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I’ve have had the symptoms of chronic fatigue for years and was just recently diagnosed. I teach middle school and it’s killing me. It drains every bit of my energy but teaching is my passion and I never want to give it up. But what I do need is something better than 400 cups of coffee to keep my energy up. Any over the counter suggestions that have worked for you? I get advertised tons of them but I don’t trust their “miracle cure” I’d love some feed back on what some of you might take to help with the fatigue and mental cloudiness. Coming straight home from work and getting bed isn’t helping with the relationships with my husband. He is so kind and excepting of my limitations but I want to spend more time with him and my other family. I want a work life balance but right now it’s all work and then collapse as soon as I get home. Please any suggestion might help. #ChronicFatigue #ChronicEpsteinBarrVirus #Fibromyalgia #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #ChronicPain #CheckInWithMe

50 Ways to build Self-Esteem
1 Say daily affirmations to remind yourself of your strengths, awesomeness, & worthiness
2 Learn & practice ways to create calm & peace within mindful breathing is a great start
3 Ask for help & support. No one can go it alone
4 Form connections & relationships with caring adults
5 Laugh-play-have fun-get silly
6 Surround yourself with supportive friends who treat you the way you want to be treated
7 Eat healthy food
8 Remind yourself that no one is perfect
9 Help others
10 Look in the mirror & tell yourself "I Love You"
11 Embrace & accept all of you---this includes your imperfections & vulnerabilities
12 Set boundaries (what are you ok & not ok with) & stick with it. Know when to say "no thank you".....resist peer pressure
13 Create-build-cook-bake-garden-do art
14 Drink water
15 Forgive others & yourself. Remember we are all human & all make mistakes
16 Complete chores, assignments & other responsibilities you have been putting off
17 Give yourself a hug
18 Do random acts of kindness
19 Talk about your feelings with someone you trust
20 Speak your truth. Say what you want, need, & hope for.
21 Use good posture. Stand (or sit) tall as you are
22 Avoid comparing yourself to others
23 Identify the things you can & cannot control. Focus your energy on the things you can change
24 Respect other people's differences. When we show respect for others we are also showing respect for ourselves
25 Read for fun. Read for relaxation. Read for opening your life to possibilities. Read for you.
26 Remind yourself that you can do tough things
27 Practice gratitude. Give thanks for at least 3 things everyday
28 Complete your school assignments, even when you don't want to (because it's "too boring" or "doesn't matter" or "too hard") Feeling good can be found in getting things done
29 Turn off screens. Minimize time spent on social media. Do not base your self worth on the click of a "like"
30 Choose optimism. Look for the brighter side of things & see the cup as half full
31 When things don't go your way or the unexpected happens, get back up & try a different approach
32 Get moving & exercise daily. Your body will thank you by releasing natural feel-good chemicals
33 Follow your curiosities & learn, try, or create something new
34 Reflect on what is important to you & what you value. Then make choices that are in alignment
35 Learn how to resolve conflict peacefully. Use I statements & if you need help doing such ask for help
36 Practice healthy ways to cope with stress
37 Remind yourself that your bravery is stronger than your fear
38 Join an after school club or sports team. Try a new hobby
39 Set goals for yourself & work toward them, step by step
40 Treat yourself with kindness & compassion---even & especially when life gets hard
41 Trust yourself
42 Do the next right thing
43 Remind yourself that the images you see on the media, magazine covers, movies, etc.----are edited & photoshopped. Don't compare yourself to what you see in the media
44 Practice daily hygiene. Bathe regularly, brush & floss your teeth, trim your nails, wash your hands etc.
45 Make a list of your strengths & achievements & hopes
46 Be your own best friend
47 See mistakes as opportunities to learn, grow, & get second chances
48 When someone gives you a compliment say thank you
49 Do more of what helps you to step into your power & feel good about yourself
50 Tell the truth, be honest, even when it's hard to do

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How to Get Through Hard Mental Health Days------you don't have to be ok today. You just have to get through today. One step, one breath, one moment at a time.

1 Give yourself permission-it's ok to not be ok. You are human. Let yourself feel what you feel without guilt or pressure.
2 Focus on the Basics----drink water, eat something, shower, get some rest----small things matter more than you think
3 Take it minute by minute---You don't have to have the whole day figured out. Just focus on making it through the next minute
4 Talk to someone---reach out to someone you trust.....you don't have to go through it alone
5 Be Gentle with Yourself----avoid self-criticism....talk to yourself the way you would talk to someone you love
6 Do One Small Thing----make your bed, take a short walk, do one tiny thing that helps you feel a little accomplished
7 Distract or Soothe----listen to music, watch a comfort show, color, journal or do something that brings you comfort
8 Remember: This won't last forever----hard days are hard, not forever. Your feelings are real, but they are not permanent
9 Hold onto your why----think about what keeps you going.....your kids, your future, your dreams-----hold onto that,,,,,you matter...you are needed....your story isn't over
Don't forget---you are not alone.....it's ok to ask for help.....you are doing the best you can, & that is enough. Be proud of yourself for making it this far....keep going.....you've got this.

How to Get Through Hard Days-----Practical Ways to Carry Yourself Through
1 Lower the Bar----Do what is possible today, not what is perfect
2 Do the Basics---food, water, rest, & a shower still count as progress
3 Take one hour at a time----you do not need to solve the whole day at once
4 Reach for Comfort----choose something soothing.....not something harmful
5 Step Outside----fresh air can help create a small shift
6 Pause the Pressure----drop any extra demands that can wait
7 Cancel what you can-----make space when your capacity is low
8 Rest without earning it----you do not have to be at breaking point to rest
9 Ask for Help Early----support is easier before things build up to far
10 Keep your World Small----focus on the next right thing
11 Feel without fixing----not every emotion needs to be solved immediately
12 Choose one tiny win----small wins still help carry the day
13 Avoid harsh self-talk-----hard days do not mean you are failing
14 Hold onto Routine----even one steady habit can help anchor you
15 Remember it will shift-----this day is not the whole story
16 End the Day Gently-----aim to comfort yourself, not judge yourself

Signs You Need A Mental Health Day----sometimes the strongest thing you can do is take a break
1 You're tired even after a full night's sleep---rest doesn't feel refreshing anymore
2 Every little task feels overwhelming----simple things suddenly feel huge
3 You're constantly distracted----you read the same email three times
4 You're more irritable than usual-----small inconveniences feel impossible to handle
5 You dread opening your laptop----work feels exhausting before the day even starts
6 You've stopped enjoying things you normally love-----even hobbies feel like another task
7 You're making more mistakes then usual-----your mind is running on empty
8 You can't remember the last time you truly relaxed----you're always "on"

You don't have to push through every time, your well-being matters, one day at a time, boundaries, rest, balance, rest is productive to, taking a break isn't falling behind----it's how you keep going....be kind to your mind.....reminder you don't have to earn rest

8 Daily Habits of Mentally Strong People
1 They start their day with purpose----they plan their day & focus on what truly matters
2 They embrace discomfort----they step out of their comfort zone & grow through challenges
3 They Manage their Thoughts----they don't believe everything they think & choose
4 They Stay Focused------they avoid distractions & stay committed to their goals
5 They Practice Gratitude------they take time to appreciate the good in their lives
6 They Take Care of their Body----they eat well, exercise, & get enough rest
7 They learn from Mistakes------they don't fear failure, they use it as a lesson to improve
8 They surround themselves with positivity------they spend time with people who inspire & uplift them

How to Live A More Mindful Life
1 start your day with deep breathing
2 practice gratitude daily
3 spend time in nature
4 limit screen time
5 eat meals without distractions
6 journal your thoughts & feelings
7 meditate for at least 5 minutes a day
8 listen actively to conversations
9 let go of things you can't control

Mental Health vs Mental Illness-----both are important..........both are real.....but they are not the same

Mental Health----How we think, feel, & act in our daily lives
A state of well-being. You can cope with normal life stresses
Feeling happy, balanced & able to handle life's ups & downs
Helps you function well at work, school & in relationships
Changes over time based on life situations & experiences
Maintained with self-care, healthy habits, & support

Mental Illness------A medical condition that affects thinking, mood, or behavior
A diagnosable condition that causes significant distress or difficulty functioning
Depression, Anxiety disorders, Bipolar disorder, Schizophrenia, OCD, & more
Can interfere with daily life, relationships, school, work, or self-care
Symptoms last for a period of time & may require treatment
Often needs professional help such as therapy, medication, or other treatments

Important to Remember-----You can have good mental health & still have a mental illness
Struggling with your mental health does not mean you have a mental illness
Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness

Take Care of Your Mental Health-----stay hydrated, move your body, express your feelings, get enough sleep, talk to someone you trust, do things that bring you joy

Mental health is a journey....be kind to yourself every step of the way

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Set Boundaries to Protect Your Energy
1 Limit Distractions----choose certain hours where you focus on important work----no chatting, scrolling, or multi tasking. Let others know you're "unavailable" during this time so you can fully concentrate.
2 Say No---you don't have to accept every request. If something drains you, doesn't match your goals, or you simply don't have the capacity, it's ok to say "no" without guilt.
3 Define Hours-----decide when you start & finish (or when you're available to others), & stick to it-----avoid checking emails, messages, or tasks outside those times so your mind can rest.
4 Pick Your People-----Spend more time with people who support, encourage, & respect you. Gradually distance yourself from those who constantly drain your energy, criticize, or bring negativity.
5 Know Your Worth-----Recognize the value of your time, skills, & effort. Don't feel pressured to do free work, constant favors, or go beyond your limits just to please others.
6 Self-Advocate-----Speak up when something feels unfair, overwhelming, or disrespectful. It's ok to ask for clarification, better conditions, more support, or proper recognition.
7 Define Balance-----Create a clear line between work & personal life. When work time is over, switch mentally to--no work, calls, no thinking about tasks, just personal time.
8 Take "You" Time----Schedule time just for you---reading, walking, hobbies, or simply resting. Treat it like an appointment that you don't cancel.
9 Separate Identity----Remember: you are more than your job, your productivity, or your achievements. Your worth doesn't disappear when you're resting or not "doing" anything.
10 Prioritize Rest----Plan breaks, days off, & sleep as seriously as you plan work. Rest isn't a reward----it's a necessity so you can stay healthy, creative, & effective.
11 Push Back-----When someone asks for too much or sets unrealistic deadlines, calmly explain what's actually possible...offer alternatives instead of silently burning out.
12 Limit Negativity-----Reduce time spent on gossip, drama, complaining, or toxic environments----online & offline. Protect your mind by choosing healthier conversations & spaces.

Types of Boundaries
Rigid---avoids getting close to others, doesn't ask for help or reciprocation, finds it hard to share thoughts, feelings & ideas, leaves before things get too serious, ghosts or leaves with no warning when boundaries are breached.

Healthy----share & receive, has no values & opinions, communicates in a healthy way, puts their needs over others wants, doesn't give to the point of burn out, says no & accepts no from others.

Soft-----over shares feelings, hard to know where you end & others begin, can't say no or always gives in, gives even it hurts, needs praise or approval from others, overinvolved with other people's problems.

Set Boundaries
1 Identify Your Limits----Reflect on situations, relationships, or tasks that make you feel overwhelmed or drained.
2 Communicate Clearly----Be honest & assertive when expressing your needs. For example, say "I can't take on extra work right now because I need to focus on my projects."
3 Learn to Say No----Practice saying no without guilt. Understand that prioritizing your well-being is not selfish but necessary.
4 Set Work-Lift Boundaries----Avoid overworking by setting clear time for work & personal time. For instance, no work email after 7pm.
5 Limit Toxic Relationships---Distance yourself from people who consistently drain your energy or disrespect your boundaries.
6 Create Personal Time----Dedicate specific times in your schedule for self-care & activities you enjoy.
7 Stick to Your Decisions----Be firm once you set a boundary. Consistency is key to ensuring others respect your limits.
8 Monitor Your Emotional Responses-----Pay attention to how situations make you feel & adjust boundaries if necessary.
9 Seek Support----If boundary setting feels challenging, talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist for guidance.
10 Practice Self-Compassion----Remember that it's ok to put yourself first. Protecting your energy is an act of self-respect.

How To Set Boundaries
1 Say No Without Over-explaining---"I'm not available for that"
2 Protect Your Time----"I can stay for 30 minutes then I have to go"
3 Claim Your Space---"Please don't come into my room without knocking"
4 Detach from Guilt----"I'm choosing rest over plans today. That's ok."
5 Redirect the Conversation---"I'm not comfortable discussing that. Let's talk about something else."
6 Hold Your Line----"I've made my decision. I'm sticking with it."
7 Block the Emotional Dumping----"I'm not in the right headspace to take that on right now."