healingmyinnerchild

In order to heal from the trauma stories around the act of surrendering, Childhood Trauma Survivors must understand and internalize the fact that we have the power, privilege, and opportunity to determine what surrendering means to us and how it aligns with our authentic self. Consistent shadow work is a powerful tool many of us utilize to dismantle the trauma stories within the unconscious mind. To the survivors reading this passage, please ask yourself:

*How old were you when your personal power/right to choose was violated?

*How did you respond:

Psychologically (What thoughts came to your mind about yourself and others based on the violation that took place?)

Emotionally (How you felt based on the thoughts about yourself and others as a result of the violation)

Physically (What actions did you take/not take based on your psychological and emotional responses?)

*What would you like surrendering to mean and look like to you and your Inner Child/all your Inner Selves?

*What steps can you and your Inner Child/Inner Selves take to act upon your definition of what surrendering means and looks like?

And this message is for spiritual and religious leaders and mentors: Assume the folks seeking your wisdom have experienced trauma at some point in their lives. Telling them to “go with the flow,” “Give it to God,” or “Surrender to Spirit” is not enough for those who’ve had their boundaries crossed in an emotionally, verbally, physically, intellectually, and even sexually violent manner. This advice is particularly discouraging (and in some cases, insulting) to religious or spiritual trauma survivors. Therefore I implore you to:

*Ask them to envision what their version of surrendering looks like and what it entails

*Point out ways they’ve already begun the process of surrendering based on the decision they have made and the actions they’ve taken (i.e. making the decision to speak to you)

* And most importantly, remind them to take those changes one day at a time, the healing journey is a life-long commitment and one that isn’t linear.

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Doesn’t grieving abuse parents seem counterintuitive? What most people don’t realize (and what I didn’t know myself) was that you don’t just grieve your abusive parents. You grieve what you didn’t have, what you deserved to have. You grieve what you thought you had (though trauma bonds are toxic). You grieve the loss of safety, innocence, love. You grieve the losses that are yet to come (such as a parent going to jail). So as you can see, you grieve the few goods times you did have with them. Abusers don’t abuse all the time, they have days where they say the right things, do the right things. But it’s important to remember that they are still an abuser on all the other days. Yet, it is this conflicting information that causes the most pain and confusion. And it the processing of this pain and confusion that helps us to heal as painful as it might be. The only way out is through. #PTSD #traumasurviviors #ChildAbuse #SexualAbuse #abusiveparents #healingmyinnerchild

I wasn't literally an Ox, but there was a time I had the greatest of confidence. Now, just the thought of figuring out what's for dinner can be overwhelming.. I don't what happened to me, but I sure do I hope I can find some confidence again... Be happy.. In my own skin?! #Depression bites
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