I’m constantly apologizing for taking up space. I can’t even begin to tell you just how many times a day I say the words, “I’m sorry.” It’s like a reflex I can’t switch off. If I’m at the grocery store and take too long to grab an item, I’ll apologize. If I feel like I’ve said something wrong, I’ll apologize. Heck, if someone bumps into me, I’ll still utter, “I’m sorry.”
It’s a bit embarrassing, but I even find myself saying sorry to inanimate objects because the habit is that ingrained. It’s exhausting, and honestly, it’s something I’d really like to do less of.
I believe the reason I apologize so often stems from my fear of conflict. For most of my life, I grew into a people-pleaser. I’d always put others first before myself and say yes to pretty much everything.
If someone needed a ride, I’d be there. If someone needed a little extra cash, I’d somehow find a way to help. “You need me? I’m there for you” — that was always my mindset.
But honestly? It drained me. It made me feel small. I lost tiny pieces of myself every time I gave in a little more. I just wanted to fit in, to belong, to be part of the group instead of always being on the outside. I longed for acceptance, and I thought pleasing others was the only way to get it.
There’s a lot of underlying pain that comes with constant apologies. I’ve realized that every automatic “I’m sorry” shrinks my confidence and chips away at my self-worth — two things that are absolutely essential for mental well-being.
For me, it reinforces the belief that I’m a burden. That I take up too much space. And honestly? It makes me feel like no one takes me seriously — like my needs are inconveniences to everyone around me.
I’m working on breaking the apology habit. I want to be able to replace “sorry” with alternatives like:
• “I can’t right now.”
• “Thank you for waiting.”
• “I need time to think.”
It’s hard for my brain to understand how not to apologize because I’m so used to it. But I’m learning to pause before reacting out of reflex.
Being able to take up space without guilt is the affirmation I need. I have the right to speak, rest, ask, and set boundaries. I’m worthy — just as much as everyone else. Needing validation for my feelings isn’t something to be ashamed of; it’s human.
Growth begins with awareness, and every time I choose a kinder response instead of “I’m sorry,” I’m reclaiming the pieces of me that I thought were lost forever.
“Stop apologizing for taking up space. Your presence is valid, your voice matters, and your needs deserve attention.” — Unknown
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