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    Soo true ..... #MentalHealth #CheckInWithMe #Anxiety #Depression #Selfcare

    So I just had a conversation with my 9yo daughter as she was saying some of her friends have social media accounts.I personally didn't think I'd have had to have this conversation for a while yet but just shows things are clearly different from when I was that age.im 34 and I have this app ,I have a melonoma awareness IG acc but that's it nothing about me or my name or my daily life details etc.I realised its so true looking at these people with perfect figures ,perfect homes ,fancy cars ,perfect relationships and the perfect parents to their kids and it can make you feel instantly jealous or down or comparing yourself, wishing you had a different life ,or questioning and even doubting your self worth.I am do glad I don't have anything like that as I realised years ago it was a major trigger for me ,and I have enough going on health wise I definitely don't need to caus emyself anymore anxiety or depression about how people's lifestyle can seem so great .I love this app as its not about that for me it's about sharing experiences, getting and giving support about real life struggles or even achievements,I know some people may have had different experiences but I can honestly say I'm really glad that over all my years I've been on this app I've had nothing but a safe space to be myself and communicate with people while getting or giving support and kindness. ♥️😊

    #MentalHealth #CheckInWithMe #Insomnia #Upallnight #SkinCancer #Depression #Selfcare #Positivity #wellness #AloneTogether #Bekind #COVID19 #longcovid #Anxiety #loveyourself

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    How to cope with regret? Guilt or what if thoughts 💭?

    Recently going through a breakup, somewhat mutual but I brought up the fact that maybe we are going around in circles breaking up and getting back together, I had a bad panic attack/ crying I was stressed/ overwhelmed and they meant well to support me but were comparing me, saying I should be stronger, crying makes me weak etc, English isn’t their first language but they speak it well 🗣️, and I guess I was hurt because I know they meant well but it just made me feel more crappy and stigmatized, they kept going on and on and comparing me to other people etc. I know they loved me and were just concerned, but it sucks i feel regret though I feel in my gut it was problem for the best for both of us. But almost 3 years into a relationship
    It’s still hard to let go. I’m proud of myself for doing a lot better than I expected but it’s hard when you get those emotional breakdowns and are just overwhelmed by everything and life in general.

    #breakup #recovering #MentalHealth #Hurts #grieving #relationship #Ex
    #healthybuttoxictoo #help #kindreminders #helpme #sad #Crying #Upset #Disappointed #regrets #dontknowwhattodo #isolated

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    How to cope with regret? Guilt or what if thoughts 💭?

    Recently going through a breakup, somewhat mutual but I brought up the fact that maybe we are going around in circles breaking up and getting back together, I had a bad panic attack/ crying I was stressed/ overwhelmed and they meant well to support me but were comparing me, saying I should be stronger, crying makes me weak etc, English isn’t their first language but they speak it well 🗣️, and I guess I was hurt because I know they meant well but it just made me feel more crappy and stigmatized, they kept going on and on and comparing me to other people etc. I know they loved me and were just concerned, but it sucks i feel regret though I feel in my gut it was problem for the best for both of us. But almost 3 years into a relationship
    It’s still hard to let go. I’m proud of myself for doing a lot better than I expected but it’s hard when you get those emotional breakdowns and are just overwhelmed by everything and life in general.

    #breakup #recovering #MentalHealth #Hurts #grieving #relationship #Ex
    #healthybuttoxictoo #help #kindreminders #helpme #sad #Crying #Upset #Disappointed #regrets #dontknowwhattodo #isolated

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    I'm okay. I'm safe. I'm loved.

    It's important to recognize that processes of growth and change can be difficult and often present us with challenges and obstacles that may seem overwhelming. However, by remembering that every small action we take towards our well-being is valuable, we can cultivate a sense of hope and motivation.

    Repeating the mantra:

    “I'm okay. I'm safe. I'm loved"

    may seem like an insignificant task, but it is actually a powerful act that can help us transform our perspective and our relationship with ourselves and the world around us. By repeating this affirmation, we are training our minds to focus on the positive, rather than being dragged down by negative thoughts and emotions.

    In addition, by repeating the mantra frequently, we are reinforcing a positive message in our subconscious. As our minds become accustomed to thinking in terms of "being okay", "being safe" and "being loved", we begin to create healthier and more positive thinking patterns. Over time, these thinking patterns can have a profound effect on our outlook on life and how we face the challenges that come our way.

    So, if you find yourself struggling with your thoughts or emotions, remember that even small actions can make a big difference. Take a moment to put your hands on your heart, take a deep breath, and repeat the mantra "I'm okay. I'm safe. I'm loved." Do it as many times as necessary, and keep doing it until you truly believe it. Remember that you are capable of facing the challenges that come your way, and you deserve to feel good about yourself and your life.

    One second at a time.

    #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety

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    How I Developed A Positive Mindset Despite Challenging Circumstances

    Part 1 of 2 Having a chronic illness, whose symptoms occur in unpredictable cycles, has been extremely frustrating.  However, despite all the uncertainty and trials, I have taken steps that have been very helpful in dealing with the frustration. I love it because these seemingly small changes have strengthened me mentally. My typically negative mindset has shifted, which I’m so grateful for because it has grown me as a person in all facets of my life.

    I’ve been proactive in learning about my body and my symptoms as well as what it’s going through in perimenopause. It’s very empowering to understand what my body is experiencing and why. Even though the doctors have yet to give me a definitive diagnosis, (but agree with me that it’s like a perfect storm of long haul and perimenopause that may or may not have triggered something else) everything I’m learning is helping me to minimize the symptoms. Instead of passively sitting back believing that I have no control, or blindly accepting that “this is it”, or that it’s “all downhill from here”, or that I’m “just getting old”, I choose not to buy into that ancient mindset that only leaves us feeling powerless and hopeless. An empowered mindset changes everything.

    I’ve come to terms with starting over. Starting over definitely sucks, but it’s motivated me to approach my fitness differently — especially since I’m getting older. I’m focused on rebuilding my foundation and all of the little things that I never really paid attention to before like strength and mobility. It’s an exciting new adventure which has helped me to remain consistent because I’m curious to see how my body reacts over time.

    I stopped watching the news and we got rid of our satellite TV. Now whenever I watch TV, I choose to watch podcasts and documentaries featuring inspirational people and stories that are uplifting. It’s such a relief to not be bombarded with drama, politics, and hate. Occasionally, I’ll check the local news, so I’m not completely clueless about what’s going on in the world, but even for that short time, I often sense the anxiety creeping in, so I keep it short. Unnecessary stress is something my body can’t afford to be bombarded with. I’ve definitely noticed a difference in my peace of mind since making this move.

    I have embraced gratitude. On a regular basis I ask myself what’s really important. Is it how I look? My overall fitness? Is it my relationships and family? How do I want to spend my energy? Do I want to beat myself up because of a number on the scale and waste my mental energy on being upset because my body is struggling right now, or do I want to focus on things that are less self centered? Answering these questions honestly has helped keep my priorities in check.

    Whenever possible I sit by my stream or walk through the woods and pray. I find it difficult to really focus on prayer otherwise. My mind wanders. I’m easily distracted, and quite honestly I rarely feel connected to God unless I’m surrounded by nature. I’m good at going through the motions but that doesn’t grow a relationship. There’s something magical and inspiring about listening to the flowing water and looking at the sky through the trees that instantly connects me to God. Since I’ve been making a conscious effort to do this more often, I’ve noticed His presence more throughout the day and I find myself seeking it. It makes everything I’m dealing with seem like less of a big deal and more like a reminder that I have countless things to be grateful for.

    While I was lying in a hospital bed wide awake one night, listening to the annoying beeps of heart monitors, and the distant groans from neighboring patients, the harsh realization that “this is it” washed over me. Out of the blue it all sunk into my core —  I have ONE  life. ONE chance on this earth. Am I living it to the fullest,  because there is no do over. When the severity of that smacked me in the face, I vowed to do whatever it takes to foster a healthy mind and body so I can have the energy and ability to thrive for as long as I can. And I didn’t want to take care of myself for selfish reasons. I wanted to so that I could take care of others and that became my resolve.

    No matter how terrible our situations are, there is always something to be grateful for, and there’s always the opportunity to change our mindset. I’ll be the first to admit I’ve been notorious for choosing the negative mindset throughout my life and unfortunately, it’s taken sickness and struggle to teach me that there’s a better way. Sometimes it just takes one small step forward to set the right things in motion. It’s not easy and it takes practice, but it’s so worth it. Choose one small step you can take today to carve a new path. Every step forward is a victory!

    What are some things you’ve done to get through

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    Refocusing on recovery

    Having been very ill for a long time growing up, 3 years ago after a hospital admission I threw myself into recovery and I had an amazing few months. Then I left home and had all the normal stresses of that but I refused to let, or admit that anything was bothering me. A few years later it’s all piled up and I’m trying recovery again but this time without the many therapists I had before.
    I think my first step needs to be to sort out my relationships because feeling isolated all the time is not an easy way to start. Does anyone have any tips on how to reach out to new people and deepen my current relationships with a very short social battery and a fear of saying or doing anything at risk of saying something wrong and being judged?

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    True Story!

    I met a Christian man who appeared to be very interested in me. We dove into a daily texting relationship – all day every day for a few weeks. And he asked if I was his girlfriend and could we date. We went on 1 date. I could tell he wasn’t that into me but we kept on for a bit nonetheless. I hover between giving the benefit of the doubt and hearing/feeling the truth A LOT. Wondering if that’s common for a lot of us….. anyway, we talked on the phone once or twice, and after the second time he ghosted me. Just disappeared. TORE me up…….is tearing me up. I didn’t guard my heart. I.didnt.guard.my.heart. In the very beginning….when I should have. And I know how this story goes – not my first rodeo – so why don’t I learn??????? EVER?!?!?!? Anyone else?#BPD relationships

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    5 tips for building relationships at work

    #Anxiety #Burnout #Workplace

    1. Build relationships from the start

    New hires or employees new to the workforce may have a more difficult time forming relationships with their co-workers. According to one CNBC report, people in entry-level jobs are the least likely to have a best friend at work.

    Building relationships at work begins on an employee’s first day. As an employer, it’s your responsibility to establish an onboarding process that welcomes new employees, shows them the ropes, and incorporates your workforce.

    You can support work relationship building by introducing new employees to your current workers during new hire onboarding. Delegate new hire training to one or more of your current employees. Encourage your new hire to ask one of their co-workers if they have any questions about their duties.

    Another way you can encourage relationship building from the start is by hosting a team lunch where your new hire can get to know your current employees. You can cater lunch, take employees out to eat, or ask all employees to pack a lunch. Nothing says bonding like food, right?

    2. Encourage interdepartmental communication

    You can’t expect employees to build relationships if they don’t get the chance to communicate. Creating teamwork opportunities can help bring employees together, but communication can be difficult if you have multiple departments in your small business.

    Encourage interdepartmental communication by meeting regularly with your staff. That way, different departments or employees can discuss projects they are working on.

    After meetings, employees should continue to collaborate with their co-workers, even if they are in separate departments. An employee in one department might be able to provide valuable information to another.

    You might even consider pairing up employees from different departments to work on a project. Interdepartmental teamwork can strengthen your relationship building efforts and also increase innovation within your small company.

    To further emphasize your commitment to creating an environment where employees can foster relationships, consider using collaboration tools, such as online messaging and video systems. That way, employees can keep in touch about work projects, exchange funny memes, and talk about their days.

    Collaboration tools can especially encourage communication between your remote employees and in-house staff. With the right virtual collaboration tools, your employees can build relationships, regardless of their physical location.

    3. Increase socialization opportunities at work

    When employees lead busy lives, they may not have the time or energy to focus on building relationships at work.

    According to the CNBC report, work friendships decline as age and responsibilities (both in and out of work) increase.

    Rather than eating lunch together, your employees might work through their break to get more tasks done. And instead of meeting for coffee after work, your employees might head home to take care of their families or attend night class.

    To balance the busy lives your employees lead, consider hosting social events during work hours. You can host holiday parties, monthly team lunches, or achievement celebrations. That way, employees can step away from their desks and build relationships with their co-workers.

    4. Hold in-person training and team-building sessions

    Continual training opportunities help develop your employees’ skills, knowledge, and abilities. And, synchronous, in-person training sessions can be great for building effective work relationships.

    Team-building activities, like a volunteer opportunity or fun scavenger hunt, can also be helpful to growing work relationships.

    Consider hosting a monthly or quarterly training or team-building meeting. That way, employees can touch base with one another, get to know new hires, and grow their strengths.

    5. Start a wellness program

    One report found that 66% of HR managers saw an increase in wellness programs between 2013 and 2018. Do you have a wellness program in your small business?

    Aside from reducing absenteeism, cutting health care costs, and boosting productivity, wellness programs can build relationships among employees.

    Employees who exercise and make healthy eating choices together may form a camaraderie due to the increased time spent together (either during lunch or after work) and shared goal. Not to mention, pursuing a common goal gives employees something to talk about.

    You can encourage employees to participate in a wellness program by offering incentives and including information about your program in your employee handbook. Also, you can turn your wellness program into a friendly competition between employees or departments.

    You can refer to this:

    resiliens.com/resilify/program/managing-workplace-burnout-and-stress

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    Escaping into the woods

    I am barely coping with my current life stressors, my anxiety and fear of losing people I love may have ruined the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had…. I made strides to heal myself, I actively use CBT, I have workbooks I use daily to continue to practice… I’m so used to people walking away that I over try with the ones I love and this time it caused me to overstep boundaries out of fear. I hate myself for it, I hate that no matter the amount of work, therapy and progress I have made… I couldn’t see past my blind fear or recognize my severe anxiety in my reactions and responses… it took me 3 weeks to get a hold of it, see it, understand what it was and now I fear that damage is done and it’s to late to save a relationship I truly deeply valued. I find myself retreating from the world and disappear into the woods for long hikes to process… I’ve accepted I can’t control the outcome it will be what it will be and all I can do is control myself and be okay regardless of the outcome. It hurts though so much #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #Therapy #AbuseSurvivors #GAD #MDD #Selfharm #ChildhoodTraumaSurvivors

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    I’m new here!

    Hi, my name is celle. I'm here because i’ve recently discovered that i have Borderline personality disorder its been really hard because im really in denial but i also wanna know more about the disorder even though i’ve already experienced half of it through my pre-teen years and i also wanna know more about my triggers so i can have a more stable relationship with my s/o

    #MightyTogether #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder

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