It has been 3 years to the day tomorrow since I broke up with my toxic abusive ex I still can’t believe I wasted so much time with someone so horribly abusive she would scream at me for no reason if I did even the slightest thing she didn’t want me to do she would get angry if I couldn’t get her something or if I couldn’t afford it she would get angry and then generally hit me she even hit me so hard I’m the mouth once she knocked a filling out of my mouth but for me the last straw was she hit me then my neice no more then the age of 3 said why are you hitting my uncle Rob then my ex went to hit her I just reacted and slammed my ex against the wall as hard as I could then I said we are done get the hell out of my house from that moment on I felt a sense of relief she is finally gone the one thing I learned from that horrible relationship was how to see the right one the one you we’re always supposed to be in now 3 years later I’m in the greatest relationship with the best woman in the world a woman I’m so happy to call my fiancé she has helped me heal from so much she truly is a god sent an angel I was lost before my fiancé came into my life now I couldn’t imagine my life without her in it and I can honestly say I found my soulmate
I have 2 sons. 1 is 19 and is the biggest gentle bear u will ever come across. He is my protector my Jackie . Against all the abuse me and him endured with his dad he remains to be the quiestest kindest man u will ever meet. He has a brother . He is 17. He is so different. He is kind and caring but he has his opion and he doesnt care to tell u how he feels. He will argue and talk over coz he got a point to make. He my firecracker💥 he will fight the world. But tonight is the first time my jackie has gone to work. I know he doesnt talk to many and he will be tired tomora but im a proud mum but my nerves have gone into overdrive coz i need to protect this one. He is a loner and it scares me him not being here. Firecracker💥 went out tonight to see his gfriend and even thou he has aspergers and adhd i dnt worry abput him as much as my teddie bear jackie ppl say i lean on jackie too much but i dnt care. Firecracker💥 might get my attention and my hugs but jackie gets my heart. I love them bpth but in different ways. No more for one then the other..... #CheckInWithMe #BipolarDisorder #ChronicPain #PTSD
It can be said that abuse survivors often find their voice in speaking up. Some may speak up right away, others don't speak up for years after. For me, I didn't speak up until a few years ago. The abuse started when I was a child and carried on into adulthood. I am not sure why I didn't speak up sooner, I think maybe it's because I didn't know I was being abused. Now, after being out of the situation and working towards processing the trauma and my experiences I can say that speaking up has been one of the best things I could have done. It gave me a voice to my story and it gives me the motivation to keep healing. I am not saying that speaking up is for everyone, only that it has helped me. If you don't want to go to the authorities then tell a trusted friend or family member if you can. Telling anyone lifts the burden off your shoulders and you no longer have to carry the secret of the abuse with you. Guilt and shame are not yours to carry around. It took me a long time to reach a point where I can put the blame on my abusers. My hope is that I can be a voice for others and show them that they are in charge of their lives. You can live a happy and fulfilling life despite what was done to you. The trauma was not your responsibility but now you must take charge of your own healing. *Disclaimer: If you are in a physically unsafe situation then please seek help. No one deserves to be abused, ever.* Use your voice for your healing, even just writing it out can be liberating. I use writing all the time and it has helped tremendously. Whatever works for you, do it. Give a voice to your pain and allow yourself the grace to heal. There is no shame in speaking up. But only do so if you are safe. Stay thankful and blessed my friends:)
Gratitude is the ultimate game-changer. Incorporating “thank you” into all things, big or small, can do miracles in a person’s life. Who wouldn’t want that?
Saying “thank you” produces many surprising yet beautiful things. Some of these effects are even life-changing in so many ways. Gratitude is the act or a person’s quality of being appreciative or thankful. It can be an expressed thanks directed towards oneself or appreciation towards others.
Being grateful varies from person to person. Not all times can a person be thankful for something since not all days are full of sunshine and rainbows. There will always be those days when clouds cover the sun, and the person would feel the effect of the shadows more than the sunlight trying to break through.
So it goes in real life. It’s natural for a person to be all-day smiling and saying thank you for every tiny little thing when they’re having a good day, but it’s also human for a person to have not an ounce of will left to even whisper a “thanks” during a bad day. These bad days, albeit natural and realistic, are the challenges that need to be overcome with the power of gratitude.
Grace Maier-Crook’s Innerlight’s Eat and Drink My Words is a memoir, a poetry book about the inner self and a lifetime of verbal abuse experienced by the author. It shared how the author faced life’s adversities and managed to survive and live a happy life. There are so many things that a person can be grateful for in this life. And in the case of Grace Maier-Crook, gratefulness presented itself by being a survivor and winning over her life’s challenges.
The Power of “Thank You”
Not many people realize this, but many benefits can come from being grateful for every small thing, and some of these benefits are even miraculous-like. Some call being thankful counting blessings, and others call it optimistic.
Here are some of the fantastic payoffs of having a grateful character.
Increase Sense of Self-Esteem
Gratitude produces a positive impact on a person’s overall mental health, which includes boosting their self-esteem. A person with an appreciative outlook towards life will revert more towards optimistic feelings and thoughts rather than dwelling on negative perspectives. Gratitude builds resiliency against stress and insecurity, which can boost the sense of self-worth and self-esteem.
Gratitude is an effective tool against mental health problems, especially against anxiety and depression. Anxiety and depression are often linked to being self-critical, criticizing, attacking one’s self, or even self-punishing. Being grateful makes an individual gentler, more kind towards their shortcoming, and more compassionate.
If a person is less self-critical and less self-punishing, they become more at ease with whatever circumstances they find themselves in.
Invites Blessings to Come In
This is the law of attraction; people’s thoughts attract the same quality of life. Positive thinking harvest positive results and opportunities, while negative thinking produces negative consequences. Hence, the more a person is grateful and appreciative, the more they attract abundance and blessings in their life.
Start Cultivating a Grateful Attitude
It can be challenging to maintain a grateful character all the time, but it’s not something impossible to do. It all begins with having the right mindset and the will to do a life transformation.
Here are some tips to get a person down that road of gratitude-filled life.
One of the best practices to cultivate a grateful attitude is to keep a journal of everything beautiful that happened to the person. It could be noting down gifts, benefits, and all other things that a person received that made them feel good about themselves. The journal will be a constant reminder of all the positive things that happen to the person, which can help counter the effect of any bad day.
Mindfulness is the state of mind of being conscious and aware of the present moment. It is about acknowledging one’s actions, thoughts, and feelings coursing through their body.
Mindfulness can help a person get in touch with reality and see things differently. So, if a person is about to burst out in anger, mindfulness practice can help them step back, take a deep breath, and take a different route of action that they wouldn’t regret doing compared to doing things out of anger. Mindfulness can also help an individual shift through all the adversities and see the blessings and opportunities behind the challenges.
To practice mindfulness, start doing a simple meditation. Do some deep breathing techniques, and live in the moment, focused and rooted to the ground.
Prayers of Gratitude
Prayers of gratitude are often considered the most effective form of worship. The same with the law of attraction; when a person prays in thanksgiving, the more that they attract abundance and positive opportunities to flow into their lives. An individual could start by saying a simple prayer of thanks before or after each meal or if something good happened along the way.
Incorporate “Thank You” into Habits
This means saying “thank you” as a form of good manners or respect. When someone opens the door, the person walking in should say thank you. If a person receives a small token, they should say thank you. Always say thank you at any opportunity, whether big or small.
The Game-Changer Habit
Instilling a grateful heart and mind requires will, passion, and determination. It requires a mindset, a choice to live a life free from the binds and cuffs of negativity. Just think, the only thing that life needs from people to be happy and free is just one simple yet powerful phrase: and that phrase is a life-changing “thank you.”
Grace Maier Crook
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It's amazing what our brains can do. If we feed it something positive it can change our whole outlook. I recently typed up some affirmations revolving round trauma healing. But affirmations can be anything that motivates you and makes you feel good about yourself. They say it's important to recite them as much as possible. Repeating my affirmations affirms in me that the abuse wasn't my fault and that healing is possible. What do affirmations mean to you? Blessings friends:)
I’ve been dating a guy for 2 years and just found out he’s married! He got engaged right before we met then just got married in October. He was with me before and after his wedding!!! I’m in such shock I don’t even know what to say or how to handle a situation like this. I just feel so betrayed and I was only good enough as the second choice. I have extreme anxiety and this has put me into a very dark place. My soul is crushed. How can someone be so cruel and selfish? #Anxiety #cheating #mental abuse
Exactly 1 year ago today, I almost died. I almost died because after being verbally battered by my husband, I attempted suicide with the intent to die.
I had Covid, we already agreed on divorce, and I couldn't take it anymore. I truly believed that my kids would be better off without me. I believed his lies because I didn't know how not to.
Now I'm divorced, happily I might add, and for the first time I am learning my strength, my worth, my purpose, and that there is no way to do this alone. Also, that I have to face this monster of trauma so I have a chance at living. I'm free for the first time in 34 years.
I'd like to expand this aspect of my life.
Last night, I was taught a harsh truth. One that I was't prepared to hear but a truth nonetheless. I know I wrote about the sadness of coming from a broken family, but after much thought that truth struck a chord with me. Why cry over someone that wouldn't cry over you? What is there to miss about an abusive situation? I really had to think about these questions. My conclusion is that there is nothing to miss. Though I do miss a particular sibling I know that I will see him again some day. It's just a matter of time. Which brings me to my next point, mentality. I learned to turn my sadness into motivation to make myself better. Instead of wallowing in sadness I have decided to better myself. So you see? You can wallow in negativity or turn it into motivation for something else. It really is about how you look at life. I am so thankful for learning this truth. I am not sad anymore as I have turned it into motivation and determination. So if you are struggling, think about the lesson the emotion is teaching you. Then convert that emotion into something else. It is possible. I am so thankful for my family and all their love for me. I really am. So this thanksgiving, let's be thankful for the positives in our lives and spread this positivity. Wishing you all a safe and happy Thanksgiving. Blessings my friends:)