borderlinediagnosis

You just got diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder and you are certainly wondering what is going next, what it means, how severe it is.

Here are some hints and clues from my own experience of this unexpected journey.

Being diagnosed BPD is unlike diagnostic of a disease. It is a dysfunctional illness affecting your mental health from a "standardized" scheme.

It doesn't turn you into some kind of freak or serial killer monster. You are and will remain a worthy human being able to contribute to the well being of this world.

In fact, until this diagnostic you were already suffering from BPD without being aware of it. It sets up very early in life because of trauma. And those traumas are not as awful as being abducted, raped, physically abused, etc. No, just feelings abuses, either voluntarily by a person or by mistake, because we all are imperfect human beings. There are some clues it can be genetically based too.

At a final stage, BPD is definitely set in you at teenage. Many, people like me could live with it, unnoticed, until age of 47. It all depends of various factors, making BPD a very unique illness to each of us.

Knowing this will help you putting words on it and help you understanding your behaviors.
Because BPD is mostly this, unexpected behaviors from a standard point of view.
It doesn't make us inferiors, in fact BPDs are known to be smart individuals, and we can still make a living.
We "just" (it is do easy to write 😆) need to learn to take care of ourselves. To me, this journey in rediscovering myself, taught me to share. I don't hold onto myself feelings as I was before. But only with trusted people. Obviously.

My first hint to start feeling better, rather than healing, which is not appropriate to BPD is:
LOVE YOURSELF!

Love yourself as much as it is missing. Hug your inner child for hours.
Laugh from your mistakes. Do not get upset when you break or drop something, it was meant to happen.
Forgive others to forgive yourself. Let it go.
Be true to yourself.

Once you have started this, be willing to get better. Engage yourself in therapy. Search for hints to improve your wellbeing.
PINTEREST has been - and is still - a great help to me. It even leads me here. 🙂

You may eventually use DAYLIO, an Android app to track you mood if you wish.

And never forget, you are NOT alone! ❤

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I used to be a very private person who kept to myself but since I broke down and was diagnosed etc I've moved to the other end of the spectrum and now tend to over share my difficulties.

boundaries are definitely problematic for me. I am now in a place where I'm beginning to make healthy connections with people such as at my volunteering roles, private health care workers (e.g. my orthotist) and my massage therapist.

as a result of the training I received from volunteering one of the main things they teach you is about boundaries. so I do logically understand them but I really struggle to put them into practice.

I've found myself casually saying to someone such as my massage therapist that I had self harmed (this was ages ago) and I didn't want to come in for the treatment due to the shame of what I'd done. the reason I overshare is usually to explain myself. I don't know how to do that without going into great detail.

can anyone relate? does anyone have advice?

thank you 💜

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