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And grace!

Things to give to yourself.
I have lacked these things most of my life.
So now I am trying to learn to give the good things to myself.
It's not easy.
It even feels wrong sometimes.
For instance;
Like I am doing something wrong when I give myself a break or show myself compassion.
But I'm not.
What I am doing is going up against a lot of hard wiring.
And a nervous system that's in high alert most of the time.
I've been told several times by professionals that I don't allow myself any wins or successes.
I minimize them all.
But now I am practicing giving myself more credit.
I even have a Accomplishment List on my phone.
So I try to give myself better things.
What good things would you like to give yourself?
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Comforting to read

I saw this on Pinterest and it gave me such comfort to read.
"Just because it is taking time, does not mean it is not working".
This healing journey of mine is certainly taking its time...
And sometimes I get discouraged.
Is it even working?
Am I getting any better?
Will my circumstances improve?
But then there are also the good moments.
The moments where I feel myself doing something different than I am used to.
Where I feel I have changed.
For the better.
Like when I succeed in showing myself a little grace.
Or manage to turn a toxic thought around.
So I'll keep at it.
Trying to believe I am doing what's best for me and my future.
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Reminder for your week

All we can ever do is our best.
And we all have different best's.
Plus our best looks different from day to day.
And also depending on the time of day for me.
Settling into the idea that our best is good enough is freeing and healing.
Because we can experience so much inner criticism, critique, judgment and harshness when it comes to what we're actually able to do.
Also because many of us have a clear recollection about what we were able to do "before".
And it's not the same as what we can do now.
But that shouldn't affect our worth.
We're still good people.
We're still worthy.
And we can still do our best.
However that may look this week.
I wish you the best week, you can have.
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We made it! Wanna share a win?

We did it!
It Friday.
Another week - check✔️
However you got through;
You got through!
And I am proud of you!!
This week was very challenging for me;
Haven't been in my familiar surroundings for 2 weeks now.
And I am totally lacking and missing my normal routine.
Which is very difficult for me to cope with.
So my mental health suffers.
Finally going home today.
And I am very much looking forward to that.
Do you want to share a win from your week in the comments?
Or some gratitude?
Or a glimmer?
As always; I'll get us started✨️🥳✨️
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Some days are just hard...

I'll even say;
Most days are just hard.
I have such a challenging psyche.
And I spend so very much energy staying afloat mentally and emotionally.
It takes a lot!
And I bet many of you can relate.
Something I'm learning now is how important self-compassion is on this hard journey.
Being kind to yourself instead of being mean to yourself (on top of everything else that's going on) really does make a monumental difference.
I am still really bad at being kind to myself.
But I am practicing!
And that's a win.
I hope you manage to show yourself some kindness today.
You deserve that and so much more.
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It's okay to rest

I sometimes call myself "The Hanging in There-Kitty".
Because that's what I do any day, all day;
Hang in there.
Sometimes for dear life, it feels like.
And it gets heavy.
I get tired.
And I need A LOT of rest.
Something else I've noticed:
Sometimes it's difficult to see the good in life when you're so busy hanging on.
So I really have to be vigilant about gratitude, glimmers and positivity.
Or else they simply slip me by.
I am not where I want to be with this... yet.
But I'm working on it!
And that's something else that's very important when you're busy hanging in there:
You gotta show yourself grace and self-compassion.
Because it is hard!
It does take a lot!
So we need kindness and compassion.
I hope you're hanging in there today.
And remember it's okay to rest.
And help yourself focus on the good.
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It's okay to feel

It may not be nice or pleasant at all.
But it's not wrong to feel.
Or to have emotions.
I learned to ignore and hide my feelings.
I was made wrong for having them.
Which was incredibly hard and hurtful.
Because I had a lot of feelings and emotions - plus I was extremely sensitive and anxious - which I needed help to find out how to process.
But I didn't learn that.
I was invalidated instead.
And made out to be wrong.
And that creates a deep wound.
One I am trying to heal now.
While trying to learn how to let my feelings come to the surface.
Whiteout being too scared of them.
Because they feel so overwhelming.
Today I take "It's okay to feel: Exhausted".
Because I am.
And that's okay to feel.
I am not wrong for feeling how I actually feel!
Neither are you!
Now, I'm going to take a nap.
I need that in my self-care smoothie;)
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Reminder for the week

What needs to go into your self-care smoothie?
I think this is a really cute idea.
And a very good way to think about self-care.
What do we need to drink in?
What do we need to give ourselves?
Some examples:
Compassion.
Caring self-talk.
Nourishing food.
Unconditional love.
Gentle, positive, kind, loving thoughts.
Time in nature.
Therapy.
Forgiveness.
I can sure do with some compassion, kind thoughts and therapy.
I'll also spend some time outside.
What do you need this week?
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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is BonJo. I'm here because I have an autistic child, considered high functioning but really just doesn’t have obvious autistic signs, mainly because she is on medication and has supports. The bigger reason I’m here is because my Mom fits the symptoms of BPD & Avoidant Personality Disorder….as dear as she is. I have also had deep grief and Limerance getting over friends I gave up for my betterment. I spend my time gardening, dog momming and taking care of family and house.

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Creative journal

A little sample of pages from my creative journal with stuff like zentangle, lists, drawings and creative journaling.
I try to make something every day.
I am very proud of having gotten back into being creative.
Anhedonia crushed my creative spirit for a long while.
But then I got inspired by a friend and got back into it.
Helped along by the purchase of a brand new, gorgeous notebook.
And a BIG pack of 80 dual markers, I got for my birthday.
PS: inspiration for many of the pages from Pinterest;)
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