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Checking In

I thought it was about time to check in again, also got some pics of the hummingbird feeder outside my window.

It's day 2 of this migraine, had the pain yesterday, fuzzy aura today. Otherwise things are going pretty well. I'm trying to express my thoughts more to my family (my fiancee, his mom, and his son), it feels pretty good. I got into genealogy a little recently and found out I'm like 1/8 Swedish, I think it's pretty cool to think my ancestors could've been badass vikings, it's kinda empowering to me too. My birthday was a little over a month ago and I went to the new age store and got a book called Witchcraft Therapy, it's a lot about manifestation and putting your energy towards good things, I like it. I go to the dentist later today for fillings, unfortunately medicaid turned down the authorization for the root canals and crowns so I don't know what I'm going to do about that. Still kicking around the idea of sending my parents a letter (I cut off contact 3 1/2 years ago).

So yeah, things are pretty good on average. I hope everyone else is hanging in there, if you need to talk message me, I'm on at least once a day.

#CheckInWithMe #Migraine #Nature #Dentist #ancestry #Reconciliation #Book #manifestation

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DNA Testing. A gift? Your heritage? Your homeland? A shock?

I’m Irish/Scot and Hungarian. Maternal side arrived in 1906 from Hungary. Paternal side arrived from Scotland and Ireland in 1700s.  Couldn’t wait to find out what percentage of what and which regions my ancestors came from!  

I’m one of 7. 4 boys, 3 girls. I’m third born. Parents married in 1953.  Strict Catholics on both sides.  Well, results are in my friends,  I’m German European.  I had tested on 23andme. After my confusion I told my oldest sibs about it and they decided to join in and we all did ancestry dot com at same time. We eagerly looked at the results to find where this glitch Moms side or Dads?

Imagine the biggest shock of them all.  We were only half siblings. I had a different father.  I went from 1 of 7 to an only child with six half sibs.

Mom is still alive. Turns out, they were separated on and off when I was conceived.  They remained married married until he died in 04. I had questions, and lots of them. Narcissistic mother refuses to answer them. Even when I showed her the dna and my birth fathers name.

I’m having the biggest crises of my life. Have you been thru this? How did you cope?   I’m not asking about meeting or not meeting new family. I’m asking about your emotions.  I really thought I was doing well.  I have other serious issues (health)   I was mad. I was sad, I felt betrayed, I felt mocked, I’m just feeling everything there is!  My identy is gone. Just vanished. Where do I go from here?  Where do I fit?

The very few told this to, have told me to let it go and move forward. My life flipped. I can’t do that. Help? #Family #paternity #betrayal #dna #ancestry