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Not easy

It’s crazy to me, the assumptions that people automatically make when I divulge that I’m a Christian.

That it was simply the path of least resistance. That I was born into a church-going home and adopted viewpoints that I never questioned. That I’m sheltered, close-minded, and would surely leave the faith if I’d open my eyes.

The truth is, becoming a Christian went against everything my parents taught me. I lost all of my friends. My high school creative writing teacher tried to de-convert me. Nothing in my environment supported my decision. It was hard. I have never regretted it.

I taught a mini sermon on The Book of Ruth Saturday for leadership class at church. What struck me was how Ruth left everything comfortable and familiar in Moab to follow Naomi and be with God’s people. Naomi begged her to stay back. She wanted to spare Ruth the isolation and rejection she would surely face.

Of course, Ruth’s story has a miraculous, very happy ending. But what if she was an outcast in Bethlehem, and died lonely? That would be so sad. But ultimately, she would gain a reward in eternity that would never have happened if she stayed back with Orpah in Moab.

My son shared a message with me today by a woman named Farmer Girl on Facebook. This passage especially struck me:

“Following Christ may cost you comfort. It may cost you popularity. It may cost you opportunities, relationships, or dreams you thought your life would include. For many believers around the world, it still costs their freedom and even their lives.

But it will never cost more than Christ is worth.

The safest place you will ever be is not the place with the fewest problems.

It is the place where you are faithfully walking with the One who has overcome the world.”

#Bipolar #Depression #GAD #OCD # PTSD

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This week/weekend we have really fun plans

Wednesday is Pauley's birthday. I'm taking her out for dinner at Outback Steakhouse. It's one of her favorite restaurants. I'm really craving steak.
Saturday we're taking the bus to downtown Detroit for the Edgar Allen poe speakeasy event. After the speakeasy, we're gonna order a Lyft to take us to my favorite Caribbean restaurant in Detroit. It's only a 15 minute drive. I'm gonna get the lobster, Jamaican rice, and fried plantains. Oh gosh I'm so excited just thinking about it. Right now I am a pavlovian puppy. Awooooooof!
If you're in a relationship, and you are struggling with the dynamics, my best advice is to actively date your partner. Make fond memories. Take silly pictures. It matters.
Pauley and I had a rough Friday night after a really nice afternoon. I went to bed angry. But the next night Pauley came up behind me and put her arms around me and said she loves me. So we didn't talk out the problem this time. First time in 2 years. But our love was stronger than our argument.
The next 4 months are going to be torture. But I'm excited.

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I have no fight left

Hi, my name is Khalil. I’m just going through a tremendous amount of stress and depression. I’m currently on dialysis because I’m in ESRD (End Stage Renal Disease). I pretty much lost everything I worked so hard for. My girlfriend broke up with me because she doesn’t want to be with someone who’s dying, the mother of my kids blocked my number on their phone, I haven’t seen them in 2 years, and everything is falling apart. Before all of this I was working two jobs, providing for my two boys and having a healthy relationship. I can’t work because of being on dialysis 3 to 4 times a week. They got me on disability but it’s not enough to take care of my bills but I manage. I’m use to being that person who works hard, being the provider. Now I feel so useless. Like a nobody. Ive come close to committing suicide at one point but all I can think about were my two boys. They are the only reason I’m still here. I have no family no friends, nobody. Can anybody give me some type of advice? Please I need it

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Life is tough

Most of us spend our lives trying to avoid difficult things. We put off exercising because it's uncomfortable. We avoid difficult conversations because they're awkward. We neglect our mental health because sitting with our thoughts can feel overwhelming.

The problem is that avoiding those things doesn't make life easier. It usually replaces one challenge with another, and that challenge is often much harder.

The discomfort of exercise can become poor health. The discomfort of looking after your mental health can become years of unnecessary suffering. The discomfort of one honest conversation can become a relationship that slowly falls apart.

Life isn't about finding the easy path. It's about choosing the difficulties that build a better future instead of the ones that slowly make life harder.

What difficult thing have you been putting off that you know would improve your life if you finally faced it?

Also, if you're going through a tough time right now, I want you to know that I post daily mental health videos about how to deal with painful thoughts. So if you or anyone you know is struggling and wants help, click on one of the links below or write me if you have any questions you want me to answer:

www.instagram.com/thomas_of_copenhage

www.tiktok.com/@thomas_of_copenhagen

~ Thanks to all. Thanks for all. ~

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*shrug*

Pauley and I discussed our new friend last night. She didn't know our friend thought it was a date. Pauley isn't interested in her. Neither am I. But we like her as a friend.
But the idea of taking on a third person for a throuple never crossed my mind until now. I'd like to find myself a boyfriend someday. I think if she and I could find a guy we're both interested in we'd be much happier.
We had a really unpleasant argument Friday night. We didn't talk it out, we slept a lot and didn't really do anything. But last night we snuggled together and just enjoyed being close. It's really nice when she puts her arms around me.
Anywho. How's your weekend going? We might go to a flea market.
#relationship

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*shrug*

Pauley and I discussed our new friend last night. She didn't know our friend thought it was a date. Pauley isn't interested in her. Neither am I. But we like her as a friend.
But the idea of taking on a third person for a throuple never crossed my mind until now. I'd like to find myself a boyfriend someday. I think if she and I could find a guy we're both interested in we'd be much happier.
We had a really unpleasant argument Friday night. We didn't talk it out, we slept a lot and didn't really do anything. But last night we snuggled together and just enjoyed being close. It's really nice when she puts her arms around me.
Anywho. How's your weekend going? We might go to a flea market.
#relationship

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Healthy Eating Habits for Kids: An Easy Parent Guide

As parents, we all know this struggle. Developing healthy eating habits in kids can be challenging. Today in this blog the Institute of Nutrition and Fitness Sciences (INFS) is sharing some tips based on evidence-based strategies.

By understanding childhood food preferences, parents can establish sustainable healthy eating for kids. This guide breaks down the science of growth, tips for picky eaters, and daily requirements for children.

The Current Scenario: Modern Challenges to Healthy Eating Habits for Kids

Modern lifestyle has changed and impacted how children interact with food. Fast food accessibility, aggressive marketing, and screen time adversely affected the standard nutrition for children.

Recent data shows that childhood obesity and metabolic complications are rising. Processed food consumption among urban youth is at an all-time high.

The underlying causes are due to several modern environmental factors. Let us try and understand them better:

Easy availability of calorie-dense convenience foods.

Misleading food labels on sugary breakfast cereals.

Decreased physical activity levels, along with increase in screen time.

Busy family schedules that limit meal preparation time.

Reversing this trend requires active education.

What Does a Balanced Diet for Kids Include?

Growing kids have high metabolic demands. They require a steady supply of specific micronutrients and clean energy. It is important that parents understand the best nutrition for growing children.

A nutritionally complete childhood framework includes:

Macronutrient Balance: Clean protein for growth, complex carbs for energy, and healthy fats for the brain.

Micronutrient Density: Sufficient calcium, iron, vitamin D, and zinc for bones and immunity.

Hydration: Water as the primary fluid. Eliminate sugar-sweetened beverages entirely.

Mindful Environment: Distraction-free and screen free meals. This allows kids to listen to internal fullness signals.

How to Build Healthy Eating Habits in Children?

Forcing a child to finish their plate backfires. It teaches them to ignore their stomach’s fullness signals. Instead, focus on creating a positive relationship with food through smart parenting habits.

Stop Using Food-as-a-Reward: Never offer dessert or treats as a prize for good behavior. This teaches kids that healthy food is boring and sugary food is the real reward. Instead, praise good behaviour directly. Instead sometimes offer non-food rewards like extra playtime or a trip to the park.

Keep Junk Food Out of the House : Dont stock packaged chips, cookies, sugary cereals, instant noodles, or aerated drinks in your house. If these foods arent at home, your kids cant reach for them. Simple. Instead, fill your kitchen with roasted chickpeas, dried fruits, nuts, whole grain crackers, and nut butters. When kids get hungry, theyll learn slowly to pick these nutritious options.

Use Calm, Structured Parenting: Research shows that a supportive yet structured approach reduces childhood obesity. Dont force your child to eat. Instead, let them listen to their own hunger and fullness signals. A simple way to do this: before serving more food, ask "Are you still hungry?" and respect their answer. This teaches them to self-regulate food intake naturally. This skill will last their whole life.

Children mimic the eating habits of the adults: Kids copy what their parents do. If you eat whole foods, your kids will too. Make it simple: you decide what food to serve and when meals happen. Let your child decide how much they want to eat. This gives them control and responsibility.

The Practical Kids Nutrition Guide for Parents

Nutrition needs change as kids grow. A toddler needs different foods than an adolescent does. Toddlers need softer, smaller portions and more frequent meals. Adolescents need more calories and protein for growth spurts

What Should Kids Eat Daily?

For Toddlers (1-3 years):

Serve three small meals and two snacks daily. Focus on soft foods they can chew easily. Include mashed dal with rice, scrambled eggs, soft chapati with ghee, mild curries with vegetables, yogurt, and fruit purees.

For Older Kids (4-12 years):

Serve three structured meals and two snacks. Include lean proteins like eggs, paneer, moong dal, chicken, or fish. Mix in complex carbs like brown rice, oats, whole wheat bread, or ragi. Add colorful vegetables : spinach, carrots, broccoli, tomatoes, and bell peppers.

For deeper insights into managing nutrition at different ages, explore the structured modules in the INFS Kids and Adolescent Nutrition Course.

How to Get Kids to Eat Vegetables?

Getting kids to eat vegetables takes time and patience. Its normal for kids to reject new foods: this is called food neophobia. Research shows kids may need 5 to 20 tries before accepting a new food, depending on their age. Dont pressure them.

Here are easy ways to help:

Try roasting vegetables to make them sweeter. Roasted carrots, beetroot, or broccoli taste better than boiled.

Let your child help wash and chop vegetables. Kids are more willing to eat what they helped prepare.

Mix vegetables into familiar foods. Add grated carrots or spinach to dals, rice, or flatbreads.

Serve vegetables with a homemade dip they like : yogurt with herbs or a simple peanut butter dip.

What Are Some Healthy Snacks for Kids?

Snack time is a chance to give kids good nutrition. Replace packaged chips and cookies with real food options.

Instead of chips: Try roasted chickpeas, roasted makhana (fox nuts), or home-fried potato and sweet potato cubes.

Instead of sweets: Offer sliced apples with peanut butter, a banana with almond butter, or seasonal fruit like mangoes and papayas.

Other great snacks: Whole milk yogurt with fresh berries, homemade oat muffins, boiled eggs, cheese cubes, or a handful of mixed nuts (for kids over 4 years).

Key Takeaways

Model the behavior you want to see. Eat whole foods alongside your children.

Avoid using food as a reward, punishment, or emotional coping mechanism.

Practice covert control by keeping low-nutrient, high-calorie foods out of the house.

Adopt an authoritative style. Respect your childs natural internal fullness signals.

Frequently Asked Questions

How to Stop Kids from Being Picky Eaters?

Picky eating is normal and usually temporary. The key is not to force it. Keep offering new foods without pressure. Ask your child to help cook or garden. Let them see, touch, and explore food without eating. Kids often accept new foods after multiple exposures. Stay patient and keep mealtimes calm and positive.

How to Deal with Kids Who Are Picky Eaters?

Dont cook separate meals for picky eaters : this reinforces selective eating. Instead, always serve one familiar food alongside new items at the meal. Let your child eat what they want from whats on the table. Avoid comments like "you never eat vegetables." Over time, theyll naturally try new foods when theyre ready.

How can I improve my kids nutrition habits?

Establish fixed meal and snack times. Structural routine prevents continuous grazing. This ensures children are genuinely hungry during balanced meals.

What constitutes proper nutrition for children on a vegetarian diet?

For a vegetarian diet, ensure adequate protein and iron intake. Include a variety of legumes, dairy products, nuts, seeds, and green leafy vegetables daily.

How to make kids eat healthy foods without arguments?

Give children structured choices, let them choose between two types of vegetables for dinner. This gives them a sense of autonomy. And since they get the satisfaction of choosing it, they are more likely to eat it without arguments.

What are the daily recommended sugar limits for kids?

Children over two should consume less than twenty-five grams of added sugar per day. This equals roughly six teaspoons.

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I'm really excited!!!!

Pauley and I are going to the Edgar Allen poe speakeasy event in Detroit one week from today. It's just over an hour. They're performing 4 of his poems and pairing it with fancy mixed drinks. The reviews are stellar. This was the only day that wasn't sold out. We got super lucky. I can't wait!!!
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