let me first say that I appreciated all the supported messages my posts generated. It was hard to be venerable, but felt good when others reached out. Over time I was getting a lot of responses that had religious undertones to them. From the innocent use of "blessed" to the judgement inducing phrase “God won’t give you more than you can handle.”

The phrase "God won't give you more than you can handle" is a common expression that suggests that God will not allow a person to face more difficulty or adversity than they are capable of handling.

However, it is important to note that this statement is not found in any religious texts and is more of a cultural belief than a religious doctrine.

In reality, people face many challenges and difficulties that may seem overwhelming and beyond their capacity to handle. These can include physical and mental health problems, financial difficulties, relationship troubles, and many other issues.

I realize the phrase "God won't give you more than you can handle" may provide comfort and encouragement in times of adversity, but it should not be used to dismiss or invalidate the challenges that people face.

For many individuals, religion can provide a source of comfort, community, and support. However, for some individuals with mental illness, religion can also become a trigger that exacerbates symptoms and causes distress. This can be due to a variety of factors, including:

Stigma: Some religious communities may stigmatize mental illness, viewing it as a sign of weakness or a lack of faith. This can lead individuals to feel ashamed of their mental illness and reluctant to seek help, which can exacerbate symptoms and lead to worsening mental health.

Guilt and shame: Some religious beliefs may also contribute to feelings of guilt or shame, which can exacerbate symptoms of depression, anxiety, and other mental health conditions.

Trauma: For some individuals, religious beliefs or practices may be linked to past trauma or abuse, which can trigger symptoms of PTSD or other trauma-related disorders.

Pressure to conform: Religious communities may have specific expectations for behavior or beliefs, which can create pressure to conform and cause stress and anxiety for individuals with mental illness.

Spiritual bypassing: Some individuals may use religion as a way to avoid or deny their mental health symptoms, believing that prayer or other spiritual practices can cure or alleviate mental illness. This can be harmful, as it may prevent individuals from seeking the professional help they need to manage their symptoms.

It's important to note that not all religious communities or beliefs are triggering for individuals with mental illness. For some individuals, religion can provide a source of comfort and support that enhances their mental health. However, it's important to recognize that religion can also be a trigger for some individuals, and to be aware of this when posting or responding on this platform.

This is why I left THE MIGHTY. My safe space was being invaded by religion. Religion that has told me time again that my lifestyle is a one way ticket to hell and that the Bible gave my abusers justification for their scarring discipline with the phrase "spare the rod, spoil the child," My thought to you is why is religion allowed on here? And if it stays on here how can someone with religious triggers feel safe here?