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More enough-ness

As a spoonie what I can do in a day has drastically changed compared to "before".
Even more frustrating; it also changes from day to day.
So this is a much needed reminder for an perfectionist like me:
Your best is good enough whatever that may look for you today.
And it also goes hand in hand with my post from yesterday about being enough.
I guess I am still working on accepting how different my "now" looks compared to my "before".
And I sometimes still get caught up in my previous standards for what enough is.
But I am also trying to remember that these standards actually resulted in me burning out.
They were NOT healthy!
So maybe it's okay to do things different now?
And settling into a new standard of adequacy.
I think that's the focus for today as I prepare to take my nap;)
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You are more than enough!!

I am feeling frazzled.
Also feeling on edge, high strung and anxious.
And it tends to make me feel like I'm not enough.
That I am wrong and less than...
But I don't wish to feel that way.
Because it hurts me even more.
It's like it adds insult to injury.
Like I am being kicked while already being down.
So this is a much needed reminder:
I AM ENOUGH!
And I do enough.
I am actually doing as well as I can under some truly hard circumstances.
And - just in case you haven't heard it lately - so are you!!
Plus: you are so, so, so enough!
You are actually more than enough.
And I am proud of you.
Just wanted to let you know that.
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A kind weekly reminder

I find this so challenging to remember.
I have a very anxious and apprehensive default mode.
Actually due to a personality disorder...
And I easily get caught up in worry and doom and gloom.
On top of this my depression morphs my experiences so everything seems more hopeless and worse than it is.
Not a good combination for thriving.
And I am very caught up in that right now.
So I needed the kind reminder that good things are also up ahead.
That everything isn't as bad as it may seem.
Maybe there can even be some good.
Some glimmers amongst all the triggers.
I sure hope so.
I wish you the best week possible - with LOADS of good things!!
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We made it! Wanna share a win?

We made it another week!
And however you got through; you got through.
I've had a very eventful week.
And I have some MAJOR changes and challenges in the horizon.
I want to thank you all for your support.
I feel more confident that I can get through everything having you all in my life.
And I want to say that I appreciate you A LOT!
And I also appreciate having some wins this week.
Do you want to take a moment and reflect on a win?
Or maybe a glimmer or some gratitude?
Share with us in the comments - if you'd like:)
As always; I'll get us started.
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Yes, change can be growth

So, I am wired and struggling mentally.
There are a lot of changes going on right now.
And change STRESSES ME OUT!
I am trying to handle it all by going slowly.
But it's still a lot happening in a short time span.
I think that change is a challenge for many sensitives.
And I am definitely sensitive.
I am trying to remind myself that I actually want and wish for some of these changes...
Also trying to remember that these changes can - and hopefully will - lead to good things for me.
But it doesn't make it much easier to be in.
And I am coming to the conclusion that I need to validate my discomfort and anxiety.
I need to be kind to myself and not make myself wrong or broken for experiencing negative reactions to change.
No, I am not an easy going person.
I am actually quite high strung...
But that doesn't make me wrong.
It "just" means I'll have to take this into consideration as I face these changes.
And practice being kind and gentle with myself and my feelings.
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Pingu asks a good question

"What if I can include myself in my circle of compassion?"
Made me think.
I want to do that.
Wouldn't it be nice?
To be compassionate towards myself like I am towards everyone else.
I am working on it.
It's an entirely new practice.
So it will take some time to manage it.
But easy does it.
And I am also working on being compassionate towards myself when I fail.
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Reminder for the week

Sometimes the most productive thing we can do is rest.
Recharge.
Regroup.
Reboot.
Recover.
I never used rest before.
And I burnt out.
My parents, schools and society showed me how to work, to push, to preform.
Not how to rest.
I didn't even think, I needed it.
But I did.
Now it's non-negotiable.
I can't function without it.
This is a kind reminder for you and for your week:
Remember to rest when you need - well preferably before you need it:)
Try to be proactive about rest.
I think that will do you good.
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We made it! Wanna share a win?

We made it yet again.
Another week has passed.
How did yours go?
However you got through, you got through!
Mine was filled with overstimulation...
I've been very high strung and on edge.
That happens when I've been busy and when I have attended an event.
And I am not going to be able to relax relax this weekend.
So I'll be carrying it with me for a while.
Ain't nothing new;)
But I've also had some wins.
I'll share one in the comments.
Do you wanna join and share a win, glimmer or gratitude from you week?
I would love to hear.
And I've heard many times now that others find it very uplifting to read your comments.
I for one need that hope it gives me to see others do well.
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That's a relief!

"You don't have to be good at something for it to be good for you"!
This was just such a relief for me to see in my Pinterest feed.
I am doing so much new - or trying to - with my coping strategies.
I am practicing whenever I remember that I can do differently and healthier from what I normally do.
It's just so hard.
Whoever said "Change doesn't come overnight", sure wasn't lying.
But I am also finding out that you don't have to be 100% "cured" (if there even is such a thing) in order to reap the benefits of you work.
No, no, no.
And thank goodness for that!
The benefits sometimes set in - in some degree at least - almost momentarily.
Like when I actually manage to think "I did my best and that's all I can do" instead of "I failed, I am so horrible", the benefits of shifting gears are felt almost right away.
"You don't have to be good at something for it to be good for you".
Again; thank goodness!
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Getting better at getting better

I had individual therapy yesterday.
And we went through my case formulation.
It lists a short background, my main issues, problem areas, and goals.
And it was very hard to see it all in black and white on a paper in front of me.
But it was also validating.
If you've seen my last two posts, you know I self-gaslight A LOT.
So I always belittle my struggles and beat myself up; "This is nothing. Why can't I just this and that...".
But seeing my many, very real and very considerable issues on paper, made me think;
"Well THIS is why I can't this and that. It makes sense. I am not being too much. I make sense. Maybe I am being too hard on myself?".
And I felt seen.
By my therapist.
And I felt that I thereby could see myself better.
And in a kinder light.
Yep, getting better at getting better:)
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