I have 2 sons. 1 is 19 and is the biggest gentle bear u will ever come across. He is my protector my Jackie . Against all the abuse me and him endured with his dad he remains to be the quiestest kindest man u will ever meet. He has a brother . He is 17. He is so different. He is kind and caring but he has his opion and he doesnt care to tell u how he feels. He will argue and talk over coz he got a point to make. He my firecracker💥 he will fight the world. But tonight is the first time my jackie has gone to work. I know he doesnt talk to many and he will be tired tomora but im a proud mum but my nerves have gone into overdrive coz i need to protect this one. He is a loner and it scares me him not being here. Firecracker💥 went out tonight to see his gfriend and even thou he has aspergers and adhd i dnt worry abput him as much as my teddie bear jackie ppl say i lean on jackie too much but i dnt care. Firecracker💥 might get my attention and my hugs but jackie gets my heart. I love them bpth but in different ways. No more for one then the other..... #CheckInWithMe #BipolarDisorder #ChronicPain #PTSD
Learn about autism from autistic people. Too often, non-autistic people write about autism without consulting real autistic people. They may come up with inaccuracies, laughable misconceptions, or extremely negative viewpoints on differences that don't hurt anyone. Autistic people can provide you with a more accurate and well-rounded view.
The Autistic community often describes autism in a neutral or positive light. This may help you gain a more holistic sense of autism, as opposed to seeing only the negatives.
Read about the strengths associated with autism. Autism is a complex neurological condition that comes with several blessings along with its impairments. In fact, there's a growing community of autistic people who believe it's just a form of diversity—not a disorder
Deeply passionate interests. These can lead to tremendous expertise, and possibly a very successful career or fun hobby.
Helpfulness. Autistic people, in general, have a high sense of social responsibility, or the desire to solve problems and help others.
Precision. It is often noted that autistic people focus on the small parts, rather than the big picture. This can lead to remarkable detail-oriented work, where a neurotypical person might be unable to focus so clearly on the individual aspects of something.
Visual intelligence. Autistic people have tested higher on visual and nonverbal intelligence tests.
Sincerity. Autistic people tend to mean what they say, and act as a "voice of reason" without becoming mired in social complexities. Your honesty and genuine spirit can feel refreshing to others.
Creativity and a unique perspective. Autistic people can learn in unusual ways This provides insights that neurotypicals may never realize and can become a great asset in collaboration.
Read about successful autistic people. Plenty of famous people have been diagnosed or thought to be autistic. Strong special interests, focus, and a unique perspective can lead to innovation and creativity.
Historically, Einstein, Thomas Jefferson, Emily Dickinson, Mozart, and more people were thought to be autistic.
Consider your special interests. Special interests are a clear upside of autism: you have an incredible memory about these facts, intense focus, and the ability to act like a walking encyclopedia of information whenever you want. You also get to have a lot of fun doing the things you love.
Most non-autistic people would be jealous of the way you can recall and discuss information.
Read about the social model of disability. The social model holds that disability is not caused by defects in the brain or body, but by society's failure to accommodate and accept a certain variation
For example, most nearsighted people are not disabled: they are fully accommodated within society (glasses, contacts), and have the same opportunities that non-nearsighted people have. Their body can't do the same things, but technology makes up for that, so it is not an issue.
Remember that it's okay to be different. If everyone were just like everyone else, the world would be boring. Your quirks are part of what makes you memorable, and you don't need to censor yourself or try to look "normal." It is absolutely okay to be disabled and to look disabled in public.
Take some time to learn about your own limitations and talk about those with the people in your life. That way, they won't expect you to do things you aren't able to do
Not all autistic people need therapy, but many benefit from it. A good therapy will leave you better off than you were before, and you will gain skills to help you become more well-adjusted. You can also learn coping mechanisms, alternative methods of doing difficult tasks, and how to capitalize on your strengths.
Options include sensory integration therapy, talk therapy, occupational therapy, special diets, behavior therapy, and seeing a psychologist for emotional issues.
Always check with a doctor before altering your diet or attempting an alternative treatment. Some of these are scams.
Be careful about behavior therapies. Some therapies are based on compliance and may hurt more than helping. If your therapist's goal is to make you more normal (rather than more comfortable or more competent), or if you feel upset and anxious about seeing them, then find a better therapist.
Stop trying to do things that are too hard. With the media constantly encouraging people to "do your best," sometimes people forget that it's okay to quit. You do not have to put forth 110% effort all the time—this can lead to burnout. If something is draining your energy or adding a lot of stress to your life, stop doing it. Sometimes saying "I quit" is freeing.
Disability doesn't just mean that there are some things you can't do. It can also mean that some things are painful or extremely draining for you. Give yourself permission to quit or find an alternative way.
Focus on your skills and character strengths. This will help you spend less energy mourning your disability, and more energy on doing positive things and enjoying your life.
Spend time on your hobbies and things that you're good at. Enjoy the feeling of competence and expertise.
Make a list of your positive traits. Consider both personality traits and skills. Place the list somewhere where it'll be easy to see when you're feeling sad about yourself.
Help other people. Prepare food for the hungry, raise awareness for important causes, or write about your special interest on wikiHow. Effecting a positive change in the world will distract you, help others, and make you feel happier about yourself.
Practice self-care. Being disabled can be difficult, and it's important to treat yourself well. Cut out energy drains from your life so you can focus on what matters most to you.
Pushing yourself to meet non-autistic standards will only take a toll on your health. It is okay to ask for academic accommodations, take extra breaks, or quit doing things that are too stressful to achieve.
Pay extra attention to general health advice: sleep for at least 8 hours, eat fruits and vegetables, limit junk food, minimize stress, and exercise regularly (taking walks counts). Self-care is extra important for you, to mitigate stress and help reduce meltdowns and shutdowns.
If you have trouble with self-care, it's okay to ask for help. Assisted living or living with family might be better for you. Talk with a doctor, social worker, or therapist if you're struggling. There's no shame in meeting your needs, and it'll free up time for things you love.
Get a mentor (or two). Look for people in your life whose judgment you trust parents, older siblings, relatives, counselors, friends, etc. Living in a neurotypical world can be confusing, so it's useful to have people to ask for advice. You can ask questions from "Is this outfit good for an awards ceremony?" to "This person makes me feel awful; what do I do?"
Stop apologizing for being autistic. You have the right to ask for accommodations, stim in public, and do what you need to do in order to function. Toning down your behavior is your choice—not something to be pushed or coerced out of you. You are not required to act more neurotypical just because everyone else is used to it.
Try to stop masking your autistic traits when you can. Masking is linked to exhaustion and mental health risks
Recognize that autism is just one piece of who you are—a kind, thoughtful, human being. People can love you and your autism. You can love yourself and your autism. You are not a lesser person.
Talk to someone if you are overwhelmed by self hatred. Anxiety, depression, and self-esteem issues are unfortunately common in autistic people. Identify someone you trust and explain to them how awful you feel.
No cure exists for autism spectrum disorder, and there is no one-size-fits-all treatment. The goal of treatment is to maximize your child's ability to function by reducing autism spectrum disorder symptoms and supporting development and learning. Feel free to follow us here and ask all the questions you like.#ASD #Autism #Aspergers
Yep, I’m feeling like that awkward guy in the picture. Confused has no idea what is going on, and alone. I really don’t like it when these feelings arise. It’s only natural that they do though. Humans aren’t meant to be isolated for so long.
My name is Brennan I’m 33 years old, a follower of Jesus Christ. I’m an introvert, something I’ve been wanting to change. What can I say old habits die hard. I’ve been socially awkward all of my life. This is due to being on the Autistic spectrum. I was diagnosed with OCD/ADHD and Aspergers was what it was called at the time, now high functioning Autism. I also get drained of my energy very quickly.
I struggle with anxiety and depression and loneliness I don’t have many friends and the few that I have are really busy or I’m so exhausted that I don’t have the energy to drive safely. New people I meet in groups seem to have very busy lives as well. I know my life will become more busy soon. I also have a desire to marry, but am afraid I may be a hassle to whom I marry.
I know that marriage is not like the Hollywood movies and how media portrays it or lack there of in much media. I want to bless my future wife not be a curse to her because of my ailments. I also know that marriage isn’t what is going to fulfill my life. God’s calling will fulfill my life. If he has marriage planned for me in the future then I praise him! If God doesn’t have marriage in his plan for me then I will praise him! I can’t help but hope though. It has been one of my dreams to marry. I know God cares about our dreams even if they are not in synch with his will he still cares about our feelings. And I can’t say that marriage is not in his will for me. Can’t say it is either.
Right now though, I have a need time aside from church meetings and functions with my brothers and sisters.
Ugh 😩 I feel so defective. There are so many things wrong with me. Yet there are many gifts 🎁 God has given me. Skills in certain areas. It’s just so hard to deal with all the inadequacies in me. My short temper 😡 My impatience. My social anxiety. My lack of social skills.
I know I’m not supposed to compare myself to others but it’s hard not to. I realize that the people I see functioning on a much higher level than me have their problems even if I can’t see them.
It’s just discouraging seeing so many people younger than me functioning at what appears to be a much higher level. It makes me embarrassed about how my own life is going.
With all that being said there are a lot of things that I have going for me. I just needed to vent a bit. Thank you everyone. Actually I tend to crave reassurance and that isn’t something I should be seeking. Knowing that this reassurance craving is something caused by my OCD.
Learning to accept and live with Asperger's is a challenge I'm finding it extremely hard to accept I'm 36 and spent all of my life wondering why I feel the way I do and think the way I do and in one way getting this diagnosed is a god sent but in another I'm finding it hard to accept I am told that it is harder for adults to accept as our brains are not as malubull as childrens so it that way it makes it harder did others have this problem just wanting feed back and maybe a way of learning to accept this and learning to live with Asperger's #Aspergers #MentalHealth #Selfharm #anxiaty #Autism
So I just kind of wanted to introduce myself to the community. My name is Crystal and my husband has Asperger's. I know that supposedly that diagnosis doesn't exist anymore, I'm supposed to be saying Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) but I'm used to saying Asperger's. We've been married for almost three years and I'm still learning things about autism/ASD/Asperger's etc. There are days when I don't understand why things have to be done a certain way or why we can't stray from certain routines. I myself have been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and major depressive disorder. I'm just here to try and learn more about autism and to better support my husband.
If you have dysgraphia &/or discalculia (& know more or less for sure or are diagnosed with it) how does it show up for you? Can one cause the other? Seems to be more a handwriting thing for me. Constantly writing things down wrong. As an adult learner back in school as a STEM student its about 10x worse than it was before the DID and trauma started to surface hardcore. I *know* exactly what i mean to write it just takes like 3-4x to actually write it down correctly. I know what im doing wrong but it just will *not* come out of my pencil the right way. Letters, numbers, symbols, equations, makes no difference. The more anxious or triggered or dissociative we are as a system the worse it is. Some of us dont seem to struggle with it at all, but it seems from inside like its just masking same way as some of us show our other ND traits far less obviously than others. We're afab. Were a lifelong ND survivor of substantial trauma over multiple decades. We mask it all. Some are better at giving the appearance of not being who they actually are.....idk if any of this makes sense at all.... #Dysgraphia (undiagnosed)
Hi, my name is ChristinaMarie. I'm here because I have fibro, CFS/ME, chronic pain, chronic headaches/migraine, anxiety, depression & in early June, my husband of 30+ years died. Our teenage son has ADHD, Asperger's & Generalized Anxiety. Life is beyond overwhelming for both of us right now. Our grief is pure anguish. I'd really appreciate support & I'd like to offer support, as well. I have a deep faith, I try to stay positive & I always try to have hope🙏🙏🙏