My mom kinda sucks but I struggle to articulate why.
Please read through this whole thing before you comment. (TW my mom medically abused me when I was a kid) It takes me a while to get my point across.
I don’t even know where to begin with my mom, things have escalated so terribly over the last few years, but what’s been bothering me today is that our cat apparently tried to scratch and bite her this morning and I wanted to call the vet to get their advice but my mom said, “if you call, you’re gonna get told something you don’t want to hear” and then continued to say that if we took her to the vet we should be prepared that they will want to put her down.
Our cat hasn’t hurt anyone before. The only person she’s been aggressive to recently is my mom, and that’s a RECENT development. My mom’s been obsessed with fighting our cat for dominance recently (“she needs to learn that this is MY house!”) which I think might’ve prompted the aggression. Cats are always gonna think they rule the house, that doesn’t make it true, and it doesn’t mean you should get on their level and fight it out!!!
It’s just stressing me out that she’s jumping to the worst case scenario and scaring us with it. It doesn’t make much sense that a vet would look to putting our cat down as the first option. But she’s always done this to me, like when I was little I would tell her I was hurting and she would threaten me that if we went to the doctor they would do something to me that I was scared of, like give me a shot or a blood test.
Now I’m old enough to know she was trying to scare me into not wanting to go to the doctor for reasons that are still unclear to me. (other than that she doesn’t believe in taking modern medicine or going to doctors). She worked so hard to keep me afraid of modern doctors, even though it was the alternative ones that hurt me the most ): I think moms are supposed to help you feel better, not intimidate you into not asking for help so you suffer in silence. I remember a whole summer of being in intense pain, and my mom would just tell me to put more essential oils on and take more probiotics. She should’ve taken me to a doctor, a real one. I hurt so bad I sat in my folding chair outside and couldn’t move.
This whole thing with our cat is just very stressful for me, so I decided to write about it here bc this is what a crisis counselor told me I might want to do so I can maybe have some support when things like this happen.
I just wish I had a mom who wanted to make her kids feel better instead of a mom who, for whatever reason, wants her kids to think that if we take our cat to the vet they will tell us to put her down. If that was even the case, why would she worry us with it? We all have intense stress and anxiety (including complex ptsd at the hands of her and my dad) and this is hitting us hard. I did call the vet and they said to bring her in for a check-up, so that’s obviously the first step! Why in the world would the first step be to put her down? And why in the world would she want to convince us of that before we even knew for sure?
I’m just really tired. I think I just need some comfort right now or something. She does and says so many weird and terrible things to me and my siblings. There is too much to tell.